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CrazyGrrl4U Posted at 2:05 pm on Nov. 22, 2008
My parent have been divorced for almost 11yrs and my my dad has common law relationship for 10yrs thats i have accepted bc it happened so long ago.. but after 11yrs of being single my mom is finally dating someone and i totally dont like the situation.. ive gotten used just being my mom, my brother and i and now theres this strange man in the mix and its really hard to accept.. how should i handle this situation.. whenever hes around  i  just ignore him when he talks to me.. my mom tells me to be nice and polite but its hard for me..
am i wrong for acting this way? should i give him a chance?

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Deeznutz FYC Posted at 9:34 pm on Nov. 22, 2008
You have to remember that your mom has her own life, and she wants to have fun too. She's a grown woman, you have to learn to accept that.

Having a new fatherly figure around the house is tough, but you have to try your best to think of your mom's happiness and at least try to get along with her new boyfriend. One day if you see her boyfriend sitting down watching TV by himself, try to sit down with him and get to know him a little bit. If you absolutely really grow to hate him, and the whole thing doesn't work out for you, I recommend you to keep avoiding him, and just have an acquaintance-like relationship with him. Everybody deserves a chance, you have to remember that.

I hope everything works out for you.

Hash Brownies Posted at 2:14 pm on Nov. 22, 2008
Listen, I know its hard to except.. fuck I mean my parents got divorced when I was 10 years old, and my mum met some guy who i've been living with ever since. Its hard to adapt to the situation but just give it some time. You aren't wrong at all for thinking like this, hes a new person you don't know or trust coming into your family. Have you ever thought that he also might be feeling nervous about the whole situation, having to bond with teenager kids isn't easy at all and heck, hes trying by at least talking to you, so give the guy some respect and talk back to him.. you don't have to hug or kiss him or whatever, just talk to him and like your mom said, be polite even if you don't like the situation.
Whatever you do, don't be selfish and screw up your moms relationship.. just talk to him, get to know him and if you want ask if the whole family can go out together.. and try and bond with him.  

Pm yo, if you wanna talk about things.

Let It Snow Posted at 2:11 pm on Nov. 22, 2008
I'm in the same situation.
All I try to do is at least smile at him, keep the talking to a minimum.
Other than that, I hide out in my room.
Quantumleaper Posted at 2:07 pm on Nov. 22, 2008
move out...if my mom ever got a BF i'd be long gone
Autumnal Posted at 2:07 pm on Nov. 22, 2008
Try and give him a chance for your Mum. She must feel lonely sometimes even though she does have you and your brother. What will she do when you two have left home?
You should at least give him a chance, then you can say you have tried. You never know, you might end up getting on really well!
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