Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic i just wanna make him proud.[please help I cant take much more] Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Jman19[/m] at 4:41 pm on Jan. 7, 2009[quote]I'm sorry that he is abusive to you, and that you can never make him proud. My father is the same way. He hits me a lot and tells me what a worthless piece of shit I am, but you know what? I've learned not to take notice of his expectations. Do what makes YOU proud. Do what makes YOU feel good, because in the end, he doesn't matter. YOU matter. It's YOUR life, not his. Don't just do something because he MIGHT approve. Do what makes you happy. You work hard, and so you achieve well, great. Be proud of yourself. No one can take your self-pride away. Message me if you like. I'll listen.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 4:35 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Thats all I have ever wanted to hear my dad say hes proud of me. Yet no matter what I do I cant get it. I make straight A's, I'm on various teams and won various awards. I work so hard so I can be someone, someone accomplished and successful. My dad is very emotionally/mentally abusive to me. And sometimes physically. Today all i did was tell him I couldn't walk outside to dump the cat box cause the muscles in my legs are hurting so bad. Its hard for me to even walk. So what does my dad do? He takes my phone, he yells/cusses me out, and tells me that i better not go to bed cause he will turn my alarm off so ill miss school[i have perfect attendance and don't wanna fall behind]. I swear he is gonna be the reason I kill myself. Why does it have to be so hard? I mean my mom doesn't tell me either but at least she comes to some of my stuff. I don't even think he is making plans on coming to my graduation.

Replies Sety Posted at 4:46 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 my dad is an ass like that too i feel you.... sounds a lot like me the whole good grades things and stuff but my dad is always proud of me which isnt a good thing since he shoves it in my sisters faces so now they hate me anyway maybe your like me and u cant help but defend yourself to get him to shut up faster just take it all in he will feel like he is talking to himself and scurry off DADDYS LITTLE GIRL Posted at 4:43 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Its hard to go through but just hold on and honestly what he thinks of you doesn't matter, you try your best and it sounds like you're succeeding. You don't have to earn his approval, he's the one missing out on your accomplishments. PM me if you ever want to talk. good luck kissmeintherain91 Posted at 4:42 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Im sry =( My dads in rehab... Jman19 Posted at 4:41 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 I'm sorry that he is abusive to you, and that you can never make him proud. My father is the same way. He hits me a lot and tells me what a worthless piece of shit I am, but you know what? I've learned not to take notice of his expectations. Do what makes YOU proud. Do what makes YOU feel good, because in the end, he doesn't matter. YOU matter. It's YOUR life, not his. Don't just do something because he MIGHT approve. Do what makes you happy. You work hard, and so you achieve well, great. Be proud of yourself. No one can take your self-pride away. Message me if you like. I'll listen. Uhhello Posted at 4:40 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 And tbh, i dont think he deserves someone like you as his kid :) noraa Posted at 4:38 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Honestly, screw him. You've done everything amazingly. If he's not proud of you, then don't try to earn his pride. He's the type to never accept. Talk to your mom about it, tell her that you want to know if they're proud of you. And...here's an abuse hotline if you ever need it: 1-800-656-HOPE PM me if you need to talk. Uhhello Posted at 4:37 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Its really, really hard to have something like this going on. But you need to accept no matter what great things you do, he may never accept or praise you. But you should be proud of what you have achieved, they are good things! I think in a way, he may be jealous of you. asia lover Posted at 4:36 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Wow I am sorry you have to go through all of that. Just hold on for now. And maybe you should see a psychiatrist or therapist or something. No one should have to deal with all of that. And you should be proud of everything that you have done! I know that getting praise from someone else feels good, but look at all this you have done! That is great! All 8 previous replies displayed.