Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Afraid of rejection Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]ssminow[/m] at 9:16 pm on Aug. 31, 2008[quote]the worst he could say is no., and if you dont ask the answer will still be no[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Super Duper Posted at 9:08 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 My dad is a very intimidating guy. He is also very mean a lot of the time, and I'm kind of afraid of him. I really want to ask him if I can order something online, but I'm afraid he'll get mad and say no. He's going to be home in a little bit and I want to ask him then, but I'm still kind of scared. I don't want to get rejected! What should I do!!?!??! And please don't reply saying ''just ask him'', because that is easier said than done for me.

Replies Miss Prophetess Posted at 9:33 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 *sighs* But what am I looking for?  Is it that she won't ask a friend for fear of rejection, also?  Because she said she wouldn't ask because it was "stupid". Young Deezy Posted at 9:30 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:30 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 That just brings me up the page further. What is your point? Scroll down a little bit. Miss Prophetess Posted at 9:30 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 That just brings me up the page further. What is your point? Super Duper Posted at 9:28 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:25 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:21 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:19 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:18 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:16 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:13 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I know...no need to shout with caps.     It's just, I can understand fear of rejection in the asking someone out sense; but fear of being rejected from ordering something online? Can you do it without him knowing it? Get a friend to do it for you and pay them for it?           I AM AFRAID OF REJECTION, NO MATTER WHAT I AM ASKING FOR, THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT I WILL GET REJECTED.     And come the hell on, obviously I don't want something delivered to my house without my parents knowing.           Think outside the box.    Next time DON'T SCREAM AT PEOPLE WHO ARE TRYING TO HELP.    How is it OBVIOUS you didn't want it sent to your house without your parents knowing? You didn't mention it, so how was it obvious?    I noticed you didn't address my "ask a friend to order it for you" advice...       Ok, are you really that fucking retarded?       It's pretty much common sense that I WANT TO ASK MY DAD AND NOT SECRETLY ORDER SOMETHING ONLINE.       No I'm not going to ask a fucking friend to do something stupid like that.         Why is it stupid? If they do it for you, then you'll be getting what you want, AND you won't have to ask your father.   Really, it's a good solution.    Not everyone has friends that will do every little thing for them. And not everyone has a Brady Bunch family. You could have said from the start that you didn't have a friend who would do it for you, right when I suggested it. And I didn't infer that I thought everyone had a "Brady Bunch family", what did I say to make you think otherwise? Here ya go, genius. http://www.golivewire.com/forums/peer-yaiiyas-support-yn.html#19 Miss Prophetess Posted at 9:27 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:25 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:24 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:21 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:19 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:15 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from HateParents at 9:12 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:10 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 What's so bad about him saying no?  It's not like he'll throw things at you or something...or will he?     Some of you people obviously haven't experienced much shitty parenting.           Pardon me, but she hadn't inferred that her father was abusive, so I said "it's not like he'll throw something at her" to show it wouldn't be so bad.    I said he is a very intimidating guy, and he is mean a lot.    Seriously, just get out of the topic.       You seem to be able to voice yourself pretty well, or is it just that your anger can only come out through the Internet, and at home you're repressed from fear of your father?       If you're able to scream and bitch at me, you should be able to do it back to your father!     Your a bunch of typed up words, my dad is a real life 6 foot 200 pound man.   I want to ask something from my dad, not yell at him.   And that goes back to me saying I am afraid of rejection. Your overall argument fails.    It wasn't an argument, really.  I was just stating that if you're able to voice yourself so easily on here, it's a start to not being intimidated by your father.  A small start, but still.  Wouldn't it be better if you weren't cowering in front of him constantly?    And you want to ask him, okay, then it's a matter of whether you're too scared to ask or whether you'll eventually just do it whenever you feel the time is right.  THIS IS THE INTERNET, THIS IS NOT REAL LIFE.   I've known my father for 16 years, I've known you for 16 minutes. That is a HUGE DIFFERENCE. Very true.  Please calm down, it is, after all, just the Internet. :) What I said was "it's a small start".  Really, it is!  If you're able to voice yourself on here, you can work your way up!  Unless you think it's impossible, which would mean you're defeated already. Miss Prophetess Posted at 9:25 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:21 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:19 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:18 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:16 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:13 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I know...no need to shout with caps.           It's just, I can understand fear of rejection in the asking someone out sense; but fear of being rejected from ordering something online?  Can you do it without him knowing it?  