-- Posted by Lillylove at 2:16 pm on June 29, 2008 We are stuck with our dorm rooms and can't afford to go elsewhere. My room mate and her boy friend don't mind someone else in the room but the guy I'm dating at the moment is very shy and inhibited. He insists on the covers being over us and won't let me get on top and he won't get very active, only wants to do it quietly. Will he get over it and is there anything I can say or do to help him? I'm getting frustrated because he won't be active.     What do others do in this situation? -- Posted by PinkLotus at 2:17 pm on June 29, 2008 Go somewhere, save for a hotel room? -- Posted by lmc11591 at 2:17 pm on June 29, 2008 go somewhere private. how about that? -- Posted by greeneyedone at 2:17 pm on June 29, 2008 It is sex. It is a personal thing. You cant expect him to change because you cant go anywhere else. Just wait til she leaves. -- Posted by iBritt at 2:18 pm on June 29, 2008 Wait, what?  You want to have sex with your roommate in the room? She has sex when other people are in the room? What?  I'm so confused -- Posted by metacarPi at 2:18 pm on June 29, 2008 Do it in the bathroom. Or ask your room mate to leave for like half an hour. -- Posted by assman27 at 2:19 pm on June 29, 2008 just go somewere else. xx -- Posted by effyouseakay at 2:19 pm on June 29, 2008 Handcuff him and take charge! -- Posted by Ashley91 at 2:19 pm on June 29, 2008 go to a park and do it there at night i do omg its so fun. -- Posted by chicklover at 2:20 pm on June 29, 2008 go to his room and kick his roommate out?? -- Posted by brunettechic at 2:22 pm on June 29, 2008 Try and get to the room while your roommate is in class or out with her boyfriend. -- Posted by inside out oreo at 2:24 pm on June 29, 2008 idk, it's just his nature. like in my nature, i could fuck the hell out of a girl in someones living room with 20 people watching us and not give a shit... it's just how we are and your boyfriend is shy. so, no, he probably won't change. -- Posted by Lillylove at 2:29 pm on June 29, 2008 It isn't all that simple or else we would have solved the problem by now. Her boyfriend lives at home, the guy I'm dating rooms with  three other guys. We aren't into quickies so we are talking about an afternoon, an evening or a night, especially on week ends. My guy will just have to adjust and get used to it but I don't know what to do to hurry it up.  It bothered me at first but I realized we paid no attention to one another so it didn't matter and I just pretended they weren't there.. -- Posted by shea399 at 9:08 pm on July 5, 2008 Meet over summer vacation instead of being pressured to do it in the dorm room -- Posted by chinaman at 4:11 pm on July 15, 2008 well...theres two situations to this problem lillyLove, 1. he's really gay but doesnt want anyone to know... 2. he's just a pussycat... i mean, i don't like having sex with people around either, but eh...watever floats your boat... If you want more sex with your bf, just do it at his place or somewhere else... make it exciting... Go dick around in a dressing room stall or even under a tree. Sex is great! Enjoy it before he has to take viagara or you need ky ...haha -- Posted by Hexer at 4:44 am on July 25, 2008 Naturally sex is a private thing for many. Your room is the only place you can really do it. Just ask your room-mate to leave for a hour or so. You need the option for private time. Hopefully he will get into the swing of things in privacy. Just let things happen. You just cannot expect him to have sex with your room-mate around. I wouldn't like the idea of that privacy invasion. As for the covers. It may be his preference. Work through things slowly. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 6:57 am on July 25, 2008 Quote: from Hexer at 7:44 am on July 25, 2008 Naturally sex is a private thing for many. Your room is the only place you can really do it. Just ask your room-mate to leave for a hour or so. You need the option for private time. Hopefully he will get into the swing of things in privacy. Just let things happen. You just cannot expect him to have sex with your room-mate around. I wouldn't like the idea of that privacy invasion. As for the covers. It may be his preference. Work through things slowly. QFT. :) -- Posted by nik1 at 2:28 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 There a some things that are sacred with me.  Sharing my gf with anyone is sacred and I mean in any form including visual. Some people have no class, no inhibitions, no brakes in their life.  The shy guy that you are dating is the only one that has good sense. -- Posted by Johnboysfun at 3:21 pm on Sep. 6, 2008 I really don't care if others are in the room. I prefer it if they are having sex, too. I only bring the two or three girls I regularly go outwith. If I found "the one" I'd feel entirely different about it I think.