Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic adoption Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Gemmax[/m] at 6:51 am on Nov. 30, 2008[quote]they protected u. u shuld feel grateful tht they took u away from ur abuser[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 6:50 am on Nov. 30, 2008 A few months ago my mum and dad told me I am adopted. I was really shocked and it triggered my depression again. I have attempted suicide twice and have many scars up my arm. I am better now. I am coming to terms with it. Apparantly I was abused as a baby and I was put into care. I was adopted pretty soon and they felt no need to tell me. It has being a 15 year lie. At the moment I dont know how to feel. I feel so alone.

Replies BlueEyedBrielle Posted at 7:28 am on Nov. 30, 2008 It's nothing to be embarrassed about! I was adopted, too, because my real parents were like 16 when they had me. And I'm proud of it because now I have a better family noraa Posted at 7:09 am on Nov. 30, 2008 It's hard to hear something that big about your family, something that you had no idea about for that long. It's a huge shock, suddenly having everything in your life turned around, what you believed to be true being untrue. It's like waking up and realizing that you've been living in the Matrix. Feeling upset is normal right now. It'll take some getting used to to work this out. Just remember: Your parents are still your parents. They do still love you. You aren't their flesh and blood, but you're still THEIRS. Their child. They've taken you in, loved you, and while they didn't concieve you, that doesn't make you any less of their child. The reason they didn't want to tell you was that they didn't want to hurt you by having you hear about your past. It was what they thought was the right thing to do. Suicide, cutting, it won't help. Why would you want to hurt yourself when you were taken away from a place that hurt you? You did nothing wrong, you have no reason to be upset with yourself, or your life. Would you have wanted to do this had you not heard about this from your parents? Would you have felt like this? Nothing's changed, besides you knowing. You aren't any less of a person. Some advice that somebody gave me once was to think of a line to repeat to yourself when you feel sad--It can be a line from a song, from a book, from a play. Repeat it to yourself to remind your mind to focus on something else besides your sadness. It also can remind you that you don't want to hurt yourself. Another thing to do is snap a rubberband on your wrist when you have suicidal urges.   And talk to your parents about how you feel. They will understand.   PM me if you need anything at all. x cienna Posted at 7:05 am on Nov. 30, 2008 queeff samantha89 Posted at 6:59 am on Nov. 30, 2008 I know it was probably a huge shock to you but they kept it a secret for a reason, probably until they felt you were mature enough to handle it and understand it. Don't let this bring your depression back, just think of how much they must love you and they have probably provided you with a better life then you probably would have had. At least you don't have to worry about being abused. Be grateful and think of the positive, even though they aren't your biological parents they are still the ones who have raised you and loved you for 15 years. =] I hope you feel better though, I know it's probably hard for you. TheAntiBarbie Posted at 6:58 am on Nov. 30, 2008 Why is it such a big deal? They took you in, fed you, clothed you, loved you, what else could you possibly want? What's the difference if you share their genes or not? Anonymous Posted at 6:56 am on Nov. 30, 2008 Quote: from wbafan2 at 6:54 am on Nov. 30, 2008 If your adopted then there not your mom and dad They are the only mum and dad i know. wbafan2 Posted at 6:54 am on Nov. 30, 2008 If your adopted then there not your mom and dad LondonGirl11 Posted at 6:54 am on Nov. 30, 2008 They brought you up. Loved you. Took care of you. What difference does it make if they aren't your biological parents, they are your parents! Anonymous Posted at 6:54 am on Nov. 30, 2008 i am grateful to them. I would rather have known from the start. holodeck87 Posted at 6:54 am on Nov. 30, 2008 It could be worse. You could have had 15 years of abuse. cienna Posted at 6:52 am on Nov. 30, 2008 y! its not a 15yr lie Gemmax Posted at 6:51 am on Nov. 30, 2008 they protected u. u shuld feel grateful tht they took u away from ur abuser tait Posted at 6:51 am on Nov. 30, 2008 You feel alone because some people had the heart to take you out of a shitty household and into one where they care about you? All 13 previous replies displayed.