Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic How would you deal with this friend Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Boats n Hoes[/m] at 9:15 am on June 28, 2012[quote]Quote: from [m]Jim Raynor[/m] at 12:13 pm on June 28, 2012[quote]what the fuck Is this some sort of troll post? if not I suggest telling a psychologist or telling her to go to one.[/quote]This.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post amanda2012au Posted at 9:08 am on June 28, 2012 How would you deal with a friend who poos in her pants at school? I thought she would stop doing it once we started High School but she does it almost every day. She doesn't get changed until she gets home and usually means she wears them most of the day after she does it. She told me she is terrified of the toilets but sometimes I wonder if it's just an excuse.

Replies amanda2012au Posted at 2:12 am on June 30, 2012 Ever since we have been friends she has been terrified of the toilets and I think it's got worse as she has got older. I have tried to talk to her it find why she is so terrified but she doesn't want to talk about it. She definitely has a problem because I have tried to make her go in when we have been out places but she gets totally hysterical, which is really embarrassing. The security guy actually thought I had been bullying her until she calmed down.   I think something happened to her once when she was in one. She lives with her mom and she doesn't seem to worry about it and she makes her do her own washing and it's like her mom just thinks she is being lazy. tell me again Posted at 6:44 pm on June 29, 2012 oh i'd missed the part where you said she says she's terrified of the toilets. sorry if some of the "why are her parents not helping her" questions are off-base if you actually know her and is her friend. but it still bothers me that you dont know the full story and there might be something going on. why is she THAT terrified, if it's the truth? and why hasn't she felt able to bring a change of clothes or wear an adult nappy? it just sounds like something's wrong and she has some issue around it. tell me again Posted at 6:13 pm on June 29, 2012 i dont like PM replies to things i post in a thread so im going to answer it here. And sorry if it's bitchy but it's one of the dumbest questions ever and i can't contain it to myself. you asked do i mean she could have been raped or something. what the fuck, is that your blanket idea of what "other issues" mean? dun-dun-dun! poor girl with rape issues! what does that even mean. how does it relate to rape. do you even think about what you're saying, or do you figure all "deep dark issues" have mysterious ways of manifesting? no i didn't mean she'd been raped or hides some other issue. but if she shits herself, do you suppose that she doesn't know it??? Isn't that strange to you? Why do you suppose she's doing this? Maybe shes ashamed to talk about it? Maybe she has some kind of profound denial about it due to her shame or inability to fix it? Maybe she doesnt think she can fix it and is defeated so doesn't even try to work around it like bringing change of clothes? Maybe her parents haven't been taking care of her? Maybe she has medical issues that for some reason her parents are not helping with? Why has it been allowed to happen in the school or with her parents, is she being abused or neglected? Why isn't she comfortable at least telling her parents about it to get help both for the issue and for what to do at school? Why is no one talking to her and helping her? No one chooses to shit themselves and smell like shit and repel people away. She either can't help it (which is sad and needs help) or she "does it anyway", which POINTS TO A PROBLEM, for HER. Not for you unfortunate people who have to smell her or whatever. I think you shouldnt talk to her at all at this point and just leave her be. Suck it up. I can't imagine you not making it worse. Like do you people not think? And im not just directing this at you but other people who think like this too. You think shitting your pants is weird but do you know how weird it is to not be able to think or have any idea about anything at all, like you do? What the hell kind of talk did you hope to have? How could anyone even begin talking to you let alone fix their problem if you are so clueless? Fking hell you're half the problem. /rant tell me again Posted at 6:19 am on June 29, 2012 i think talk alone with her. and if she reacts badly or weirdly, try to tell an adult (teacher? her mum if her mum is nice?) or a school counsellor or something. she needs to do something about it and if she is not, it might be a sign of other issues. amanda2012au Posted at 2:38 am on June 29, 2012 Do you think I should get her other friends there when I talk to her or do it alone with her. AttackAttackKat Posted at 2:05 am on June 29, 2012 Quote: from birdman101 at 10:45 am on June 28, 2012 shit pants mike! we had one of those in our school. imagine cooking in a 120F degree kitchen and next to you is that standing right there.   smelt like fried shit. . some people have a medical issue(i forget what it is called)that they have problems controlling their bowels(not ibs) and can't help it. But what she needs to do is carry extra clothes with her,it is in no way fair to anyone else to have to endure her smell. sometimes someone like that just needs someone to have a deep talk about the issue. definately have a deep talk about the issue unless its medical then you have to accept it and endure it and just ask nicely as a friend to take better care of it. goodlife96 Posted at 1:55 pm on June 28, 2012 in 8th grade i had a kid who would shit himself. we called him shit stain lambert (his last name) i dont know if he outgrew it because he transfered schools. my friend would always skip the class we had with him because it smelled so bad and no one ever really said anything to his face about it. Sadanlonely Posted at 12:04 pm on June 28, 2012 Ooooh that's gross. I would explain to her that it's not right and that perhaps she should invest in special underwear, failing this mayb she should seek medical help! Do you kno if her moms aware that she does this? You should support her tho and if her mom doesn't kno mayb u need to gave a quiet word with her and let her kno what's going on... birdman101 Posted at 10:45 am on June 28, 2012 shit pants mike! we had one of those in our school. imagine cooking in a 120F degree kitchen and next to you is that standing right there. smelt like fried shit. . some people have a medical issue(i forget what it is called)that they have problems controlling their bowels(not ibs) and can't help it. But what she needs to do is carry extra clothes with her,it is in no way fair to anyone else to have to endure her smell. sometimes someone like that just needs someone to have a deep talk about the issue. The New World Order Posted at 9:37 am on June 28, 2012 amanda2012au Posted at 9:16 am on June 28, 2012 No I am serious actually Boats n Hoes Posted at 9:15 am on June 28, 2012 Quote: from Jim Raynor at 12:13 pm on June 28, 2012 what the fuck Is this some sort of troll post? if not I suggest telling a psychologist or telling her to go to one. This. Jim Raynor Posted at 9:13 am on June 28, 2012 what the fuck Is this some sort of troll post? if not I suggest telling a psychologist or telling her to go to one. All 13 previous replies displayed.