Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic friend's family are annoying the fuck out of me Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Daddysgurl01[/m] at 10:07 am on July 3, 2009[quote]1. how are u disabled? 2. wait till she says something 3. confront her about it if she doens say anything [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Natsy Posted at 10:00 am on July 3, 2009 It was fine when we would hang out at the cinema, go shopping and whatever and spend like 2 minutes at her house, but lately we're over there a lot more ... which means seeing her family. And not just her mum and dad, but like the extended as well; aunts and cousins, and brother and nephew and so on. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure that they are lovely people, it's just they ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF ME. I KNOW they're probably trying to be nice and considerate of my needs when they ask "are you sure you can get in that side of the car?" [I'm disabled, in case you're sitting there going "wtf?] But then I just don't LIKE them. I'm HER friend, and I can be polite to her family for 2 seconds when I wait for her to get ready so that we can go out, but I don't want to sit there with them trying to be less awkward in the middle of what is, essentially, a family reunion. But yesterday ... god. A few months ago I told her something and made her swear not to tell anyone (boys/drugs/alcohol-related) because quite frankly, it was embarrassing. So her mum is like making these comments about how nasty and trashy she thinks girls are if they "do stuff" outside of relationships, how alcohol is disgusting and people who take drugs are stupid. Her aunt starts up about how her daughter [my friend's cousin] never comes home drunk. The cousin starts going on about how she doesn't need alcohol to have a good time. Coincidence, I think, until her aunt goes and makes a joke which is too close to what I'd told my friend to be a coincidence ... and they all started laughing. Now we were in a car, so I could hardly jump out, but I honestly wanted to kick them all in the face. I don't know what to do ... I'm going to basically ignore her for a week or so, because I need to cool down. Then I'm not sure if I should say something, or just act normal, and not tell her anything personal ever again?

Replies SpRiNgS Posted at 1:42 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Natsy at 10:37 am on July 3, 2009 Quote: from SpRiNgS at 6:22 pm on July 3, 2009 talk to her about it in a controlled manner. don't flip on her cause that'll just do nothing. ask if she told her family about you but i'm sure she didn't, it just prob was coincidence you know? that's what I thought until she said this one thing. I don't wanna say what, but I was like hang ON wtf?? so whatever this "one thing" is since idk what she said, you should still talk to her and make sure ok? just be calm when you do it, ask her casually Natsy Posted at 10:37 am on July 3, 2009 Quote: from SpRiNgS at 6:22 pm on July 3, 2009 talk to her about it in a controlled manner. don't flip on her cause that'll just do nothing. ask if she told her family about you but i'm sure she didn't, it just prob was coincidence you know? that's what I thought until she said this one thing. I don't wanna say what, but I was like hang ON wtf?? SpRiNgS Posted at 10:22 am on July 3, 2009 talk to her about it in a controlled manner. don't flip on her cause that'll just do nothing. ask if she told her family about you but i'm sure she didn't, it just prob was coincidence you know? squareness Posted at 10:16 am on July 3, 2009 Id confront her about telling them what you told her.she had no right to tell anyone ! Natsy Posted at 10:10 am on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Daddysgurl01 at 6:07 pm on July 3, 2009 1. how are u disabled? 2. wait till she says something 3. confront her about it if she doens say anything 1. I have a prosthetic arm. Just the one, so I am perfectly capable of getting in and out of a fucking CAR, regardless of which side. 2. about which part? Me not talking to her, what her family said? 3. confront her how? I need instructions, because when I'm left to my own devices I lose my temper and will probably shover down a flight of stairs or something :/ Daddysgurl01 Posted at 10:07 am on July 3, 2009 1. how are u disabled? 2. wait till she says something 3. confront her about it if she doens say anything LU2024 Posted at 10:03 am on July 3, 2009 Just wait and see if she says anything to you about it and go from there. If not, just try and let it go. All 7 previous replies displayed.