-- Posted by Evangelion at 3:35 pm on July 15, 2008 does the girl really expect for the guy to handle most of the convo-initiation? because i think its definitely should be the girl since thats more of their area. if a guy asked you out for coffee or lunch or something, do you expect him to dominate the conversation? (keep in mind that the guy isn't the ideal confident man) -- Posted by HatesYou at 3:36 pm on July 15, 2008 Neither. Simply go with the flow. You're both there to get to know each other. Why plan out a conversation? -- Posted by acausedelle at 3:36 pm on July 15, 2008 I believe most girls would think that because the guy is supposed to be the confident one. -- Posted by crazy4her at 3:36 pm on July 15, 2008 no girls like to be paid attention to. when she talks look into her eyes. agree with things or if not give ur side -- Posted by Skip at 3:36 pm on July 15, 2008 i expect both people to have equal say in the conversation.  or if one person is more interested in the other, they should be the one initiating a lot -- Posted by branflakes at 3:36 pm on July 15, 2008 guys should be leading the girls to talk and throwing some points here and there to demonstrate his value -- Posted by thesketch at 3:37 pm on July 15, 2008 talking too much is a turn off for a lot of girls. i agree with whoever said "go with the flow." -- Posted by Hoop chic08 at 3:37 pm on July 15, 2008 idk. -- Posted by usblogger at 3:47 pm on July 15, 2008 i think the flow is important. keep the flow, but don't talk too much. don't abruptly change topics too often. but know that you might be expected to drive the conversation. -- Posted by chinaman at 3:56 pm on July 15, 2008 i hate it when theres long silences during conversations with a girl you are interested in... i say... both needs to put effort in the convo... i dont think guys need to start the convo but for me, it usually happens cuz the girl is usually shyer than the guy... so, i say, order some strong tasting coffee and strap down and prepare to talk! Bring some random topics up! Don't be a fool ! -- Posted by thesketch at 4:06 pm on July 15, 2008 f'shosho -- Posted by noahtheman at 1:11 am on July 16, 2008 Your first mistake was asking her out for coffee. Now she's going to think you just want to be her friend or something, assuming you want more of course. Friend status is not good at all. -- Posted by nik1 at 2:35 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 If you invited her out I would think you would want to impress her and forcing her to do all the talking does not look well for you.