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-- Posted by tenchi1084 at 8:20 pm on July 21, 2008

this is a story I'm embarrased to admit, but it's for your benefit for those who read this.

I put an ad up on craigslist.  no big.  just wanted to meet a guy, and if things clicked, maybe do a bit more.

without going into detail...part way through, he says something about his wife.

I should have said "wtf?! get out of my house!"  

but I couldn't muster up the balls to tell him to leave.  

so afterwards, he's going on and on about doing this again as a possibility...

How can someone disregard the sanctity of marriage on at least a personal level???

I'm not innocent.  I'm guilty too.  I wanted my first time to do anything like that to be special, and I was looking for mr. right.  

this guy took advantage of that need.  but I took advantage of the situation, needless to say.  

fuck3r used my room mates mouthwash without asking(which I effectively replaced). I'm gonna cry my eyes out and beg the higher powers that be for forgiveness(I'm not even religious).  hah, fat chance of that happening.  I'm a bad person, even though I started with good intentions and was basically blindsighted.  

I believe what he told me as far as having no std's, given when we started he was wanting assurance that I had none(I have the paperwork to prove at that point I was a virgin and was std free).

It's embarrasing to admit this story.  but it's the truth.  stay away from craigslist as far as dating is concerned.  go to a dating service like eharmony or match.com.

don't become a heathen like me(though it wasn't on purpose...I'll still pay for my sin I'm sure...and I am sorry and will be even more sorry when death comes).


-- Posted by hateitandloveit at 8:20 pm on July 21, 2008

LMAO. Stay away from Craigslist personals, it's WEIRD AS FUCK.

I've done great transactions with good people with electronics and FS items, though


-- Posted by Ruben at 8:21 pm on July 21, 2008

u fucked him?


-- Posted by TheAsset at 8:21 pm on July 21, 2008

wow...


-- Posted by Love Today at 8:22 pm on July 21, 2008

Or maybe you can just find someone on your own..


-- Posted by barnabas at 8:22 pm on July 21, 2008

the rest of craigslist is cool...just not the personals.


-- Posted by Cant Take Me Home at 8:22 pm on July 21, 2008

There's something about sex with a married man...the way he's breaking his and his wife's courtship to be with another man...it's so fucking erotic, Idc what anybody says! Oh and don't worry, you're forgiven.


-- Posted by 420mike at 8:22 pm on July 21, 2008

Jesus...


-- Posted by musicfan3 at 8:23 pm on July 21, 2008

I'm speechless.


-- Posted by Ruben at 8:23 pm on July 21, 2008

so hes married to a woman yet hes lookin for men on the PC?


-- Posted by Dont Notice Me at 8:24 pm on July 21, 2008

you
are
a
dumbass


-- Posted by TNAwrestlingfan at 8:25 pm on July 21, 2008

Meh... perhaps his wife doesn't mind.


-- Posted by branflakes at 8:26 pm on July 21, 2008

you've got fucking balls, dude


-- Posted by tenchi1084 at 8:26 pm on July 21, 2008

Quote: from Cant Take Me Home at 8:22 pm on July 21, 2008


There's something about sex with a married man...the way he's breaking his and his wife's courtship to be with another man...it's so fucking erotic, Idc what anybody says! Oh and don't worry, you're forgiven.

eh, I don't think it's up to us humans whether we're forgiven.   thank you for caring...but I just don't think I deserve it.  I mean, I broke a vow that I fight to earn the right to have.

How can I even look at marriage seriously if I just helped someone take for granted?  I may have not meant to, but the sin still exists.(I may not be christian, but I know when I've done wrong.  after all, but good intentions pave the road to hell).


-- Posted by FiercexMelon at 8:27 pm on July 21, 2008

Craigslist is awesome...I got 2 free cats...and possibly a job.


-- Posted by dunebug at 8:34 pm on July 21, 2008

That's more of a personals than craigslist. ;-)

CL is great for buying/selling things.


-- Posted by TNAwrestlingfan at 8:51 pm on July 21, 2008

Quote: from tenchi1084 at 8:26 pm on July 21, 2008


Quote: from Cant Take Me Home at 8:22 pm on July 21, 2008

There's something about sex with a married man...the way he's breaking his and his wife's courtship to be with another man...it's so fucking erotic, Idc what anybody says! Oh and don't worry, you're forgiven.

eh, I don't think it's up to us humans whether we're forgiven. thank you for caring...but I just don't think I deserve it. I mean, I broke a vow that I fight to earn the right to have.

