-- Posted by HatesYou at 10:35 am on June 26, 2008 I am pretty much for polygamy. I see nothing wrong in having more than one spouse at one time. I've always been willing to share, and I'm not much of the jealous type. My spouse is more than welcome to spend some time with me, whilst getting some ass from the next chick the following day. Why? Well I'm not one who pleases, and I'm not a huge fan of intercourse. I am also a careless person as a whole. I'd care less if my spouse had a bad day at work or if a car ran his buddy over. Surely I'd give my condolences on any troubles he's having, but there wouldn't be much else I'd be willing to do. Perhaps there's something wrong with me. My friends have always known me as the girl that doesn't care. And everything I am to do, I simply do; rather than stress out over a deadline I simply do my task. Rather than make plans for the weekend I simply wing it. When a friend is in need of support, I'd simply give them a pat on the back. I guess the silence that followed after the pat was enough support to them, because they'd always come back to tell me more of their sob stories. Anyway, this has been the case with everyone. With family. With previous relationships. I've always been careless. Which is probably why I left my previous relationships, I simply grew tired of the nagging or grew bored of the person as a whole. I am, therefore, pretty much for polygamy. I see nothing wrong in having more than one spouse at one time. I've always been willing to share, and I'm not much of the jealous type. My spouse is more than welcome to spend some time with me, whilst getting some ass from the next chick the following day. Yet, now that I think about it, what good do I serve in a relationship? I would only be there to hang out with you. I wouldn't comfort you much, and I wouldn't sex you much either. Perhaps, if I were in a polygamist relationship, I'd be the outgoing spouse? Isn't this more of a friend though? "A friend is a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. A person who gives assistance. A person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile" (The Dictionary). I guess my question to you is, are you for or against polygamy? What is your opinion on it? Moral or Unmoral? -- Posted by Ancient Rights at 10:36 am on June 26, 2008 The reason that people are against polygamy is because one man cannot support multiple wives. So, all of his wives will have children, so they can just file for support from the government as single, mothers since their marriages aren't recognized by the law. -- Posted by Giohughes at 10:38 am on June 26, 2008 Polygamy(as in ONE man many women) is a-ok in my book!!! but that whole one women 10 penis's thing is not so kewl...its downright nastylol -- Posted by dpade1337 at 10:38 am on June 26, 2008 I dated a guy and his wife. I didn't really like it very much. It was good for awhile..and I think being with multiple people has benefits. In this particular case he was really controlling and made all his women docile and worship him basically. I didn't like the secrets. I think with happier more open people it could be great. -- Posted by Mediocre at 10:39 am on June 26, 2008 Polyamory is pleasurable, so it satisfies my standard of morality. I'm not a fan of any kind of marriage, though. -- Posted by MelinaEll at 10:39 am on June 26, 2008 Some of the things you said remind me of myself. haha. I wouldn't consider that making you a polygamist though. There's more to it than that. You just seem to be selfish. (I don't mean that in a bad way either) I am somewhat like that too. You just need yourself and other's don't usually matter sooo much. -- Posted by CaliKevin at 10:39 am on June 26, 2008 I think you'd be a good girlfriend because you're nice on the eyes. Plus you may not like sex, what about foreplay?  Is there no enjoyment for you at all? -- Posted by BLUEAUTOMATIC at 10:41 am on June 26, 2008 I think I'd be okay with polygamy, if I either entered a polygamous arrangement or my husband openly discussed it with me whilst in a monogamous relationship and discussed it with me properly and respected my wishes either way. I wouldn't, however, condone a man who enters a monogamous relationship and slyly moves around having sex with women whilst pretending to be faithful. That's not right. And I'd also like him to discuss what women he'd like to bring into the relationship as I would men. -- Posted by Hggh7 at 10:41 am on June 26, 2008 /Dumb -- Posted by HatesYou at 10:47 am on June 26, 2008 Quote: from BlueAutomatic at 1:41 pm on June 26, 2008 I think I'd be okay with polygamy, if I either entered a polygamous arrangement or my husband openly discussed it with me whilst in a monogamous relationship and discussed it with me properly and respected my wishes either way. I wouldn't, however, condone a man who enters a monogamous relationship and slyly moves around having sex with women whilst pretending to be faithful. That's not right. And I'd also like him to discuss what women he'd like to bring into the relationship as I would men. To get down to the conditions of it, I conquer. -- Posted by death2fairytales at 10:47 am on June 26, 2008 Polygamy to me is good as long as all partners are open, equal and mature about it. -- Posted by Just Waiting Here at 10:48 am on June 26, 2008 I'm mixed in this area. The reason that I'm not for polygamy is because of the way it's used in other cultures.  It's not people being with someone out of free will, but more often than not just a matter of gaining money, or something similar to that... if that makes sense. In terms of loving more than one person, I don't deny that it's possible.  