Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I caught a attitude Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]1i[/m] at 5:03 pm on May 30, 2012[quote]so what has been going on[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post danibaby Posted at 4:59 pm on May 30, 2012 with my girlfriend today, i was walking and she called my name 3 times and i finally turned around and im like what and she was asking me whats wrong and i kept ignoring her and i tried to walk away from her but she wouldnt let me and she kept rubbing my cheek and stuff. I havent seen her in like in 2 weeks,she couldve at least tried to call or make a effort to come see me so i was upset. I told her and she was like "awe and she explained to me whats been going on. I just feel like i should come first before anything else.

Replies Luxe Posted at 7:13 pm on May 30, 2012 Quote: from Friendship is Magic at 10:02 pm on May 30, 2012 judge not, lest ye be judged, cosmo brown ignoring the word of jesus you're a bad, terrible christian And I swear she just a made a topic about how unjudgemental she was... Friendship is Magic Posted at 7:02 pm on May 30, 2012 judge not, lest ye be judged, cosmo brown ignoring the word of jesus you're a bad, terrible christian Rastafarian Posted at 5:14 pm on May 30, 2012 Quote: from Cosmo Brown at 6:03 pm on May 30, 2012 Quote: from danibaby at 4:59 pm on May 30, 2012 I just feel like i should come first before anything else.   That. Is incredibly, INCREDIBLY selfish.   People have lives. They can't cater to your needs all the time. They need space. They have things to do. And you're even more in the wrong if she explained her situation to you and you didn't give a damn. You aren't being a good girlfriend if you're not listening and hearing her out and, most importantly, respecting her situation, whatever it was. http://www.golivewire.com/forums/peer-eoienbo-support-a.html We're back to this are we? She never specified "all the time, "don't know why you expect it to mean so. Wait what's that about reading and not giving a damn? Well look at your post, you're not doing a good job of listening and hearing her out either, I don't really care if you're just a randomer on the internet, but if you're trying to give support I would say this is a far cry from helpful. I don't get this, do you have this incessant need to put people down when they are feeling low already? Two weeks can be a big deal, and an explanation doesn't necessarily solve the problem of what happened. Not many people are two weeks busy without so much as a "Hey, I'm going to be really busy because of X" preliminary, especially to important who "should" be important to them. I totally don't understand how relationships are supposed to work in your head Renfield. Like the person feeling a bit sniffly about a situation should just suck it up, not say a damn word to anyone, and continue to not have a healthy relationship for them? Do you not understand that people have different needs than you? What if this chick feels like she should be first, or at the very least should be told what the fuck is going on with their partner, why is that invalid, and why does that justify being ignored by someone who supposedly likes her for two weeks? Do you address any of that? No, just call her selfish and then berate her by assuming that she isn't giving a damn. Jump to conclusions mat anyone. At least breast cancer hasn't made an appearance yet. On the actual topic OP: Yeah, it's probably not right that she ignored you for two weeks, I did that once to a girl, but that was because I was no longer really interested in her, and she was a crazy clingy bitch. Anyways, you can also get in touch with her about these things, so the onus isn't all on her in these regards. You can still call her and just get to know what is going on, like why she hasn't called you or hung out in awhile, or whatnot. However, I do believe that it is a legit issue you face here, and relationships are a two way street and one can't just up and leave without any explanation or anything and assume you'll be okay with it, at least it seems she was understanding, and perhaps her situation clarifies why, but personally, if I was interested in the relationship and the reason wasn't completely solid I would set a boundary that in the future I would like to know what the heck is going on that my partner will be busy and incommunicato for 2 weeks or whatever, it would certainly put my mind at ease before there is even a problem. divine judgement Posted at 5:03 pm on May 30, 2012 Play nice kiddy. melo Posted at 5:03 pm on May 30, 2012 Lol @ your signature. but no really, try to call her. 1i Posted at 5:03 pm on May 30, 2012 so what has been going on Heartfull Posted at 5:03 pm on May 30, 2012 Hun, wait, you shouldn't really expect her to put you first... I mean, she has family and all that shit to worry about... DW, she probs still loves you, just maybe don't be so upset by something she does :3 Cosmo Brown Posted at 5:03 pm on May 30, 2012 Quote: from danibaby at 4:59 pm on May 30, 2012 I just feel like i should come first before anything else. That. Is incredibly, INCREDIBLY selfish. People have lives. They can't cater to your needs all the time. They need space. They have things to do. And you're even more in the wrong if she explained her situation to you and you didn't give a damn. You aren't being a good girlfriend if you're not listening and hearing her out and, most importantly, respecting her situation, whatever it was. All 8 previous replies displayed.