Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Abusive Boyfriend Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]xPicturesOfYou3[/m] at 3:01 pm on Jan. 7, 2009[quote]Quote: from [m]scout123[/m] at 3:00 pm on Jan. 7, 2009[quote]better to tackle the problem now and go to the classes before it possbly gets worse[/quote] Agreed.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post guitargogo90 Posted at 2:59 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 So, I'm not the mother of a 12 day old baby. A few nights ago, when she was being especially fussy, her father (or my boyfriend, which ever you wanna call him) got a bit rough with her. He wasn't putting her in any serious harm but he was rough housing. My family is really pissed at him and doesn't even want to let him into their homes. We're suppose to go to parenting classes and all this crap because someone filed a report that he was abusive. Basically I'm really torn. I love Chris but I hate his behavior. I just really don't know what to do. I want this to work, but some people say that he will never change...HELP

Replies tigard Posted at 3:10 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Quote: from guitargogo90 at 3:04 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Quote: from kissmeintherain91 at 6:02 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Why'd you say you're not the mother? sorry i meant NOW the mother...my bad I'm glad you clarified this because I was totally confused.  Now all is better in my mind. As others have said, concern for your child must come first.  You say you love Chris, but hate his bahavior.  Well, parenting classes may be the way for him to change his behavior.  Although no parent likes to be reported, that person was concerned for your child.   If after the parenting classes have ended Chris's behavior hasn't changed significantly, you need to end it.  If it doesn't get better, it'll only get worse and your baby deserves better.  BUt all three of you deserve to find out if Chris can become a worthy father and partner.  Good luck. Fauna Posted at 3:10 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 I would not put up with someone acting aggresively towards my two week old baby. that is sick. guitargogo90 Posted at 3:04 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Quote: from kissmeintherain91 at 6:02 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Why'd you say you're not the mother? sorry i meant NOW the mother...my bad JeanClaude Posted at 3:04 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 You can try to work things out with your boyfriend for the rest of your life, but you have to protect your baby and his best interests now. Don't put your child in any danger because of an irresponsible father. error Posted at 3:03 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 if he dosnt change soon you need to get rid of him or the baby, you better keep that baby out of danger, and never leave it alone with him. Natsy Posted at 3:03 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Quote: from guitargogo90 at 11:02 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Quote: from Natsy at 6:01 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 baby comes first now. get rid of the bastard, he's been nothing but a dick by the sounds of your posts xx yeah, i think you told me to get rid of him before, and i'm starting to think you're right i probably did and even though it could be hard, it will be better in the long run. guys like him don't change. kissmeintherain91 Posted at 3:02 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Why'd you say you're not the mother? latric3 Posted at 3:02 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 The parenting classes should help him understand the delicacy of a infant if he's too dumb to know that himself. Sounds like you had a  baby by a douche. Anywho always put your baby first, and keep it safe no matter what. guitargogo90 Posted at 3:02 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Quote: from Natsy at 6:01 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 baby comes first now. get rid of the bastard, he's been nothing but a dick by the sounds of your posts xx yeah, i think you told me to get rid of him before, and i'm starting to think you're right starla91 Posted at 3:02 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Talk to him, explain your predicament. Set a time limit. If he hasn't improved his behaviour you've got to say good bye to him. His border-line abusive behaviour could easily develop into real abuse and that's something you don't want to happen. Regardless of how much you love him I hope you love yourself and your child more because if he behaves poorly you both deserve better. hazeleyedangel Posted at 3:01 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 People can change if they want to. Try it and see if he does change. If not then at least you tried. xPicturesOfYou3 Posted at 3:01 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Quote: from scout123 at 3:00 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 better to tackle the problem now and go to the classes before it possbly gets worse Agreed. Natsy Posted at 3:01 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 baby comes first now. get rid of the bastard, he's been nothing but a dick by the sounds of your posts xx Points Posted at 3:00 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Quote: from scout123 at 11:00 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 better to tackle the problem now and go to the classes before it possbly gets worse I agree. It is possible for him to change. If he's putting your baby in danger though... I wouldn't leave him alone with him/her. scout123 Posted at 3:00 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 better to tackle the problem now and go to the classes before it possbly gets worse Most recent 15 of 15 previous replies displayed.