Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic i need serious advise Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Descartes[/m] at 7:23 pm on July 5, 2009[quote]Confront him. Be open and honest.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post tj sprinkles Posted at 7:22 pm on July 5, 2009 i dont think my boyfriend cares anymore i dont kno wat to do he wont even call me unless i tell him to, i never get to see him,but he says he loves me.......can i have .....nice advise?

Replies blackarrow Posted at 5:26 am on July 6, 2009 Like people above have stated, confront him, see what up...he may be going through something that he doesn't feel comfortable about. Just see whats going on in his life... Bud2400 Posted at 3:06 am on July 6, 2009 Quote: from tj sprinkles at 7:38 pm on July 5, 2009 how would i tell him or even start to tell him ? Simple.  Ask him what he thinks about showing love toward others.  Get a general impression from him about what he thinks that's about - is it talking to somebody more?  Giving them more attention?  Actual affection, particularly touching and the like?  Simply saying "I love you"? If you do that, not only will you be clearer on how he shows loves (thereby giving you a better idea of whether or not he does care about you anymore), but you can communicate to him in that conversation about what you think that is.  In any case, if he cares, he'll care about what you think and I would anticipate in that case, he may try to make his love for you more obvious. But if he doesn't appear to care all that much after talking to him about that, you'll simply have to accept it.  You will want to talk to him about it in that case, and you may come off as sounding needy, but to be quite honest, a relationship requires the active maintenance of both parties in order for it to thrive.  If he's not pulling his own weight in the relationship, it's not going to work out at all.  You can naturally move into this subject from the one I mentioned above.  Don't shy away from it if you truly feel the need to bring it up either - you can't, and neither should you expect to keep a seemingly one-sided relationship going. nik1 Posted at 1:47 am on July 6, 2009 Some guys become indifferent and insensitive because their gf permitted it.  He may love you but he's not showing it.  However make sure you are not being too needy and demanding.  Communications is the key to good relationships.  Complacency becomes a bad habit that will eventually make a partner seek someone else that fulfills the need. You need to talk to him.  Tell him if the relationship is going to succeed that you need to talk in depth about what is good about it, what is bad about it and what needs to change.  Most guys don't like to talk about stuff like this but it is essential in my opinion.  If he loves you he will want to fix the problems.  If he gets everything he wants from you without any effort he will eventually get tired of it.   tj sprinkles Posted at 7:38 pm on July 5, 2009 how would i tell him or even start to tell him ? xxemoxdemonxx Posted at 7:30 pm on July 5, 2009 that is what happened with me and Ryan about a week ago. he broke up with me today :( Miami0429 Posted at 7:28 pm on July 5, 2009 Quote: from Descartes at 10:23 pm on July 5, 2009 Confront him. Be open and honest. Anamene Posted at 7:27 pm on July 5, 2009 if .. you can't tell him what's going on with you how is that a relationship? a relationship should be based on trust right? deuces13 Posted at 7:27 pm on July 5, 2009 Tell him how you feel tj sprinkles Posted at 7:25 pm on July 5, 2009 i dont want to sound like a winny baby and him get all mad Anamene Posted at 7:25 pm on July 5, 2009 sometimes my boyfriend gets like that to maybe hes just going through something else? you really just need to talk to him and find out what's going on, i hope everything works out :) SpRiNgS Posted at 7:25 pm on July 5, 2009 talking to him about your current situation is always the best thing to do virginia287 Posted at 7:25 pm on July 5, 2009 You have to be open and upfront with him...its easy to say "I love you" but its another thing to show someone you care by donating your time and energies towards them. If he doesn't give you a legitimate reason as to why he cares / why he is with you, perhaps its best to break it off. ilubbyoohh Posted at 7:23 pm on July 5, 2009 Gurl Just Sit down in talk to him about how yoooh feeelllin Descartes Posted at 7:23 pm on July 5, 2009 Confront him. Be open and honest. All 14 previous replies displayed.