How can I even look at marriage seriously if I just helped someone take for granted? I may have not meant to, but the sin still exists.(I may not be christian, but I know when I've done wrong. after all, but good intentions pave the road to hell).


Dude... wtf? You say you're not religious? Well... you are. Hate to rain on your parade.

Don't worry about it. Nobody is punishing you "when death comes." I don't blame you for feeling guilty... but whatever. You can't change the past. Just deal with it.


-- Posted by tenchi1084 at 9:13 pm on July 21, 2008

Quote: from TNAwrestlingfan at 8:51 pm on July 21, 2008


Quote: from tenchi1084 at 8:26 pm on July 21, 2008

Quote: from Cant Take Me Home at 8:22 pm on July 21, 2008

There's something about sex with a married man...the way he's breaking his and his wife's courtship to be with another man...it's so fucking erotic, Idc what anybody says! Oh and don't worry, you're forgiven.
 

 eh, I don't think it's up to us humans whether we're forgiven.   thank you for caring...but I just don't think I deserve it.  I mean, I broke a vow that I fight to earn the right to have.  

 How can I even look at marriage seriously if I just helped someone take for granted?  I may have not meant to, but the sin still exists.(I may not be christian, but I know when I've done wrong.  after all, but good intentions pave the road to hell).


Dude... wtf? You say you're not religious? Well... you are. Hate to rain on your parade.

Don't worry about it. Nobody is punishing you "when death comes." I don't blame you for feeling guilty... but whatever. You can't change the past. Just deal with it.


well, I don't follow christian doctrine, but I know guilt(deserved or not) weighs heavily.


-- Posted by TNAwrestlingfan at 9:44 pm on July 21, 2008

Quote: from tenchi1084 at 9:13 pm on July 21, 2008


Quote: from TNAwrestlingfan at 8:51 pm on July 21, 2008

Quote: from tenchi1084 at 8:26 pm on July 21, 2008

Quote: from Cant Take Me Home at 8:22 pm on July 21, 2008

There's something about sex with a married man...the way he's breaking his and his wife's courtship to be with another man...it's so fucking erotic, Idc what anybody says! Oh and don't worry, you're forgiven.

  eh, I don't think it's up to us humans whether we're forgiven. thank you for caring...but I just don't think I deserve it. I mean, I broke a vow that I fight to earn the right to have.

  How can I even look at marriage seriously if I just helped someone take for granted? I may have not meant to, but the sin still exists.(I may not be christian, but I know when I've done wrong. after all, but good intentions pave the road to hell).


 

 Dude... wtf? You say you're not religious? Well... you are. Hate to rain on your parade.  

 Don't worry about it. Nobody is punishing you "when death comes." I don't blame you for feeling guilty... but whatever. You can't change the past. Just deal with it.


well, I don't follow christian doctrine, but I know guilt(deserved or not) weighs heavily.


Yeah... you sound pretty religious whether you're Christian or not. That just means you don't follow any one religion but just believe in whatever feels right to you. If someone is religious at all... that's the best kind. But anyway... you feel guilty now but I think it will pass in time. His ass shouldn't have been over there in the first place.


-- Posted by nik1 at 4:48 am on July 23, 2008

It's not craiglist that is at fault.  You had complete control over what happened.  He told you up front that he had a wife but that didn't stop you.

You made the bad decision and it's your stupidity, not him or Craigslist.  


-- Posted by tenchi1084 at 5:52 pm on July 23, 2008

um, he didn't tell me up front.  if you read my post, he waited until halfway through to tell me.  I asked him via e-mail "is there anything else I should know?" and he said no.  that is one of those things that should be said before meeting, shouldn't it?

If I had known then, I would have refused him.  he was already in my house and underway.  

doesn't exuse me of this sin, just been thinking...he shouldn't have even answered my post, because if I remember right, I said no married people.  so to drop that on me when it's too late...was entirely his fault.  but I'm still just as guilty, your right.


-- Posted by somelikeitred at 4:09 am on July 24, 2008

Wow. Yea...Craigslist is CREEPY.


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