Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic How do I deal with this? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from Anonymous at 3:13 pm on July 4, 2009[quote]This is a serious question. I would have posted it in The Serious Forum, but I know some people on here who are not support leaders still give good advice. When I was younger, my mother was depressed/suicidal. She took her anger/misery out on me. Called me names, emotionally abused me, essentially. Fast forward about 10 years. She's better, and she has my brother. She's a totally different person. She's a great mother, to him. Despite her changing, she still treats me like the red-headed step child. She doesn't emotionally abuse me anymore, but she kind of treats me like she doesn't want me. Because of her abuse, I have trouble believing in myself. Not low-self esteem, but confidence. Her abuse has made me believe that I will fail at everything I do, and when I do fail, I do not take it well. I also have to sit and watch her treat my brother with the love and care she never gave me. Sometimes, it eats away at me. This past year, I became depressed, largely in part due to this. So...here's the deal. I can't let this control me, limit me, or eat away at me. How can I deal with this? I've been looking at meditation or something. As long as I allow it to eat away at me, I will never be happy or feel like myself (especially after my severe depression this year). Do you guys have any suggestions? I'm trying to get in to a therapist, but around here, the waitlist is 3 months. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 3:13 pm on July 4, 2009 This is a serious question. I would have posted it in The Serious Forum, but I know some people on here who are not support leaders still give good advice. When I was younger, my mother was depressed/suicidal. She took her anger/misery out on me. Called me names, emotionally abused me, essentially. Fast forward about 10 years. She's better, and she has my brother. She's a totally different person. She's a great mother, to him. Despite her changing, she still treats me like the red-headed step child. She doesn't emotionally abuse me anymore, but she kind of treats me like she doesn't want me. Because of her abuse, I have trouble believing in myself. Not low-self esteem, but confidence. Her abuse has made me believe that I will fail at everything I do, and when I do fail, I do not take it well. I also have to sit and watch her treat my brother with the love and care she never gave me. Sometimes, it eats away at me. This past year, I became depressed, largely in part due to this. So...here's the deal. I can't let this control me, limit me, or eat away at me. How can I deal with this? I've been looking at meditation or something. As long as I allow it to eat away at me, I will never be happy or feel like myself (especially after my severe depression this year). Do you guys have any suggestions? I'm trying to get in to a therapist, but around here, the waitlist is 3 months.

Replies Anonymous Posted at 7:06 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 3:44 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from Anonymous at 11:21 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 3:19 pm on July 4, 2009 You need other people around you who can help you. You need to find other people who you can grow to love and trust.       My cousin is still being emotionally abused, we just have to let her know that she has other people who love and her and will help her the minute she can get out of that house, you need people around that can help you.    What if I don't have any?     You need to find some. Well, easier said than done. Thanks anyways. GoodFairy13 Posted at 3:44 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from Anonymous at 11:21 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 3:19 pm on July 4, 2009 You need other people around you who can help you. You need to find other people who you can grow to love and trust.  My cousin is still being emotionally abused, we just have to let her know that she has other people who love and her and will help her the minute she can get out of that house, you need people around that can help you. What if I don't have any? You need to find some. audibleSIN Posted at 3:21 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from Anonymous at 3:15 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from AudibleSin at 3:14 pm on July 4, 2009 How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?    Purely because I'm sure there are youth support things for this kind of situation. Just turned 17 years old, and will be a senior in highschool. Ask your school about it? Surely they must have youth programs and such. If they don't, I'd even consider helping out with things like homework and stuff to take the stress off, that's if you'd actually be comfortable with it. Anonymous Posted at 3:21 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 3:19 pm on July 4, 2009 You need other people around you who can help you. You need to find other people who you can grow to love and trust.   My cousin is still being emotionally abused, we just have to let her know that she has other people who love and her and will help her the minute she can get out of that house, you need people around that can help you. What if I don't have any? GoodFairy13 Posted at 3:19 pm on July 4, 2009 You need other people around you who can help you. You need to find other people who you can grow to love and trust. My cousin is still being emotionally abused, we just have to let her know that she has other people who love and her and will help her the minute she can get out of that house, you need people around that can help you. LiveForeverDieTonite Posted at 3:17 pm on July 4, 2009 I'd feel awkward talking to a therapist. sixguns Posted at 3:16 pm on July 4, 2009 damn thats along time the reason ur mom acts that way is cause she dont want to be reeminded of the past btw dont go to a theripist ive gone to so many for multiple things and none have worked Anonymous Posted at 3:15 pm on July 4, 2009 Quote: from AudibleSin at 3:14 pm on July 4, 2009 How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? Purely because I'm sure there are youth support things for this kind of situation. Just turned 17 years old, and will be a senior in highschool. audibleSIN Posted at 3:14 pm on July 4, 2009 How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? Purely because I'm sure there are youth support things for this kind of situation. All 9 previous replies displayed.