This weekend my best friends roommate took an interest in me. He's 27 and seemed really nice. Except he came off as a little shy.
He said he wanted to come visit me (8 hours away) and when I said he can come but i have no place for him to stay, he asked for me to come back to San Diego more often.
Well, cool- I made a new friend.
Except the second I left her house... well not instantly, but the next day he started saying overly cheesy shit and sending me little cutesy post cards via MMS.
Stuff like "I am like 99% sure I like you... well no more like 100%"
its all AWEEEEEEEEEEEEEE except I'm not 14. I like him as a friend, but I have no idea how to tell him that he should stop.
Hes super nice, and I dont want to make things awkward between my friend and him since they are roomies but also i was VERY STARTLED and SHOCKED by his texting ways. He also asked to call me to talk to me to get to know me more.
I dont have interest in pursuing a relationship with him and im still a little weirded out by how he went from shy to no filter via text.
Kind of a turn off. So- what should I say to make sure Im not a bitch.
set up a time to talk to him and try to break down your feelings the best way you can basically visualize what you would like someone to say to you in this position that make sense sour?
that make sense sour?
i would like to eat at chili's tomorrow I recently made srs bank and would like to celebrate this you pay though. I want to be treated like a triumph, not a two dollar tramp :(
I recently made srs bank and would like to celebrate this
you pay though. I want to be treated like a triumph, not a two dollar tramp :(
Since he seems to communicate better via text than orally, it might be better to try and convey this by text. If you tell him on the phone, he'll likely say nothing, as he's shy. But if you text him, you give him the chance to communicate in a form which better suits him. I think if you do it by phone, he'll be left feeling stranded, as though he wasn't able to express himself to you...whatever it is he may have wanted to express. And via text, you don't have those uncomfortable pauses.
I think if you do it by phone, he'll be left feeling stranded, as though he wasn't able to express himself to you...whatever it is he may have wanted to express.
And via text, you don't have those uncomfortable pauses.
i told you to stop drinking you always hurt me when you drinking!
you always hurt me when you drinking!
Quote: from nutsaq at 11:01 pm on April 3, 2012 Aaron's idea is decent and it's probably the right way of doing things. I'm immature though and I like to mess with their head.y you treat me so bad josh
Aaron's idea is decent and it's probably the right way of doing things. I'm immature though and I like to mess with their head.
but in the long run if hes mature he'll appreciate the honesty and learn from it, I think
i will keep talking to him about religion- that scares most people away lol
Quote: from nutsaq at 10:47 pm on April 3, 2012 As much as I want to agree with the other comments, I can't. It isn't that easy to just tell someone, "Hey I don't like you that way. Got it?" Even though it is true, it isn't something that can be easily done unless you give zero fucks but in this case Sour cares and doesn't want to come off as a bitch. She still wants to keep him as a friend. My ideas probably suck ass, I know. I don't think there's an easy way to tell him that you only like him as a friend. It would suck big time if you got the wrong idea and he says he was just trying to be nice. That would look bad on you and you'd feel like a TOTAL bitch. I don't recommend leading him on or "going with it" just to be nice. Instead, maybe ignore him when he talks to you that way? Maybe when you're out with him, you can indirectly talk about a guy you like that isn't him lol I really don't know.being indirect doesnt work tbh as a dude, i prefer someone being straightforward yeah it sucks but ill get over it you know?
As much as I want to agree with the other comments, I can't. It isn't that easy to just tell someone, "Hey I don't like you that way. Got it?" Even though it is true, it isn't something that can be easily done unless you give zero fucks but in this case Sour cares and doesn't want to come off as a bitch. She still wants to keep him as a friend. My ideas probably suck ass, I know. I don't think there's an easy way to tell him that you only like him as a friend. It would suck big time if you got the wrong idea and he says he was just trying to be nice. That would look bad on you and you'd feel like a TOTAL bitch. I don't recommend leading him on or "going with it" just to be nice. Instead, maybe ignore him when he talks to you that way? Maybe when you're out with him, you can indirectly talk about a guy you like that isn't him lol I really don't know.
My ideas probably suck ass, I know. I don't think there's an easy way to tell him that you only like him as a friend. It would suck big time if you got the wrong idea and he says he was just trying to be nice. That would look bad on you and you'd feel like a TOTAL bitch. I don't recommend leading him on or "going with it" just to be nice. Instead, maybe ignore him when he talks to you that way? Maybe when you're out with him, you can indirectly talk about a guy you like that isn't him lol I really don't know.
as a dude, i prefer someone being straightforward
yeah it sucks but ill get over it you know?
It's a bit tricky to reject someone nicely. It isn't easy but if Sour really wants this guy to back off then maybe she should be direct. I guess maybe something like "I don't want to wreck our friendship. I think we'd be better as friends since I can't handle a relationship right now. And it wouldn't be fair to you if we were dating."
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