-- Posted by Wolferz at 3:00 pm on July 18, 2008 I need your honest opinions.  And this is kinda long... I basically want to send an anonomous email or message to someone...She is dating a boy who makes me very upset.  I used to like him long ago, but since have gotten over it.  For a long time I envied the girl . . . I both hated her and then I loved her.. I wanted to tell her that she taught me certain things, like how to get over this guy, how to take chances and date other men...She is actually a lot like me and I see myself in her a lot.  I just want to let her know that she has affected my life, even tho we dont know each other.  I also want to tell her to take care of HIM for me and to always be thankful for him. Please be honest...is this creepy or weird?  And if so, what can be done to not seem that way? Would you personally be flattered if someone said something like "Ohh you really inspired me to go out there and date other guys. I used to be selfconscious, and I think we seem similar. So thanks for being the brave one"??? And also, should I give her my real name? -- Posted by alastrxxna at 3:03 pm on July 18, 2008 Dont give your real name, send it anon. i would be creeped, honestly. -- Posted by MaryLin at 3:03 pm on July 18, 2008 Go for it but tell her who you are. Otherwise it would be weird. -- Posted by Lovemetwicetoday at 3:03 pm on July 18, 2008 Don't bother it'll only frustrate you more, probably bring back old memories of you and him... -- Posted by Birdo at 3:03 pm on July 18, 2008 Write anonymous letters to her, The Perks of Being a Wallflower style. -- Posted by xwhylovewhyhatex at 3:03 pm on July 18, 2008 Well, it would probably seem weird if you don't know eachother at all, like you stalk her life or something to find out this stuff that inspires you.   -- Posted by cherubcheex at 3:10 pm on July 18, 2008 Chances are your ex boyfriend will also find out what you said to her and it is kind of weird. -- Posted by twilightdancer at 3:55 pm on July 18, 2008 I think you should do it, but I agree just make it anonymous since you don't know each other anyway. -- Posted by Evolutionism at 10:09 am on July 19, 2008 If you really, really, need to do this for a sense of closure, then go ahead and send it. Just know that it's kind of creepy and over-dramatic. -- Posted by Is this you at 6:16 am on July 20, 2008 I don't think it's necessary, and it might not make her feel that good.