-- Posted by Anonymous at 11:28 am on July 10, 2008 Im 15 years old, and my sister is 17. She has had adhd and many other socially restricting learning disabilities her whole life. She acts extremely immature at all times, more like an 11 year old than anything. I love my sister but it is sooooo hard to deal with this. She is constantly getting all the attention in the family because simple issues upset her and cause her to cry and make a scene so everyone has to feel bad. Whenever she wants something or wants me to do things her way and i refuse, she simply crys and my mother screams and me and she always gets what she wants. I'm constantly told that i have to "understand that she's not like me" which i completely do, but im just sick of getting shit on because of it. Whenever i go out with my friends, i have to take her. Now, i could understand that if she was my YOUNGER sister, but she is a senior in high school! Not to mention her social skills are slim to none (last time i took her out to eat with my friends she pulled out a q-tip from her pocket and cleaned her ears at the dinner table) and everyone in my family seems to think IM the problem. Also, this trend does not work both ways. When she goes out with any of her few friends I'm not allowed to go at all. It seems that nobody cares about my feelings and she always comes first because she has "problems" but how am i ever going to get any attention? or even respect from my family? Nobody cares what im feeling or what i have to say. its all about HER. and always has been. -- Posted by note to self at 11:31 am on July 10, 2008 Tell your mom when your sister is not around that she is annoying to you and she is always getting in the way of you haveing a normal friendship with ppl from your school -- Posted by littlewing at 11:35 am on July 10, 2008 Your parents have it all wrong.  I really hope she doesn't say that she's "not like other people" to her. That's really cruel.  It's treating people different that makes them feel different.  Your friends are your friends and your parents need to respect that.  If your mum knows your on LW show her this post you made so she can see how much things are really bothering you.  You need to have a bit of respect for your sister though, it's tough living wth someone with a disability i know that myself, my brother is autistic but can you imagine actually living with that disabilty yourself, that must be hard.  Be there for your sis and you might see some results. -- Posted by eatcrayons1227 at 11:45 am on July 10, 2008 I have a cousin who has problems like that where he acts extremely immature. Maybe if you hang out with your sister more when you're at the house, she won't have to go other places with her. In most cases I see the siblings of disabled children getting more attention when they do something different that the parents like. The brother of my extremely immature cousin picked up art because his father is an artist. And maybe the next time something comes around and they scream at you, refuse to do it and explain that she will never learn if they keep treating her like a ten year old. -- Posted by Frubeling at 10:20 am on July 12, 2008 It sounds to me as though she is taking advantage of her disabilities and playing the "Oh poor me, I have learning disabilities, pity me" card