Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I am scared Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Jman19[/m] at 11:36 pm on Nov. 28, 2008[quote]He sounds like a prick who needs anger management classes. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 11:34 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 My brother attacked me - AGAIN.   I can't deal with this anymore. I just can't.   I was watching a movie in the living room, minding my own business when he comes in and says he wants to check what's on tomorrow. I said fine. Then he sees some TV show that he wants to watch, but I was already watching my movie, so I told him to go look it up on the internet.   He got all pissed off and was acting like a jerk - like every time I would turn my movie back on, he would turn it off again. And my mom was there watching the whole action.   So then, he walked over to the power bar and turned it off. I walked over to turn it back on again and he attacked me. My mother tried to intervene, but he's way stronger than she is, so I tried to kick him in the nuts to get him away from me.   This just made him angrier, so he went after me again and started punching me in the face.   So, I grabbed the poker stick from the fireplace and ran behind the armchair to get away.   And now he's blaming me, saying that he only went after me because I tried to kick him in the crotch - which I did, but it was because he came after me and I tried to defend myself.   I can't take this anymore. He's done this more than once and it's always been over ridiculous things. He smashed my calculator and I got mad at him for it, so he slammed me into a wall and started beating me. Once, I had my iPod in and apparently the clicker was too loud for his liking, so he came over and tried to take it. I pushed him away, so he started choking me.   He is also emotionally abusive - he tells me all the time how lazy I am, how ugly I am, how unpopular I must be because I never have friends over (because, like me, they're all in university and are too busy), how stupid I am and how my chosen career (acting) is stupid and I'll never make it and he laughs at my classes and tells me how easy they are.   I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does. I was constantly bullied in junior high school and was completely ostracized by almost all of my classmates throughout junior high and high school.   I don't know what to do. He always tries to justify his actions by saying that I started it, like pushing him away from me justifies him punching me in the face.   My parents act like it's my fault too. I know that I do have a part in it - like, I could have let him watch his tv show and watched my movies later, but he was being a jerk to me today so I didn't want to - but how on EARTH does that qualify such abuse? I can't take it. I have thought about killing myself more than once to get away from it. I don't know what to do. I have so much anger towards him.   I am still crying so hard I am hyperventilating.   He always claims that he does it because I threaten to hurt him (like I said that if he came near me, I would hit him with the poker from the fire) but it is because I am scared. I am a lot shorter than he is and I am terrified because he gets in such a rage. He could break my neck if he felt so inclined.   Then, when I get upset, he makes all these snide comments like "Should I get you a violin?"   I just don't know what to do.

Replies ManiacPenguins Posted at 4:23 am on Nov. 30, 2008 I am glad to have helped. :) Anonymous Posted at 11:58 pm on Nov. 29, 2008 Thank you for all of your help. I did not call the police last night, but I have been staying out of his way today. I have bruises - one on my temple and cheekbone, one of my thigh, two on my hands and a nice golfball sized lump complete with bruise on my shoulder. My parents have agreed to family therapy, so hopefully we can figure this out. If not, then I need to move. Thanks everybody. ManiacPenguins Posted at 2:32 pm on Nov. 29, 2008 Although this may sound like a bad solution, if you don't fight back, then there is no way that your brother, or more importantly, your parents, can blame it on you. Otherwise, just go to a place, like your room, and lock the door. If he can't hurt you, then you are safe until you can speak to your parents about his behavior. If this continues, and you have bruises or other visible proof of him hurting you, then you need to go the police. If he doesn't stop this, there's a good chance it could continue, and perhaps even go as far as breaking a bone, or worse, killing you. As far as him emotionally abusing you, there's not much else to do except block it out. Remind yourself of the truth, that you aren't lazy, ugly, etc... As with many emotionally abusive people, they want to get a rise out of you. If they don't get the reaction that they want from hurting you, then abusing you won't be as satisfactory to them. You need to either contact the police, or contact child services. Child services can determine if your house is not a safe place to be, which would be evident from bruises, cuts, etc... I hope this helps, Peter bmxboy Posted at 12:57 am on Nov. 29, 2008 i know this sound really bad but stay out of his way! follow some of the previous coments like seeing a counselor, i know how embarasing it seems but if you have considered killing yourself then its more than worth it. If you want to be an actor good for you, if you have the skills and determination im sure you can make it! make sure you and you friends make time out of school 4 each other - it may seem like you have no time but you could have spent the time you were watching the film ut with them? i think having them on your side (even if you dont mention it to them) will help you alot! Mention to your mum that if he does something again you will take actions (its probably best if your brothers not in the room) if you ever feel on the verge of killing yourself, forget Livewire, call childline and they will be able to help you! agerask Posted at 11:52 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 if you have a school counselor, now would be the time to invest in professional outside help. this does not sound like a situation that will be reconciled by your parents, and there doesn't seem to be anything you can do to stop this abuse.  you are considering suicide, and that is never ok.  your life is precious and you should not let your brother's problems and abuse take it away from you.  please, please seek outside help. talk to a trusted teacher or adult, or school authority.  they should be able to help you. Anonymous Posted at 11:43 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 Quote: from aksamirae at 11:41 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 Seriously, He need to go to some behavior senter. He is dangerous. You prob need to call the cops. I kinda know how you're feeling. You can message me it you like. I actually started dialing 911, but the phone somehow got dropped or kicked out of my hand or something. Anonymous Posted at 11:41 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 Quote: from Jman19 at 11:38 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 You should like video tape the abuse and show it to someone who would be able to get him into an anger management programme. Your parents can't deny it if it's on camera. I guess so...but my mother just witnessed this entire attack and the blatant lie he was telling about me instigating it by kicking him in the crotch. Yet she didn't come to my defense at all... Fuck my life. akSamiRae Posted at 11:41 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 Seriously, He need to go to some behavior senter. He is dangerous. You prob need to call the cops. I kinda know how you're feeling. You can message me it you like. poopballs Posted at 11:41 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 call oprah Precarious Posted at 11:41 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 what is wrong with your parents? are they afraid  of him? look in all honesty your brother needs to go to jail for all he's done to you Jman19 Posted at 11:38 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 You should like video tape the abuse and show it to someone who would be able to get him into an anger management programme. Your parents can't deny it if it's on camera. Anonymous Posted at 11:37 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 Quote: from Jman19 at 11:36 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 He sounds like a prick who needs anger management classes. Yes, he does, but my parents deny it. He's a black belt in karate and he's extremely strong, unfortunately. The only thing I can do it cover my head and try to push him or kick him away. Jman19 Posted at 11:36 pm on Nov. 28, 2008 He sounds like a prick who needs anger management classes. All 13 previous replies displayed.