-- Posted by daveythewavey19 at 2:05 pm on July 5, 2008 I just started going out with this girl about a month ago and already we're having problems. We don't really seem to connect much when we're just hanging out; i'll try to have a conversation with her but she isn't really into it. It seems like all the sudden she isn't interested in me. And I guess that's fine if she's found out she really doesn't like me, but the thing is, it seems like she's trying to force an unnatural relationship.      Let me explain: The first time we went out, we had a lot of fun and we had sex at the end of our first date and the next three times i saw her, we also had sex. So i'm like, "this is great," but then after that third time, she starts asking if all i want is sex, and i say no and that's the truth. From there, she just seemed to get colder and colder towards me. It kind of pissed me off because she obviously liked me, but she's trying to force the relationship into some kind of ideal type that she won't explain to me so i kind try and make it happen. The whole, no sex this time so we have a more meaningful relationship thing. Just seems unnatural to me and we should just go with the flow. Either that, or she shouldn't of had sex with me on the first date because i defiantley didn't force it on her.   What do you think? Also, she still had a picture of her ex as her cell-phone background when she was over the first couple of times. Should i worry about that?   -- Posted by Permious at 2:06 pm on July 5, 2008 I wouldn't worry, but maybe you should get even? Does she have a sister? -- Posted by randyfehr at 2:07 pm on July 5, 2008 well if you did not have sex with her at the begining then that wont happen sex changes alot of things? -- Posted by daveythewavey19 at 2:07 pm on July 5, 2008 there's nothing to get even about -- Posted by Permious at 2:08 pm on July 5, 2008 Quote: from daveythewavey19 at 2:07 pm on July 5, 2008 there's nothing to get even about Are you sure? -- Posted by daveythewavey19 at 2:09 pm on July 5, 2008 Quote: from randyfehr at 2:07 pm on July 5, 2008 well if you did not have sex with her at the begining then that wont happen sex changes alot of things? that's why i feel that it's kind of fake to try and stop havign sex JUST to make the relationship into something 'more' as she puts it. I do like her not just for sex though. -- Posted by daveythewavey19 at 2:10 pm on July 5, 2008 Quote: from Permious at 2:08 pm on July 5, 2008 Quote: from daveythewavey19 at 2:07 pm on July 5, 2008 there's nothing to get even about Are you sure? What do you mean? You think she's cheating? -- Posted by niccole1 at 2:10 pm on July 5, 2008 Quote: from randyfehr at 2:07 pm on July 5, 2008 well if you did not have sex with her at the begining then that wont happen sex changes alot of things? do this -- Posted by daveythewavey19 at 2:12 pm on July 5, 2008 Quote: from niccole1 at 2:10 pm on July 5, 2008 Quote: from randyfehr at 2:07 pm on July 5, 2008 well if you did not have sex with her at the begining then that wont happen sex changes alot of things? do this you're probably right, but i can't take back having sex -- Posted by boyfinatic516 at 2:18 pm on July 5, 2008 sit her down let her know no how u feel ..I HAD THE EXACT issue with my ex- i though all he wanted was sex..take her on a romantic date tell her how u feel& then fuck her good soo she can get it through her skull that u like her! -- Posted by daveythewavey19 at 2:19 pm on July 5, 2008 Quote: from boyfinatic516 at 2:18 pm on July 5, 2008 sit her down let her know no how u feel ..I HAD THE EXACT issue with my ex- i though all he wanted was sex..take her on a romantic date tell her how u feel& then fuck her good soo she can get it through her skull that u like her! good idea -- Posted by beautifullydesigned at 2:29 pm on July 5, 2008 if you really care for her just dont make it all about sex and see what happens because sometimes ppl feel like thats the only reason he or she is around prove her otherwise. -- Posted by daveythewavey19 at 2:37 pm on July 5, 2008 that's what i'm trying to do, i'm pretty damn bad at coming up with fun things to do -- Posted by niccole1 at 3:04 pm on July 17, 2008 Quote: from Permious at 2:06 pm on July 5, 2008 I wouldn't worry, but maybe you should get even? Does she have a sister? lolzx yeah fucking go with her sister -- Posted by nik1 at 9:04 am on July 18, 2008 Yep....you hit the nail on the head.  She shouldn't have had sex with you on the first date...or second or third. The bottom line it appears she is not over her ex. You dated you, you had sex and it's over..deal with it. -- Posted by daveythewavey19 at 3:19 pm on July 18, 2008 well, she officialy broke it off the other day. so that's that. Her friend supposedly died in a car crash and that was the reason she wasn't contacting me, don't know if i believe her, don't care now. Oh well.