Get a friend to do it for you and pay them for it?     I AM AFRAID OF REJECTION, NO MATTER WHAT I AM ASKING FOR, THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT I WILL GET REJECTED.          And come the hell on, obviously I don't want something delivered to my house without my parents knowing.    Think outside the box.       Next time DON'T SCREAM AT PEOPLE WHO ARE TRYING TO HELP.       How is it OBVIOUS you didn't want it sent to your house without your parents knowing?  You didn't mention it, so how was it obvious?       I noticed you didn't address my "ask a friend to order it for you" advice...   Ok, are you really that fucking retarded?   It's pretty much common sense that I WANT TO ASK MY DAD AND NOT SECRETLY ORDER SOMETHING ONLINE.   No I'm not going to ask a fucking friend to do something stupid like that.      Why is it stupid?  If they do it for you, then you'll be getting what you want, AND you won't have to ask your father.    Really, it's a good solution. Not everyone has friends that will do every little thing for them. And not everyone has a Brady Bunch family. You could have said from the start that you didn't have a friend who would do it for you, right when I suggested it. And I didn't infer that I thought everyone had a "Brady Bunch family", what did I say to make you think otherwise? Super Duper Posted at 9:25 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:24 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:21 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:19 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:15 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from HateParents at 9:12 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:10 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 What's so bad about him saying no? It's not like he'll throw things at you or something...or will he?           Some of you people obviously haven't experienced much shitty parenting.    Pardon me, but she hadn't inferred that her father was abusive, so I said "it's not like he'll throw something at her" to show it wouldn't be so bad.       I said he is a very intimidating guy, and he is mean a lot.       Seriously, just get out of the topic.   You seem to be able to voice yourself pretty well, or is it just that your anger can only come out through the Internet, and at home you're repressed from fear of your father?   If you're able to scream and bitch at me, you should be able to do it back to your father!    Your a bunch of typed up words, my dad is a real life 6 foot 200 pound man.    I want to ask something from my dad, not yell at him.    And that goes back to me saying I am afraid of rejection. Your overall argument fails. It wasn't an argument, really. I was just stating that if you're able to voice yourself so easily on here, it's a start to not being intimidated by your father. A small start, but still. Wouldn't it be better if you weren't cowering in front of him constantly? And you want to ask him, okay, then it's a matter of whether you're too scared to ask or whether you'll eventually just do it whenever you feel the time is right. THIS IS THE INTERNET, THIS IS NOT REAL LIFE. I've known my father for 16 years, I've known you for 16 minutes. That is a HUGE DIFFERENCE. Miss Prophetess Posted at 9:24 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:21 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:19 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:15 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from HateParents at 9:12 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:10 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 What's so bad about him saying no?  It's not like he'll throw things at you or something...or will he?    Some of you people obviously haven't experienced much shitty parenting.       Pardon me, but she hadn't inferred that her father was abusive, so I said "it's not like he'll throw something at her" to show it wouldn't be so bad.   I said he is a very intimidating guy, and he is mean a lot.   Seriously, just get out of the topic.    You seem to be able to voice yourself pretty well, or is it just that your anger can only come out through the Internet, and at home you're repressed from fear of your father?    If you're able to scream and bitch at me, you should be able to do it back to your father!   Your a bunch of typed up words, my dad is a real life 6 foot 200 pound man. I want to ask something from my dad, not yell at him. And that goes back to me saying I am afraid of rejection. Your overall argument fails. It wasn't an argument, really.  I was just stating that if you're able to voice yourself so easily on here, it's a start to not being intimidated by your father.  A small start, but still.  Wouldn't it be better if you weren't cowering in front of him constantly? And you want to ask him, okay, then it's a matter of whether you're too scared to ask or whether you'll eventually just do it whenever you feel the time is right. whips handcuffs Posted at 9:23 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 if your fear of rejection is that out of control, i think i'd worry more about finding a therapist personally... and i don't see the problem with asking a friend to get it for you. Super Duper Posted at 9:21 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:19 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:18 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:16 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:13 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I know...no need to shout with caps.    It's just, I can understand fear of rejection in the asking someone out sense; but fear of being rejected from ordering something online? Can you do it without him knowing it? Get a friend to do it for you and pay them for it?        I AM AFRAID OF REJECTION, NO MATTER WHAT I AM ASKING FOR, THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT I WILL GET REJECTED.   And come the hell on, obviously I don't want something delivered to my house without my parents knowing.       Think outside the box.   Next time DON'T SCREAM AT PEOPLE WHO ARE TRYING TO HELP.   How is it OBVIOUS you didn't want it sent to your house without your parents knowing? You didn't mention it, so how was it obvious?   I noticed you didn't address my "ask a friend to order it for you" advice...    