I don't deny that one person can love several people, and if all are comfortable with each other, than why not have several people? In a sense, I'm similar to you, but at the same time I'm not.  My aunt was utterly surprised to see that I was excited about my sister's wedding, or that I was worried about hearing that my neighbors might have died.  They seem to view me as cold, almost emotionless, and in many cases, I am. But... that brings me up to another point.  Why?  I view it as my defense.  Emotions are my weakness, and letting them show only gives people room to hurt me... For this reason, I wonder if you're actually for polygamy.  Maybe you're 'not caring' is your way of protecting yourself.  If you don't care about them, they can't hurt you.  They CAN'T cheat on you, because you support it.  Or maybe, you really just don't care, because you don't let yourself get opened up enough. Like I said, I'm quite similar but different at the same time.  It depends on who I'm around.  If someone comes to me for support, I'll listen, give advice (more than just a pat), and that's cool, I don't need to get my own emotions involved. If my boyfriend comes to me with a problem, many times it's a bit more personal, as it affects me as well.  He's someone I care about, and I'll let him know it.  But in terms of my family?  I suppose I'm a bit misunderstood, because I think most of them think I don't give a damn, because that's how I show myself. In terms of sex... I've never been interested in it before, nor do I bother masturbating very often.  It's not somethign I need, and it's not something I crave.  For that reason, I could never just sleep around with anyone, because the only reason I do it with my boyfriend is because of the emotional bond.  Otherwise, there would be no point to it... and as you put it, I would care less about it. I don't know... if my boyfriend did go with someone else, it would hurt.  While I tell him that I don't mind if he went to a strip bar or looked at porn (though he won't because he says that it's not fair to me), any kind of sexual play with a female is not something I would appreciate, unless it was a threesome (which I am NOT interested in), then I would end a relationship there.  I suppose that comes down to what I expect from a family in the future... but who knows. I dunno, I understand where you're coming from, but in a sense, I wonder if that's actually how you feel.  And whether if one day, when you truly find a guy that you think is worth it and you truly trust... maybe you'll think differently. I dunno... lol, I'm mixed.  In my case, I wouldn't want polygamy, unless my boyfriend and I both fell in love with another boy or girl... lol. -- Posted by Periwinkle at 10:49 am on June 26, 2008 I'm okay with it, within limits. I don't agree that anyone should be left unsupported with children, and if it's apolygamous relationship where a man has many children, then it's very possible that that could occur. I don't reckon that I, personally, would be comfortable, but from a moral point of view, I don't have a problem. -- Posted by HuffleHaire at 10:52 am on June 26, 2008 I'd be fine with it if my spouse was. If he could sex other people, then I should be able to, too. But other than that, whatever. Whatever floats peoples boats, and doesn't fuck up government aid shit. -- Posted by HatesYou at 11:02 am on June 26, 2008 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 1:48 pm on June 26, 2008 Or maybe, you really just don't care, because you don't let yourself get opened up enough. That was the only statement that caught my attention. It's true, it's never been easy for me to be open with someone. I tend to keep things to myself no matter what the situation. Yet, i feel that i everything i've mentioned is quite true. I have loved, and I have been in long term relationships. Yet even during these relationships my thoughts have always been the same. And yes, i am a bit mixed as well i suppose. -- Posted by Just Waiting Here at 11:09 am on June 26, 2008 Quote: from HatesYou at 11:02 am on June 26, 2008 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 1:48 pm on June 26, 2008 Or maybe, you really just don't care, because you don't let yourself get opened up enough. That was the only statement that caught my attention. It's true, it's never been easy for me to be open with someone. I tend to keep things to myself no matter what the situation. Yet, i feel that i everything i've mentioned is quite true. I have loved, and I have been in long term relationships. Yet even during these relationships my thoughts have always been the same. And yes, i am a bit mixed as well i suppose. You can't really know though.  Love can come in so many different forms, who's to say the love in your past long term relationships wasn't more of a love between close friends?  It's a hard call to make, and only you can truly decide what you feel.  My first boyfriend and I... we lasted 1.5 years, but I was like you.  If he wanted someone else, it wouldn't have bothered me.  But it's a bit different now. Who knows, maybe I grew out of it, maybe I'm more open to showing weakness... it's hard to judge.  I suppose I'm very much inbetween in all of this, because there are so many things that I pretend I don't care about, and sort them out later in my head in a calm matter so that I can deal with them. Who knows... maybe you're just an independant at heart.  Personally, you asked who would want someone like you?  Probably the one man that loves you for who you are (seemingly emotionless, but supportive in your own way), and even if you thought it was alright, wouldn't turn to other women.  Maybe it's idealistic for me to think that, but then again, I don't see why not. Who knows... in the end, it's whether or not you're happy with it.  