-- Posted by Anonymous at 8:26 pm on June 26, 2008 So yea, I asked out this female friend of mine and i think i finally bbroke the "just friends" barrier. but lately her lifes been sucking so bad and shes really really sick and shes been more like "OMG my life sucksssss" and complaining to me while im trying to flirt with her. So i start ignoring her and just waiting for her crappy times to be over...but she keeps im'ing me and writing on my facebook wall, complaining about her life issues (NOT guy problems though) and i cant ignore her.  but im trying real hard to distance myself from her so we become less and less as friends. how to do it?? -- Posted by Anonymous at 8:28 pm on June 26, 2008 so u're trying to date her by being a douchebag to her? fuck man, that's a new one -- Posted by littlewonderxo at 8:28 pm on June 26, 2008 tell her shes annoying and got too many problems. my guy friend did that and she never talked to him again. so that should work =p -- Posted by mcrfool at 8:28 pm on June 26, 2008 I suggest you just stick with her since it doesn't sound like you constantly have to give her advice. Just listen and be there. -- Posted by Anonymous at 8:28 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 8:28 pm on June 26, 2008 so u're trying to date her by being a douchebag to her? fuck man, that's a new one well, thats how i got stuck in her friend zoene in the first place -- Posted by LudovicoTechnique at 8:29 pm on June 26, 2008 You're a terrible friend. -- Posted by branflakes at 8:30 pm on June 26, 2008 distance yourself at first and if she rants to you, tell her you're not her counselor -- Posted by Anonymous at 8:30 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from TheFortunate at 8:29 pm on June 26, 2008 You're a terrible friend. youre right.  i dont want to be her friend.  i want to date her instead. -- Posted by LudovicoTechnique at 8:34 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 8:30 pm on June 26, 2008 Quote: from TheFortunate at 8:29 pm on June 26, 2008 You're a terrible friend.     youre right. i dont want to be her friend. i want to date her instead. You're not making any sense, just because you're helping her out doesn't rule you out for dating. I mean she's reaching out to you when she needs you the most and you're just shunning her, I wouldn't be surprised if she hated you. If you can't stand her at her worst, you don't deserve her at her best. -- Posted by Themakingofagod at 8:36 pm on June 26, 2008 Honestly, I'm kind of in the same position, but you have to be reasonable about things.  How on earth do you expect her to want to date you if you won't even be a good friend to her?  Even though you don't want a friendship with her, a friendship is literally the foundation of everything else that comes along with it.  From the way you're saying it, you're making it sound like you don't care if she's happy or not, as long as you get to date her.  If thats the case, its no wonder why you ended up in the friend zone, because I wouldn't consider dating someone that seemed to have their intentions WAY off track anyways. -- Posted by RainBowBow at 12:23 pm on June 28, 2008 You shouldn't do it because this is time that you need to comfort  her then you will get the chick