-- Posted by Anonymous at 2:52 pm on June 26, 2008 Ok I have a boyfriend and we love each other. But a while back i got in contact with a boy that I consider my first love. We decided to meet up and hang out at the park. We never went to the park. We went to his house and he said he would behave himself. We talked and he had asked me if he could kiss me. I said I couldn't so we left it at that. Then he starts holding my hand and he lays me down on his bed. We started kissing and he was rubbing my stomach. He kissed on my neck and everything. I liked it and I still want to be with my current boyfriend but I always think of this other guy. Why do I continue to think about this other guy? and should I tell my boyfriend? -- Posted by dude101 at 2:54 pm on June 26, 2008 cheaterrrrrr -- Posted by taraxgoesxboom at 2:54 pm on June 26, 2008 Yes, that is cheating. There's probably a good chance if you tell him you two will break up, but it's the right thing to do. -- Posted by fpoon at 2:55 pm on June 26, 2008 you fell for it. Straight out. He played you right into his hands. Might as well dump your boyfriend. You probably don't realize it now, but you still really like your first love., more than your current boyfriend. of course, I could just be spouting off a bunch of crap, but at least its something to think about. -- Posted by cutiepuhtootie at 2:55 pm on June 26, 2008 girl, its lust your young..you seem to be a type that need to be single at this point -- Posted by TiffanyAnne at 2:56 pm on June 26, 2008 I think you have to ask yourself, 'who makes me happy. who is it that makes my heart beat faster whenever i see them' if it is your ex, go for it. if you don't, you will only end up hurting yourself. -- Posted by Anonymous at 2:57 pm on June 26, 2008 I might still be lusting for him but I cut off all ties with him...we don't talk anymore and I'm just trying not to think about him..I mean I think maybe I needed something new in my life for a while but I' happy where I'm at now -- Posted by Anonymous at 3:00 pm on June 26, 2008 U see that might seem simple TiffanyAnne but I have a baby by my current boyfriend..so I need to make a choice  that will be better for both me and my baby...I am still really young but I have a child thats leaning on me -- Posted by natisace at 3:01 pm on June 26, 2008 You cheated on your boyfriend.. you have to tell him -- Posted by BackPorch at 3:01 pm on June 26, 2008 It is cheating, unless you and your boyfriend have different definitions. Its natural to have feelings for someone EVEN if you love someone else. You just don't act on these feelings, or this crush. I think that if you are in love with two people, you shouldn't be with either of them. Its just not fair to anyone. I think you are allowed to have little crushes when you are in a relationship though. But its just that; a crush. And even then it should be pretty innocent, with minimal flirting. You still want to be with this other guy because you like him. You need to think hard about who you want, because it isn't fair to either of them, especially your boyfriend, to be acting like this. Should you tell your boyfriend? Thats really your call. If you really want to be with him, and are going to cut off ties with the guy who you cheated on him with, then maybe you should just let it go. -- Posted by SLe3piinBeAuTii at 3:01 pm on June 26, 2008 cheatercheatercheatercheater! Lol -- Posted by BackPorch at 3:02 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 3:00 pm on June 26, 2008 U see that might seem simple TiffanyAnne but I have a baby by my current boyfriend..so I need to make a choice  that will be better for both me and my baby...I am still really young but I have a child thats leaning on me That would have been helpful to include -- Posted by TiffanyAnne at 3:05 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 3:00 pm on June 26, 2008 U see that might seem simple TiffanyAnne but I have a baby by my current boyfriend..so I need to make a choice that will be better for both me and my baby...I am still really young but I have a child thats leaning on me You don't want to stay with someone just because you have a child with them. If you do, you don't know how it will effect you in the future or how that will effect your child. You want your baby to grow up seeing you happy, not guilty. -- Posted by savannaaa at 3:06 pm on June 26, 2008 You got played... What exactly are the different reasons for being with this other guy? You probably just feel lust for him. And your boyfriend? Poor guy. Do you even care for him? -- Posted by hotbichic16 at 3:13 pm on June 26, 2008 It is cheating...And yes you should tell your boyfriend...If your current boyfriend truely does love you...He will stay with you and help you get over the other...But you may be meant for the other... -- Posted by Anonymous at 3:27 pm on June 26, 2008 I know its wrong but whats done is done so I can't go back in time and change what I did now..The point is how can I make it better...I know it was unfair to them both but the other guy knew I had a boyfriend and a baby....So it was only unfair to my boyfriend who doesn't know a thing about what I did..I hate what I did but I don't think i want him to know about it..That would be just clearing my guilt and putting hurt on him...so i rather live with it for the rest of my life if i have to...it's my fault and he doesn't need that kind of pain on him...thanks everybody for your post and the post that come after this one...thanks everyone -- Posted by RainBowBow at 12:34 pm on June 28, 2008 just keep your mouth shut lol -- Posted by nik1 at 3:52 am on June 29, 2008 Yes, it's cheating. If you are still having thoughts about your ex it is totally unfair to your current bf.   Sometimes it takes years to get over an ex.  Sometimes you never do.   If there is not something about your ex that you can't deal with such as; honesty, loyalty, dependability, character, drinking or drugs then I would suggest that you save yourself and your current bf a lot of angst and go back to your ex.   -- Posted by xcutioners at 4:56 pm on June 29, 2008 Cheating. You don't deserve a boyfriend. -- Posted by iwantcandy at 5:24 pm on June 29, 2008 tell your boyfriend. -- Posted by gunger at 4:51 am on July 1, 2008 yer in a way it is you should tell him