Today I sneaked in the computer and my mom found out. She wanted me to pack up my things. I know shes not going to kick me out because she already tried that multiple times. The main situation here is that its summer, I did my part of getting a job (in which I'm not succeeding in, but I have no control over it) and they took away my computer.
My computer is pretty much my life. I have no friends or anything to do. I'm one of those nerds and stuff and have a serious case of depression. I take pills and stuff or else I get the feeling of suicide alot. The problem is that my parents are treating me like a kid, i'm 19 now. They even put some interent kid filtering software in my computer! (NET NANNY)
So yeah the deal was I have to pay my dad $200 for summer school so I can get my computer back. I know its my fault that I failed 2 courses. But why are they taking away the thing i love? All my eggs are in one basket and it was all in that computer, but they took it away. I'm going crazy right now because I have nothing to do over the summer.
No job, no school, no friends, no computer, no internet. I have nothing.
I am going to be punished tonight because I used the computer and possibly kicked out. I have some video evidence that could ruin my dad the most but also my whole family. Its the last resort i'm going to. I know I am selfish but again they took away everything from me, i'm driving myself insane.
I just need to know whether or not I should report this evidence to the police. Thats how i feel right now. I feel lost since i have nothing better to do. Should i blackmail my parents?
I think you need to sit down with your parents and have a chat. This won't work if you force it or argue with them so you need to be collective and calm with your thoughts. Explain to them that you are (and not just have) looking for jobs. Show them some completed application forms and make a point to be near them when talking on the phone about a job application, etc. They need to see or hear you do it in person before they'll be more convinced and consider letting up on the restrictions. As for the computer thing, talk to them too. Say that it's not a bad thing to have a computer. Tell them that you do relax and socialise on it, like every person needs to, but that you can also look for jobs and send off applications online. You can even say that you'll try and contact friends and see if they have any job spaces where they work.
You say you have no friends or anything else to do. Well why not try improving on that. It's one thing that your parents are restrictive, but you need to put in some effort too. A computer can't be 100% of your life. its not healthy both medically and emotionally. Being alone can be a cause of depression and sadness, so making friends and socialising is of huge importance to make yourself happier and more joyful. I know you may not want to, and it is hard, but try and make more friends. Go out actively and meet people. An easy place to do this in school, which may have ended, but you'll still have summer school. Get out and talk to people there. Make yourself known and approach people. Once you start doing that and making friends, you'll have people to talk to and things to do with them, so you won't rely so heavily on your computer.
Whatever you do, don't blackmail your parents. That's really the worst possible thing you can do. They've done nothing bad legally speaking. They're just trying to help you. They are your parents and they do care for you, which is exactly why they're doing this. Sure it is restrictive you personally and it annoys you, but you need to realise that they are trying to help you. Work with them and not against them. If you try and push them away you will only make matters worse. You can ease them up, but it takes time. You need to prove to them that you're trying to get a job and trying to be more independent. You are an adult, so you should behave more like one. Show them that you can act like an adult and you can be responsible. After all you are still living under their house so legally they've every right to be restrictive with the things that they give to you or allow you to use (since you don't pay any rent).
You're annoyed, and that's completely understandable, but don't try and ruin your family because you are pissed. You'll hurt both them, the rest of your family and yourself. It's in your best interests not to do it. They're trying to help you and prepare you for the future, with things like summer school. Be glad that you have parents that are that caring for you.
I hope this has helped, and I wish you luck with getting your computer back and the problems with your parents. Just remember, they're only trying to help!
yeah i already got rid of net nanny without having to use a proxy. but yeah back on topic. Seriously I will destroy my family because they took away everything. They are pretty much torturing me right now. They took away my room's door (no privacy now). They took away my TV. They took away my computer (again). What else do I have to do?
but yeah back on topic. Seriously I will destroy my family because they took away everything. They are pretty much torturing me right now. They took away my room's door (no privacy now). They took away my TV. They took away my computer (again). What else do I have to do?
Negotiate some privacy again. That you deserve. The rest you desire.
" No job, no school, no friends, no computer, no internet. I have nothing."
It's hard to get a summer job at this time of year. Most have been scooped up.Keep trying. For your sake, not theirs.No school, no friends? Are all your friends only inside the computer? They are out there and accessible by phone or snail mail. If there aren't a lot of locals ones, go out and do things in your community and you will accidentally make new friends. Being a nerd is not an excuse to use electronic connectivity as a substitute for human connectivity. I'd venture to guess that keeping all your eggs in that one basket has contributed to your being cut off from the rest of the world and to your depression. I suspect your parents are exercising a bit of "tough love".
So to review: you admit you are responsible for flunking courses but seem to blame them for leveraging some responsibility in taking care of that. I personally disagree with their method but not their motivation. - Your drama seems almost entirely self inflicted. Yet you blame your parents for reacting to their son who has his entire life wrapped up in a computer instead of real life by removing the (as they must see it) vehicle that is preventing your from growing up and growing outward; the computer. To be honest I'd approach things differently but down a similar path. Maybe you could try to negotiate something like this: what if you promised to spend no more than one hour, under their supervision (ie: in the family living room) on the computer at a set time of day. The rest of the time you are looking for a job in the morning and doing other things in your town with other people. (How did they not simply password protect the computer before? If they did that now, they could log you in and out and that would probably satisfy them). And speaking of the computer, you didn't state this but I'll make some assumptions- you are living in their home paying no or little rent, the internet service is probably paid by them and maybe even the computer was bought by them. Their house- their rules. Which brings me to the kicking out part. I can't believe that there have not been other conflicts between you and your family before; using the computer once against their will isn't going to result in a threat to kick you out.
i don't like to be harsh with people on anti depressants but in the long run it is going to be better for you and for them if you get out of the house and start living life in the "real world". This does not and should not be right now, assuming you don't have the financial resources to be on your own. But you need to grow up and grow out. Mostly for your sake.
It's just a computer...god. You live in their house, follow their rules. And if you blackmail your parents.. thats just pathetic.
call me pathetic. maybe its my fault that i grew up this way. but the computer means a lot to me. Try living a life without anything but a computer. Oh wait you wouldn't want to. I guess its just me stuck in a situation like this. But yeah just imagine something VERY important to you is taken away, how would yo ufeel?
You want to be treated as an adult? - just because you are almost 19 it doesn't mean you are mature enough to be treated as an adult, and this is going to be pretty obvious if you do that thing with the video. It's immature and selfish.
Go outside, get friends, get a job... It's not that hard. Your computer ISN'T your life.
move in with a friend?
lol you don't get the point. I dont have a friend.
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