Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic i like her, but i'm so confused Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]chickenpotpie[/m] at 5:51 pm on Feb. 1, 2006[quote]ok. U need to really talk to her about how u feel. If u dont some other guy might take her!! and if she really wants to know who wrote those letters then tell her it is u. dont worry about running ur freind relationship it will all come to u sooner or later.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post holysaiyan1 Posted at 5:43 pm on Feb. 1, 2006 there's this girl that i became really good friends with over first semester. we would sit together in all our classes that we had together (which were a lot) and we'd talk and walk to classes and back, and we got teased by our friends about how we were acting like a couple. well its now second semester, and i think i like her. we don't have any classes together, but since we live in the same building we still hang out, just not every day like before. long story short, i sent her a really sweet letter telling her that i knew she was going thru tough times (she was) and that she had someone who cared about her. i was chicken and signed it anonymous. she kind of got stressed out, cuz she was trying so hard to figure out who it was from. i sent her another letter a bit later, again anonymous, this time telling her how i felt about her. and she just got more stressed out trying to figure out who it was, and was really frustrated because i didn't leave good enough hints, i guess. basically, i'm afraid to talk to her about my feelings in person, because i'm afraid that she'll be angry or reject me, and it'll ruin our friendship. i'm so confused, help me!

Replies xcutioners Posted at 2:09 pm on Feb. 3, 2006 Quote: from holysaiyan1 at 5:04 pm on Feb. 3, 2006 Yeah... when I wrote that I was a bit stressed out  because of it and other stuff, so I wasn't the most mature.     Me and her were talking the other day, and she said that she hoped that she'd get another letter, and that whoever it was didn't give up.   I'm sorry if I sounded really whiny, but I guess that Phillip Adams was right when he said that "...people can do extraordinary things if they have the confidence or take the risks. Yet most people don't. They sit in front of the telly and treat life as if it goes on forever." Thanks for all your help, guys (and girls!) I need to stop being a baby and take a risk.  I just needed to vent my fears, that's all.   That's the spirit of a soldier earning Medal of Honor Uruz 7 Posted at 2:57 am on Feb. 3, 2006 Do things right - and it will work out. There's no such thing as good luck, thus I would not wish you so. Indeed Phillip Adams was so very right when he said that "...people can do extraordinary things if they have the confidence or take the risks. Yet most people don't. They sit in front of the telly and treat life as if it goes on forever." A perfect quotation for success in every single aspect  of life. holysaiyan1 Posted at 12:04 am on Feb. 3, 2006 Yeah... when I wrote that I was a bit stressed out  because of it and other stuff, so I wasn't the most mature.     Me and her were talking the other day, and she said that she hoped that she'd get another letter, and that whoever it was didn't give up.   I'm sorry if I sounded really whiny, but I guess that Phillip Adams was right when he said that "...people can do extraordinary things if they have the confidence or take the risks. Yet most people don't. They sit in front of the telly and treat life as if it goes on forever." Thanks for all your help, guys (and girls!) I need to stop being a baby and take a risk.  I just needed to vent my fears, that's all.   xcutioners Posted at 6:39 pm on Feb. 2, 2006 Basicall, you sent 2 spam mails to her and stress her out..? That's not cool but... she's probably interested~ So keep your mouth shut, hang on, & face her 1 on 1 Uruz 7 Posted at 6:04 pm on Feb. 2, 2006 And? If you're gonna just sit there and whine, chances are she'll hate you more. She's looking for the person, so you better do something about it, or she'll give up and end of story. Trust me, patience is a virtue, but there are many times we need to act quickly or you wanna wait for another bird to fly along? Stop talking about the what-ifs and write another note to her asking her to meet you at some location somewhere at some time. No need to tell your name, let her find out when she meets you. holysaiyan1 Posted at 9:17 pm on Feb. 1, 2006 Yeah, that's how I feel, but I denied it so many times because I felt like she'd be angry that it was me.  My friend who was helping me write the letters, she didn't understand why she was trying so hard to find out who it was so soon, and didn't just enjoy the attention.   I know I'm being a chicken about this, I'm afraid of the what-ifs... what if she doesn't want to be friends anymore, what if i screw it up, it's eating me up inside.  i want to tell, but i can't... sometimes i just feel like i want to never ever tell her it was me, and pretend like nothing happened. ahh i feel like i'm going crazy, wanting two opposite things at the same time.   (Edited by holysaiyan1 at 2:10 am on Feb. 2, 2006) gsnts725 Posted at 6:10 pm on Feb. 1, 2006 come on dude suck it up and tell her. be brave. =]. there's little risk and a high reward. emmy350 Posted at 6:07 pm on Feb. 1, 2006 Well, just tell you how you feel, what could you lose. If she really is your friend, you shouldn't lose your friendship. As, for the friendship changing, that will happen inevitably, because friendships always change. Why, would she be angry? I mean someone who she knows, is nice, likes her. I wouldn't be mad. Actually, I'd probably start liking them back too. Also, since she has gone 'crazy' trying to find out who it is, it would be good for you and her to tell her. Uruz 7 Posted at 5:54 pm on Feb. 1, 2006 You know, send her another letter asking her to meet you. If you leave them lost for too long, they'll really get lost and soon enough you can't find them either. chickenpotpie Posted at 5:51 pm on Feb. 1, 2006 ok. U need to really talk to her about how u feel. If u dont some other guy might take her!! and if she really wants to know who wrote those letters then tell her it is u. dont worry about running ur freind relationship it will all come to u sooner or later. Dramatic23 Posted at 5:48 pm on Feb. 1, 2006 you need to say something. seriously, it is not good to leave all that anonymous crap. it is just plain annoying and nerve-wracking. i can tell that you definitely have a chance. and i say go for it. and if she says no, she says no. you will still be friends. arcadianskye Posted at 5:45 pm on Feb. 1, 2006 look, if she was searchign that hard tryign to find out who did it, then she obvously has interst in you. so just suck it up and come out there and tell her. it will put her stress to an end and maybe you guys can get together. but make sure you explain it properly, otherwise she might think you're a bit chicken or lame. All 12 previous replies displayed.