Ok, are you really that fucking retarded?    It's pretty much common sense that I WANT TO ASK MY DAD AND NOT SECRETLY ORDER SOMETHING ONLINE.    No I'm not going to ask a fucking friend to do something stupid like that.     Why is it stupid? If they do it for you, then you'll be getting what you want, AND you won't have to ask your father. Really, it's a good solution. Not everyone has friends that will do every little thing for them. And not everyone has a Brady Bunch family. Super Duper Posted at 9:21 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:19 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:15 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from HateParents at 9:12 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:10 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 What's so bad about him saying no? It's not like he'll throw things at you or something...or will he?       Some of you people obviously haven't experienced much shitty parenting.   Pardon me, but she hadn't inferred that her father was abusive, so I said "it's not like he'll throw something at her" to show it wouldn't be so bad.    I said he is a very intimidating guy, and he is mean a lot.    Seriously, just get out of the topic. You seem to be able to voice yourself pretty well, or is it just that your anger can only come out through the Internet, and at home you're repressed from fear of your father? If you're able to scream and bitch at me, you should be able to do it back to your father! Your a bunch of typed up words, my dad is a real life 6 foot 200 pound man. I want to ask something from my dad, not yell at him. And that goes back to me saying I am afraid of rejection. Your overall argument fails. Miss Prophetess Posted at 9:19 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:18 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:16 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:13 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I know...no need to shout with caps.       It's just, I can understand fear of rejection in the asking someone out sense; but fear of being rejected from ordering something online?  Can you do it without him knowing it?  Get a friend to do it for you and pay them for it?   I AM AFRAID OF REJECTION, NO MATTER WHAT I AM ASKING FOR, THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT I WILL GET REJECTED.       And come the hell on, obviously I don't want something delivered to my house without my parents knowing.   Think outside the box.    Next time DON'T SCREAM AT PEOPLE WHO ARE TRYING TO HELP.    How is it OBVIOUS you didn't want it sent to your house without your parents knowing?  You didn't mention it, so how was it obvious?    I noticed you didn't address my "ask a friend to order it for you" advice... Ok, are you really that fucking retarded? It's pretty much common sense that I WANT TO ASK MY DAD AND NOT SECRETLY ORDER SOMETHING ONLINE. No I'm not going to ask a fucking friend to do something stupid like that. Why is it stupid?  If they do it for you, then you'll be getting what you want, AND you won't have to ask your father. Really, it's a good solution. Miss Prophetess Posted at 9:19 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:15 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from HateParents at 9:12 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:10 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 What's so bad about him saying no?  It's not like he'll throw things at you or something...or will he?   Some of you people obviously haven't experienced much shitty parenting.    Pardon me, but she hadn't inferred that her father was abusive, so I said "it's not like he'll throw something at her" to show it wouldn't be so bad. I said he is a very intimidating guy, and he is mean a lot. Seriously, just get out of the topic. You seem to be able to voice yourself pretty well, or is it just that your anger can only come out through the Internet, and at home you're repressed from fear of your father? If you're able to scream and bitch at me, you should be able to do it back to your father!   Super Duper Posted at 9:18 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:16 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:13 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I know...no need to shout with caps.   It's just, I can understand fear of rejection in the asking someone out sense; but fear of being rejected from ordering something online? Can you do it without him knowing it? Get a friend to do it for you and pay them for it?     I AM AFRAID OF REJECTION, NO MATTER WHAT I AM ASKING FOR, THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT I WILL GET REJECTED.  And come the hell on, obviously I don't want something delivered to my house without my parents knowing.    Think outside the box. Next time DON'T SCREAM AT PEOPLE WHO ARE TRYING TO HELP. How is it OBVIOUS you didn't want it sent to your house without your parents knowing? You didn't mention it, so how was it obvious? I noticed you didn't address my "ask a friend to order it for you" advice... Ok, are you really that fucking retarded? It's pretty much common sense that I WANT TO ASK MY DAD AND NOT SECRETLY ORDER SOMETHING ONLINE. No I'm not going to ask a fucking friend to do something stupid like that. Miss Prophetess Posted at 9:16 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Super Duper at 9:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 9:13 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I know...no need to shout with caps.    It's just, I can understand fear of rejection in the asking someone out sense; but fear of being rejected from ordering something online?  Can you do it without him knowing it?  Get a friend to do it for you and pay them for it?  I AM AFRAID OF REJECTION, NO MATTER WHAT I AM ASKING FOR, THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT I WILL GET REJECTED.   And come the hell on, obviously I don't want something delivered to my house without my parents knowing. Think outside the box. Next time DON'T SCREAM AT PEOPLE WHO ARE TRYING TO HELP. How is it OBVIOUS you didn't want it sent to your house without your parents knowing?  You didn't mention it, so how was it obvious? I noticed you didn't address my "ask a friend to order it for you" advice... Most recent 15 of 31 previous replies displayed.