Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic i'm stuck- growing up in abuse Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]spartan09[/m] at 8:07 pm on Nov. 11, 2008[quote]Call Loveline and talk to Dr. Drew. Every weekday night (11-1 EST) he answers questions: 1-800-LOVE191. He's really awesome- try it[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 8:05 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 I'm so stuck! I literally cannot talk in therapy. My dad abused and raped me from age 3 till i moved out at 18. I had issues with my mom too. i don't know how i'm going to get better if i can't talk about it. I can talk to people i don't know, and i think i need to start with that but i've never talked to anyone about it. does anyone have an advice?

Replies tell me again Posted at 8:22 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 I'm so sorry to hear that. I know how you feel. I was the same, and I couldn't talk about anything serious to anyone. I literally couldn't speak. I'll tell you what it's been like for me, and hopefully it can work for you too. I told things online first, posting on anonymous forums. It sounded so weird to say things in words, even in my head. Soon these narratives of my life turned into scripts that I could almost recite without feeling the emotional impact of. That made it easier to say. I didn't really get counselling for everything that's happened to me. But it was the online wording, and the talking in my mind that gave me practice for saying anything out aloud, vocally. When you put things into words, it becomes easier to re-say, than to construct the sentences on the spot, in an intimidating situation. I had a few people that I felt somewhat closer to in real life. I didn't tell them things, but I would pretend to tell them. I'd say it in my head. Visualise the feeling of saying it. Again, this is like practice, and it gets you used to saying it to someone. Another thing is that I find really painful memories are hard to say because even if you've already worded it, it doesn't buffer you from the emotional effects so you feel like you're gonna fall apart. I begun by saying things indirectly, hinting at things. I didn't do this deliberately, but I found that talking about things indirectly was just easier and I tended to do that. I minimised problems when I talked about them, and I talked around things. Therapists are (hopefully) sensitive to picking that up, and slowly you can work towards being direct about your issues. I hope that helps. Feel free to PM me and let me know how it goes, or if it doesn't help we can work something else out. Good luck. AcidSilence Posted at 8:11 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Dr. Drew IS really really good. Try him. ss454 Posted at 8:11 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Quote: from spartan09 at 11:07 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Call Loveline and talk to Dr. Drew. Every weekday night (11-1 EST) he answers questions: 1-800-LOVE191. He's really awesome- try it Holy shit I've never seen anybody who has heard Loveline Yahtzee Posted at 8:08 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 tell your friend about it or other family. Everlongx Posted at 8:07 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Part of me thinks this is bullshit. But the other part says it's not. For me, its always been easiest to talk to strangers. bratalvarado Posted at 8:07 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 if i was u i wuold tell yo friend about it and c if he has any advice callmeprincess Posted at 8:07 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 talk. like, to friends, family, etc. maybe confront ur dad? katjassidekick Posted at 8:07 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Do you want to talk about it? Need some advice? I prefer you PM me. spartan09 Posted at 8:07 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Call Loveline and talk to Dr. Drew. Every weekday night (11-1 EST) he answers questions: 1-800-LOVE191. He's really awesome- try it zombie4life Posted at 8:06 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 why cant u talk in therapy? All 10 previous replies displayed.