Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Did I go too far? (read before replying) Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]nyn[/m] at 10:33 pm on Dec. 5, 2008[quote]No, I don't, and I'm proud of you, Blu. It'll be okay.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post blufindr Posted at 10:32 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 Dad was treating his girlfriend like absolute shit (in summary, treating her like his personal slave and being absolutely unreliable for anything more than money). I left for a night because I was just getting too distressed at home. When I came back, Dad was all like "I didn't raise you to sleep with boys", "You've enjoyed yourself enough, now you have to stay here and clean up this house. It's filthy", "You're being absolutely disrespectful, you might think you're Australian but we're Vietnamese and we follow my rules". All within the first 10 minutes of seeing him and without me having said a single thing more than "Hi". So I left again. That was on Wednesday. It's now Saturday, and I refuse to go home until the following conditions have been met: - He quits gambling - Starts going to counseling for anger management and also family therapy, because honestly their relationship has gone to shit. - Starts treating everyone with more respect than just "Do ___" I honestly don't think it's too much to ask for, to be treated with even a tiny bit of respect. Seriously. Do you think I went too far? EDIT: Oh, I went to my boyfriend's. I have a joint session with him booked for Thursday, so hopefully I'll be able to go home for a while after that. I do love living with my boyfriend, but I miss being home.

Replies tell me again Posted at 7:45 am on Dec. 6, 2008 I don't think you went too far. I hope it has some good results, rather than backfire. I wouldn't hold my breath..=/ The whole "You might think you're Australian" is like a brick wall. But eek, good luck. blufindr Posted at 11:41 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 Quote: from 2kewl4u2know at 5:36 pm on Dec. 6, 2008 I don't think you went too far, but unfortunately I don't believe he'll get the message. Most people that are like that either never get the message because they see nothing wrong with what they are doing, or they see the wrong, but never seem to be able to make it right and just fall back into old patterns. Another issue you might consider is could he possibly end up forcing you back? I know here in America, if you're under 18 the police can force you back if the parents call in on you as a runaway. If he can, that's going to cause a lot more tensions and stress. I don't think you did wrong or went to far, however this is one of those "it's going to get a lot worse before or if it gets better." No, we don't think he'll get the message either, but hopefully he'll do the right thing. If not, I only have to put up with him for another year or so before university. He legally can't. After 16, if you can show that being at home is physically/emotionally traumatic, and you're being cared for physically and emotionally without resorting to illegal means of gaining money, you don't have to leave. fullmooncurse Posted at 10:36 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 No I hope you the best 2kewl4u2know Posted at 10:36 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 I don't think you went too far, but unfortunately I don't believe he'll get the message.  Most people that are like that either never get the message because they see nothing wrong with what they are doing, or they see the wrong, but never seem to be able to make it right and just fall back into old patterns. Another issue you might consider is could he possibly end up forcing you back?  I know here in America, if you're under 18 the police can force you back if the parents call in on you as a runaway.  If he can, that's going to cause a lot more tensions and stress. I don't think you did wrong or went to far, however this is one of those "it's going to get a lot worse before or if it gets better." Ruffles Posted at 10:34 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 No, Your smart. Catalyst11 Posted at 10:34 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 No, you did the right thing, your dad needs to learn some manners gnr90 Posted at 10:34 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 nope...seems like a good idea to get out good luck Jman19 Posted at 10:33 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 No. I think you did the right thing. nyn Posted at 10:33 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 No, I don't, and I'm proud of you, Blu. It'll be okay. All 9 previous replies displayed.