Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Just want to be a recluse again. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]420mike[/m] at 7:27 am on Sep. 22, 2008[quote]I'm in the same position as you.  But i'm getting better because a really good guy told me what to look out for.  I know you can find others like you around.  We might be a minority, but were around.   I think the hardest part is getting the timing right.  If they don't look busy or are eating alone just walk up and introduce yourself.  They arn't going to be repulsed I promise!  Especially if you ask them would you mind eating with me.  Or in class, an easy way to start conversation is to discuss the subject matter.  Then the next time you see them if they don't start the conversation talk about something thats really been bothering you.  And ask them if they feel the same, or what bothers them.  Once you know eachothers pet-peeves it's surely bound to go in the right direction.  If all else fails say something completely random and silly :) A good ice breaker. Just don't say you wanna give up! I felt the same way for so long, and really did give up.  And nothing gets better from it.  Trust me, I still hate being rejected as much as I always have.  But you're not gonna find out who will reject you without ever meeting them ya know?[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Ad libitum Posted at 7:09 am on Sep. 22, 2008 Started uni, and one of the reasons was to meet new people, but I just can't do it anymore. I try and give humanity a chance, after all that's happened in the past where people have constantly betrayed, lied and rejected me, but I just find myself so bitter about any social experience. Like today, I had an induction at Uni, and well, everyone was going off into their cliche groups and I felt like I didn't fit. Then they were talking about drinking, and I don't really like it at all (I'm bitter about the effects it has on people, such as my mother who is an alcoholic), and it seemed the only way to fit in was to be 'cool' and go with them. I've done a bit of give and take whilst here - I went to a nightclub twice as an ice breaker with my flat mates (we're still not getting on, but that's another story). I just feel cheated I guess   I don't drink, therefore I might aswell socially alienate myself from now on before everyone else does. As history repeats itself, rejection will sure be on the cards. I'll protect myself by shutting down from the world before people give up on me. There's just no point anymore. Sorry about the rant, I just feel like crying.

Replies bopass Posted at 7:49 am on Sep. 22, 2008 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Stud Muffin Posted at 7:34 am on Sep. 22, 2008 I'm one of those people too, introverts, or whatever. 420mike Posted at 7:27 am on Sep. 22, 2008 I'm in the same position as you.  But i'm getting better because a really good guy told me what to look out for.  I know you can find others like you around.  We might be a minority, but were around.   I think the hardest part is getting the timing right.  If they don't look busy or are eating alone just walk up and introduce yourself.  They arn't going to be repulsed I promise!  Especially if you ask them would you mind eating with me.  Or in class, an easy way to start conversation is to discuss the subject matter.  Then the next time you see them if they don't start the conversation talk about something thats really been bothering you.  And ask them if they feel the same, or what bothers them.  Once you know eachothers pet-peeves it's surely bound to go in the right direction.  If all else fails say something completely random and silly :) A good ice breaker. Just don't say you wanna give up! I felt the same way for so long, and really did give up.  And nothing gets better from it.  Trust me, I still hate being rejected as much as I always have.  But you're not gonna find out who will reject you without ever meeting them ya know? 420mike Posted at 7:18 am on Sep. 22, 2008 Being introverted isn't as bad as you may think. The world isn't full of fun and games, it's a serious place. Don't get down about not socializing in big groups because thats not who you are based on your personality. Do you enjoy one on one conversation? Getting to REALLY know one person rather than hanging out with a group and mingling with all? If you do thats perfectly normal. THats how I am as well. You have to try and find the other introverts around you, and you know how because you are one! Look for the quiet type, maybe even looking down (because they also feel awkward) and go talk to them. I personally say fuck groups. There is so much more to one person than an entire group of friends. You just have to find them! And with determination I know you'll do fine. Acid World Posted at 7:11 am on Sep. 22, 2008 I met a girl at a party with lots of beer and drunks that said she didn't drink. All 5 previous replies displayed.