-- Posted by like BAMM at 3:53 pm on July 15, 2008 I asked out my friend on a date suddenly and she said yes. But for the past few days, I've realized that I was never really attracted to her and the only reason I asked her out was some weird hormonal effect. I've realized that she totally isn't my type (both looks and personality-wise). But we already have a date planned the first week we get back to college this August. How do I tell her nicely that I don't want the date anymore and just want to be friends? (because immediately after she said yes to me, she's been playing hard-to-get and acting flirty but on-and-off and ignoring me sometimes). -- Posted by Skip at 3:54 pm on July 15, 2008 say something came up -- Posted by Hoop chic08 at 3:54 pm on July 15, 2008 well................. -- Posted by Troll1000 at 3:55 pm on July 15, 2008 just go out and have a good time anyway? nothing has to happen -- Posted by Raiku at 3:55 pm on July 15, 2008 "hey bitch, i wont be seeing you anymore. the fact is that i know youll be cheating on me" -- Posted by K r E s C e N d O at 3:55 pm on July 15, 2008 "I think we should be just friends" [: -- Posted by leahslove at 3:55 pm on July 15, 2008 tell the truth -- Posted by hungryboi at 3:55 pm on July 15, 2008 Damn man.  Good luck with that.  You don't want ot lose a friend. -- Posted by HelHound at 3:55 pm on July 15, 2008 Go through with the first date, and if it doesn't work out. Break it to her slowly the day after. -- Posted by Twilove at 3:55 pm on July 15, 2008 don't cancel but instead go out and tell her either while on you date or afterwards that you had (or are having) a good time but that it'd be better to stay friends.... -- Posted by brittanybubble at 4:00 pm on July 15, 2008 Go with her on the date. Then after, tell her that it didn't really work out. -- Posted by thesketch at 4:03 pm on July 15, 2008 pretend to have a seizure in the middle of the date -- Posted by daddydwm at 4:04 pm on July 15, 2008 dont even be stupid to go out with her without telling her the truth...next time you talk to her explain that you feel the friendship is more important and you dont want to do anything to jeopardize that. then if she is willing knowing the rules go on the date -- Posted by Millerr at 4:06 pm on July 15, 2008 sry i cant -- Posted by Evolutionism at 4:06 pm on July 15, 2008 Quote: from Troll1000 at 3:55 pm on July 15, 2008 just go out and have a good time anyway? nothing has to happen Yup I agree. Unless it's clear that it's date with romantic intentions. Also, Like BAMM, you may want to take some more time to think about these things next time you ask a girl on a date. Good luck. You're in a sticky situation.   -- Posted by noahtheman at 1:28 am on July 16, 2008 Cancel at the last minute saying a family member died and you are no longer up to dating. -- Posted by cha chi at 1:41 am on July 16, 2008 Quote: from like BAMM at 3:53 pm on July 15, 2008 I asked out my friend on a date suddenly and she said yes. But for the past few days, I've realized that I was never really attracted to her and the only reason I asked her out was some weird hormonal effect. I've realized that she totally isn't my type (both looks and personality-wise). But we already have a date planned the first week we get back to college this August. How do I tell her nicely that I don't want the date anymore and just want to be friends? (because immediately after she said yes to me, she's been playing hard-to-get and acting flirty but on-and-off and ignoring me sometimes). Why dont you take her anyways? A date is just a date. At the end of the date just tell her that you think u have different interests and dont think that it will go any further than just being friends. And you never know, the date might end up better than you think. What if other things about her help you think that you might infact be attracted to her? To be honest with you, i am seeing someone that is one of my friends and I NEVER in my life thought that i would be seeing/sleeping with this person. They are just "that person" ya know? You dont think that you are going to be attracted to them until something happens and i think it was definitely something great that happened. I enjoy what is going on and we are both attracted to each other now, and either of us werent before. So dont judge by just first appearance or however you know her, cause it could be very different if you opened new doors and options. Obviously she wants to go on the date with you cause she is intersted in seeing what you are about on a different level. I say try it out and if not, then as simple as pie... just tell her that you dont think it will go anywhere. Good Luck. -- Posted by DearRainy at 1:57 am on July 16, 2008 Depends on HOW you asked her. If you asker her to go on a formal type of date, back out of it by being kind, but honest. If you asked her in a casual sort, use the technicality that you only meant it as a friendly gathering. -- Posted by Kenneth Hardy at 12:08 pm on July 16, 2008 Tell her that your Spy Sapper is on the fritz and can't go on a date until it's fixed. Then spend your days playing TF2. -- Posted by talkofla at 1:10 am on July 17, 2008 I think you just go on the date and just act as if nothing has changed and just act like you guys are nothing but friends. It should be find. -- Posted by PartyGurl1 at 8:11 am on July 17, 2008 Stick it in her poodinani right away....that always breaks the ice for me. Or if you really don't wanna go tell her your to buisy hanging out at www.digitalfuntown.com/homepage.php. And if she says she doesn't know what the is tell her she's deffinitely not cool enough to hang out with you. -- Posted by armygirll88 at 8:48 am on July 17, 2008 i would either tell her the truth or just go out with her anyway you never know what could happen. things could change. -- Posted by erolimo at 1:26 pm on July 17, 2008 A date does not have to end up with a relationship. It is a way to see if things go that way. You don't have to lie to her. -- Posted by kaamni4 at 2:31 pm on July 17, 2008 tell her that you just like her as a friend that your feelings have changed but that you would liek to hang out with her as friends, if she still wants. -- Posted by Kenneth Hardy at 3:22 pm on July 17, 2008 Another suggestion is that: Your base is under attack by a Zerg Rush. You'll need more time and minerals. -- Posted by nik1 at 9:01 am on July 18, 2008 What's the big deal going on a date with her.  Relax, you aren't asking her to marry you.  It's best that you don't be a schmuck and cancel the date.  Take her out be nice, talk to her, ask her questions, have a good time but it is not a commitment.  It is better you do this than ruin the friendship.   -- Posted by youcef at 10:05 am on July 18, 2008 Quote: from Rtheory at 6:55 pm on July 15, 2008 "I think we should be just friends" [: the words no one wants to hear.