Everyone gets happiness in different ways, and if you're satisfied in your relationships, then that's all that really matters :). But it's interesting, some people may argue that you're a very simple person, since you seem to show that you don't need much from others... but I'd say it's the opposite... I dunno, I'm rambling ^__^. -- Posted by HatesYou at 11:16 am on June 26, 2008 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 2:09 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from HatesYou at 11:02 am on June 26, 2008 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 1:48 pm on June 26, 2008 Or maybe, you really just don't care, because you don't let yourself get opened up enough.    That was the only statement that caught my attention. It's true, it's never been easy for me to be open with someone. I tend to keep things to myself no matter what the situation.    Yet, i feel that i everything i've mentioned is quite true. I have loved, and I have been in long term relationships. Yet even during these relationships my thoughts have always been the same.    And yes, i am a bit mixed as well i suppose. You can't really know though. Love can come in so many different forms, who's to say the love in your past long term relationships wasn't more of a love between close friends? It's a hard call to make, and only you can truly decide what you feel. My first boyfriend and I... we lasted 1.5 years, but I was like you. If he wanted someone else, it wouldn't have bothered me. But it's a bit different now. Who knows, maybe I grew out of it, maybe I'm more open to showing weakness... it's hard to judge. I suppose I'm very much inbetween in all of this, because there are so many things that I pretend I don't care about, and sort them out later in my head in a calm matter so that I can deal with them. Who knows... maybe you're just an independant at heart. Personally, you asked who would want someone like you? Probably the one man that loves you for who you are (seemingly emotionless, but supportive in your own way), and even if you thought it was alright, wouldn't turn to other women. Maybe it's idealistic for me to think that, but then again, I don't see why not. Who knows... in the end, it's whether or not you're happy with it. Everyone gets happiness in different ways, and if you're satisfied in your relationships, then that's all that really matters :). But it's interesting, some people may argue that you're a very simple person, since you seem to show that you don't need much from others... but I'd say it's the opposite... I dunno, I'm rambling ^__^. i think you are by far, the only person i can somewhat relate to on this site. thank you for your time. -- Posted by Just Waiting Here at 11:19 am on June 26, 2008 Quote: from HatesYou at 11:16 am on June 26, 2008 i think you are by far, the only person i can somewhat relate to on this site. thank you for your time. :) -- Posted by CaliKevin at 1:23 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from HatesYou at 11:16 am on June 26, 2008 i think you are by far, the only person i can somewhat relate to on this site. thank you for your time. -- Posted by HatesYou at 2:01 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from CaliKevin at 4:23 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from HatesYou at 11:16 am on June 26, 2008 i think you are by far, the only person i can somewhat relate to on this site.    thank you for your time. oh hush. we rarely associate. -- Posted by chicklover at 7:04 pm on June 26, 2008 i'm not really sure on the matter...you've made some point and i'm going to re-think what i use to think about it. but like some have said before, one man can not support more then one women. also sometimes people are only truly in love with one person and don't want to marry anyone but that one person because of that matter -- Posted by CaliKevin at 7:21 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from HatesYou at 2:01 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from CaliKevin at 4:23 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from HatesYou at 11:16 am on June 26, 2008 i think you are by far, the only person i can somewhat relate to on this site.   thank you for your time. oh hush. we rarely associate. Is that what you call my artistic critiques?   -- Posted by Mediocre at 7:38 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from chicklover at 7:04 pm on June 26, 2008 like some have said before, one man can not support more then one women. I heard women can get jobs now. It's all over the news. -- Posted by HatesYou at 12:54 am on June 29, 2008 Quote: from Mediocre at 10:38 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from chicklover at 7:04 pm on June 26, 2008 like some have said before, one man can not support more then one women. I heard women can get jobs now. It's all over the news. you've heard too? ghod, i though i was the only one. -- Posted by HatesYou at 6:34 pm on July 2, 2008 Quote: from CaliKevin at 1:39 pm on June 26, 2008 I think you'd be a good girlfriend because you're nice on the eyes. What? -- Posted by HatesYou at 6:35 pm on July 2, 2008 Quote: from BlueAutomatic at 1:41 pm on June 26, 2008 I think I'd be okay with polygamy, if I either entered a polygamous arrangement or my husband openly discussed it with me whilst in a monogamous relationship and discussed it with me properly and respected my wishes either way. I wouldn't, however, condone a man who enters a monogamous relationship and slyly moves around having sex with women whilst pretending to be faithful. That's not right. And I'd also like him to discuss what women he'd like to bring into the relationship as I would men. I agree completely. If i were to go more in depth with my standards, they would resemble yours very much.