-- Posted by salbockid at 11:18 pm on July 15, 2008 So i had recently gotten into a relationship with my dream guy. Everything was right, we look good together. We waited for two months to have sex, the first time was exquiste    the second time was jst ok, as he struggles wit his erection. I know he masturbate alot, and im assuming its the cause of dat (erectile problem). I like him alot and want to work at this but i don't know how and where to start. It hard for me to put him on a masturbating leash cause we don't live together and most of all he is in denial. He is a sex addict, i think, he gets erected in the sight of a hot chick walking by. He just graduated and wrk alot, so i don't know what to do, maybe he was tired from work or maybe im just being demanding   -- Posted by UltimaTaz at 11:23 pm on July 15, 2008 maybe you could have a relationship that doesn't revolve around sex? -- Posted by plumc0la at 11:24 pm on July 15, 2008 Quote: from UltimaTaz at 11:23 pm on July 15, 2008 maybe you could have a relationship that doesn't revolve around sex? yea this -- Posted by iBritt at 11:27 pm on July 15, 2008 Quote: from UltimaTaz at 2:23 am on July 16, 2008 maybe you could have a relationship that doesn't revolve around sex? Truth. -- Posted by imSOFAKINGrad at 11:32 pm on July 15, 2008 Quote: from iBritt at 11:27 pm on July 15, 2008 Quote: from UltimaTaz at 2:23 am on July 16, 2008 maybe you could have a relationship that doesn't revolve around sex? Truth. that would make to much sense though -- Posted by Meep123 at 11:32 pm on July 15, 2008 I don't think his masturbation is the problem... -- Posted by salbockid at 11:33 pm on July 15, 2008 of course our relationship does not revolve around sex, he is a busy man and we had sex two in a month, is that too much? -- Posted by HXC at 11:38 pm on July 15, 2008 maybe you just don't turn him on as much as the girls on the computer screen do. -- Posted by Aratal at 8:36 am on July 16, 2008 Hey how about more foreplay? :D -- Posted by Aratal at 8:37 am on July 16, 2008 Quote: from HXC at 11:38 pm on July 15, 2008 maybe you just don't turn him on as much as the girls on the computer screen do. That was uncalled for you know. A lot of girls have self-esteem issues about that. -- Posted by JeremyM at 8:59 am on July 16, 2008 Quote: from Aratal at 11:37 am on July 16, 2008 Quote: from HXC at 11:38 pm on July 15, 2008 maybe you just don't turn him on as much as the girls on the computer screen do. That was uncalled for you know. A lot of girls have self-esteem issues about that. HAHAHHA but it was SO funny. -- Posted by Aratal at 3:56 pm on July 16, 2008 Quote: from JeremyM at 8:59 am on July 16, 2008 Quote: from Aratal at 11:37 am on July 16, 2008 Quote: from HXC at 11:38 pm on July 15, 2008 maybe you just don't turn him on as much as the girls on the computer screen do.    That was uncalled for you know. A lot of girls have self-esteem issues about that. HAHAHHA but it was SO funny. This is why I worry about the human race. -- Posted by salbockid at 4:26 pm on July 16, 2008 i did turn him on but he fall off, how can dat be and yes im no porn star, and he knows that. And no dat does not threaten my self esteem, cause im the best catch he ever had, i saw pics. He can attest to dat. -- Posted by JeremyM at 6:45 am on July 17, 2008 Dis and dat don't make no ain't nigga what!!!! SHEEEITTTTTT. -- Posted by PartyGurl1 at 8:16 am on July 17, 2008 Ok so I have also gone out with a masturbating addict. What I did was make sure to have sex with him twice a day until he broke his masturbating habit. -- Posted by slct at 8:09 am on July 22, 2008 As a sex addict myself, I can assure you that getting it up isn't the problem, it's the staying power. The only time he should ever have a problem getting it up is if he masturbated RIGHT before having sex with you, which would be pretty stupid. Honestly, make the effort to blow him everyday and hopefully that will keep his hand off his dick. -- Posted by gprime at 7:40 pm on July 23, 2008 Quote: from salbockid at 4:26 pm on July 16, 2008 i did turn him on but he fall off, how can dat be and yes im no porn star, and he knows that. And no dat does not threaten my self esteem, cause im the best catch he ever had, i saw pics. He can attest to dat. Perhaps the issue is not so much your physical appearance of sexual talent, but your abuse of the English language that is killing off his erection. Maybe you should buy Hooked on Phonics, use it, and then get back in the bedroom. I bet it'll do wonders. -- Posted by Hexer at 8:03 am on July 24, 2008 Well it's never nice to see a topic devolve into what the first page was... Sex is an important part of a relationship once you've made that step. It does not mean the relationship revolves around sex! As for the problem, he would need to be masturbating lots for it to affect this ability to get an erection. It could very well be stress from work. If things still ain't working get him to see a doctor. -- Posted by Libertarian Samurai at 12:11 pm on July 24, 2008 Sounds like a medical problem, more than anything else.