Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Getting really depressed Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Just Waiting Here[/m] at 10:38 am on Aug. 1, 2012[quote]What about when he has school breaks?  I mean, when I'm in school, I'm only able to see my boyfriend 2-4 nights a week... which is really just a matter of me going there and sleeping at his place.  So we don't interact at all much.  But once school is out, my schedule is a bit more lenient so that I can spend maybe 1-2 hours a couple times a week. I mean, usually there's Thanksgiving and then you have a couple of weeks around Christmas too.  You won't see him when he's out of school? Hopefully it won't be quite as bad as you're imagining it.  In many ways, at least you are coming home to the same house together, even if you don't get to see each other as often as you might like.  Also, if he does have a full-time job, then he should have some paid vacation time as well.  You can always use those too![/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Charlei Posted at 10:30 am on Aug. 1, 2012 With the upcoming events of this next year. We leave for vacation on the 14th, which is going to be four amazing days in the Keys.  When we gt home we will literally have 3 days together before I lose my husband for a year.   August 20th he starts school again, and will literally only be home to sleep, and that is likely to be when I am at work.  He will be working full time, plus being a full-time+ student.  Not normal classes either. We will be really tight on money, and not able to really do anything/spend any time together.  For the next year, he will likely only have 5 days off. I have thinking about it, and it's coming up too fast.

Replies Charlei Posted at 12:15 pm on Aug. 1, 2012 It's not going to be that much of an increase in his pay, just gets him to where he wants to be, which I fully support. agerask Posted at 12:11 pm on Aug. 1, 2012 life is ruff so u gotta be tuff. coming from a history of ldrs (my boyfriend and family live in MO yet i go to school in OH, and even when i'm home for the summer i work 40+ hrs a week in our hometown but he lives 3.5 hrs away on base) and my boyfriends up and coming deployment, i can sympathize. but just think about the rewards you will reap when hes all done with his classwork and clinicals etc. possible greater financial stability cant be too awful. Charlei Posted at 11:59 am on Aug. 1, 2012 We have money for fun   We are going on a four day vacation in less than two weeks and we now have a boat.   We put in enough effort, and it worked out.  We didn't give up, and sit around and bitch when things were tough.  I was out of work for three weeks earlier this year.  I only looked for two weeks(yes, I am aware I have experience), and I had a job.  We did suffer those two weeks because we planned ahead, saved and didn't spend unnecessarily. Raising a kid with my parents?   lolmodzrshit Posted at 11:56 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Charlei Posted at 11:53 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations lolmodzrshit Posted at 11:50 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Charlei Posted at 11:44 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations lolmodzrshit Posted at 11:40 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Charlei Posted at 11:38 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations lolmodzrshit Posted at 11:30 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations HelloAlligator Posted at 11:27 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Charlei Posted at 11:23 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Charlei Posted at 11:22 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 2:19 pm on Aug. 1, 2012 Quote: from Charlei at 11:14 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 2:05 pm on Aug. 1, 2012 Yeah, I suppose that's a change. I've been with my partner for almost 6 years as well... but the first year we were long distance and we only saw each once for 2 weeks and once more for 2 days. After that, we had a year where we had plenty of time, and when I started school, that time disappeared. I'm in school full-time, I have a full-time job, and two part-time jobs as well. Weekdays, I leave the house at 630am and I get home between 9-11pm. Weekends, I'm gone both days. And we both have jobs that require overnight shifts and keep us at home. The nights we do get to see each other, it's really just me going to bed, haha. And I'm quite used to this. I've never had issues... even when I'm on vacation for 2 weeks, I don't mind not seeing each other. And I think more than anything... after being long distance, I'm so happy with just being able to sleep next to each other a couple of nights a week. I'd rather have that then be stuck with just a phone call each night.    Yea, that's defintly an improvement.  I'd certainly be happy in your situation after going through all that and still being together.      We haven't been apart for more than a day or two, due to conflicting schedules since June of 2007 when his brother got married...lol Haha, yes, for sure. I can see why you'd be worried if you've never been apart for that long. Just a month ago, I didn't see my partner for 2 weeks... and I was in another country, so no phone, and most of the time, no computer. I've always been like that... even as a kid, I would leave for 2 months at a time and be with family in another country and I wouldn't see my parents. It never bothered me. Lol, and unlike you, I love having a house to myself... it's nice to have freedom to just me and not have to worry about any other people, whether it be my family, roommate, or even my partner :). I suppose in that sense I'm really lucky. I wouldn't have too much of a problem with your situation now. But it'll be a pretty drastic change for you :(. Hopefully you guys will have some overlap so you can at least see each other and maybe even have a meal together once a day or something :(. I'm hoping that I will manage to work something out, I'm sure I will, but it's just so frustrating now, not having any control.  I do like having the house to myself some, but just not every day...lol HelloAlligator Posted at 11:20 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Just Waiting Here Posted at 11:19 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Quote: from Charlei at 11:14 am on Aug. 1, 2012 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 2:05 pm on Aug. 1, 2012 Yeah, I suppose that's a change.  I've been with my partner for almost 6 years as well... but the first year we were long distance and we only saw each once for 2 weeks and once more for 2 days.  After that, we had a year where we had plenty of time, and when I started school, that time disappeared.  I'm in school full-time, I have a full-time job, and two part-time jobs as well.  Weekdays, I leave the house at 630am and I get home between 9-11pm.  Weekends, I'm gone both days.  And we both have jobs that require overnight shifts and keep us at home.  The nights we do get to see each other, it's really just me going to bed, haha.  And I'm quite used to this.  I've never had issues... even when I'm on vacation for 2 weeks, I don't mind not seeing each other.  And I think more than anything... after being long distance, I'm so happy with just being able to sleep next to each other a couple of nights a week.  I'd rather have that then be stuck with just a phone call each night. Yea, that's defintly an improvement. I'd certainly be happy in your situation after going through all that and still being together. We haven't been apart for more than a day or two, due to conflicting schedules since June of 2007 when his brother got married...lol Haha, yes, for sure.  I can see why you'd be worried if you've never been apart for that long.  Just a month ago, I didn't see my partner for 2 weeks... and I was in another country, so no phone, and most of the time, no computer.  I've always been like that... even as a kid, I would leave for 2 months at a time and be with family in another country and I wouldn't see my parents.  It never bothered me.  Lol, and unlike you, I love having a house to myself... it's nice to have freedom to just me and not have to worry about any other people, whether it be my family, roommate, or even my partner :). I suppose in that sense I'm really lucky.  I wouldn't have too much of a problem with your situation now.  But it'll be a pretty drastic change for you :(.  Hopefully you guys will have some overlap so you can at least see each other and maybe even have a meal together once a day or something :(. Most recent 15 of 27 previous replies displayed.