Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic My opinion of 'middle child syndrome' Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Bearsy[/m] at 9:44 pm on Jan. 10, 2009[quote]I think the thing is that parents who have more than two kids tend to "put all their eggs in one basket" basically. In middle class families parents usually want their kids to grow up to be rich but for that to be well-insured there's an extent they have to pick and choose which kid they're going to invest in. If they can't afford to put a lot of time and effort into getting SAT courses/nice tuition etc etc for all their kids it'll usually go to the oldest kid, and it's understandable that they don't want to do that one right after the other so the kid born second probably isn't going to face as much pressure to do well or as much helicopter parents and willingness to dish out tons of money on them. If parents can get one highly successful kid and one that grows up to be a normal member of society, they'll still have the success of that one kid and at least no major failures. So question: If you grew up with multiple siblings, do you feel like your parents picked somebody to be the one they invested in? [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Bearsy Posted at 9:44 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 I think the thing is that parents who have more than two kids tend to "put all their eggs in one basket" basically. In middle class families parents usually want their kids to grow up to be rich but for that to be well-insured there's an extent they have to pick and choose which kid they're going to invest in. If they can't afford to put a lot of time and effort into getting SAT courses/nice tuition etc etc for all their kids it'll usually go to the oldest kid, and it's understandable that they don't want to do that one right after the other so the kid born second probably isn't going to face as much pressure to do well or as much helicopter parents and willingness to dish out tons of money on them. If parents can get one highly successful kid and one that grows up to be a normal member of society, they'll still have the success of that one kid and at least no major failures. So question: If you grew up with multiple siblings, do you feel like your parents picked somebody to be the one they invested in?

Replies Chelle92 Posted at 10:22 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 There are 4 kids in my family and my parents invest in all of us equally. They have enough money to do so. They expect all of us to be successful. airemaye Posted at 10:09 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 I'm really glad I'm an only child. HOLLOWdepths Posted at 10:00 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 Makes sense, but no. I am the oldest, and they are not on top of me about academics at all. I do the best out of my siblings at school, though. They spend more time with my sister and even more time with my brother because they need help. It's always been that way. HuffleHaire Posted at 10:00 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 They don't have a preference. They didn't invest in either of us. Although I've succeeded much more than my younger sister has. FiercexMelon Posted at 9:56 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 If I was to be a parent, I'd figure out my finances before I had more kids, to make sure I could invest equally in them. LtrOusRtD Posted at 9:50 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 I honestly think that is true, i just again maybe the youngest..  My parents spoiled me when i was little but now that i am older they are always telling me to do stuff and I am the youngest and I have to do everything in the household. I cook, clean, and get groceries.. my parents don't let any of my siblings do as much as me at any point in their life, yet I have to do it.. it's kinda bull shit. Now that I currently do not have a car they don't want to take me to work, take me out car shopping or anything.... it's ridiculous, but when my brothers all had jobs and such that they had and i never asked for anything back then.. but now i need to do this and they don't want to. Even when they were teaching me how to drive, they never wanted to do it.. and my first permit expried until i could get a new one and they didn't bother to take me out to get a new one until it was ABSOLUTELY necessary when college started and such and i NEEDED to be able to drive.. which i absolute bull tinnainparis Posted at 9:48 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 im the middle child and everything is put on me!!! like responabilitys and stuff!!!! all the rest are just told to do good in school... Jman19 Posted at 9:47 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 Yes. My two older sisters definitely got invested in. Whereas, me and my younger brother/sister haven't been, really. AcidSilence Posted at 9:47 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 My sister is older than I by 4 years. Definitely the one who takes all the money. Baron Samedi Posted at 9:47 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 My mom has actually told me that I'm the one she's betting on. My father doesn't seem to have a preference... HiRyo Posted at 9:46 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 Well my parents are upper-middle class and I only have one sibling. So far they've balanced me and my brother, but they pressure me more for some reason, probably because my brother is a fricken genius. Lally Posted at 9:46 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 Not really. I have 3 other sisters. They just divide it up and give us all the same amount of money and equal amount of investing in. aleiram51 Posted at 9:46 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 nope. i have two brothers and a sister and i feel like we are all treated equally. i mean, we're all different, so my parents treat us differently, but that's normal.  they don't invest in one of us more than the others, no. Amin mele lle Posted at 9:46 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 I suppose that makes sense. I have an older brother. I'm definately the money-hog. XsmilygirlX Posted at 9:45 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 I have a little brother now and they will probably invest in him. Most recent 15 of 16 previous replies displayed.