-- Posted by swtpie at 1:32 pm on July 27, 2008 I'm in a 6 year relationship. My boyfriend and I've always fought about his parents. They bud in, and start shit. I had a year phase (3 years ago) where I was bossy and controlling. I became like that cause him and his ex were getting some what involved. Well, even to this day everyone continues to call my controlling. I find it hilarious sense they are the ones that seem to have the upper hand with my boyfriend. He runs to their beck and call. Every time he goes down to see his parents, he comes back and yells at me over things that happened years ago. I'm sick of them budding in and getting between us. Yesterday he hinted to me that it might be over. After so long of explaining to him that his parents are hurting us, he just doesn't see it. Should I just give up on this lost cause, or keep trying. -- Posted by HXC at 1:33 pm on July 27, 2008 move on, yo. -- Posted by Sokrates at 1:33 pm on July 27, 2008 Move on. Don't waste your energy. -- Posted by SpottedTiger at 1:33 pm on July 27, 2008 Move on. God. -- Posted by porcelain at 1:34 pm on July 27, 2008 If your heart is telling you that it's right to move on, then move on. It's a long relationship but if he can't get over the past then you're never going to be able to have a successful relationship. -- Posted by bloodline at 1:34 pm on July 27, 2008 6 years is a lot to lose. if you love him then you've gotta hold on -- Posted by prettymagik at 1:34 pm on July 27, 2008 move on -- Posted by az123 at 1:34 pm on July 27, 2008 give it one more shot and if not move on -- Posted by mo money17 at 1:35 pm on July 27, 2008 After six years, you should try your hardest to hold on. If you love him, that is... -- Posted by zenfusion1992 at 1:35 pm on July 27, 2008 Move on -- Posted by hivemind at 1:36 pm on July 27, 2008 just move on -- Posted by handsfree at 1:36 pm on July 27, 2008 keep on! -- Posted by Twilove at 1:37 pm on July 27, 2008 you might have wasted 6 years of your life -- Posted by Duke at 1:39 pm on July 27, 2008 That's your call, not ours. Just because you think you're not controlling doesn't make it true. People can see things different ways. The only thing you can do is have a heart-to-heart with him and see what your next step is. I think this is the same thing I told you when you posted this yesterday or the day before. -- Posted by Loner Dragon at 1:43 pm on July 27, 2008 give it one more shot and if not move on cause damn for six years i would think that it's pretty important -- Posted by swtpie at 1:44 pm on July 27, 2008 Quote: from Duke at 1:39 pm on July 27, 2008 That's your call, not ours. Just because you think you're not controlling doesn't make it true. People can see things different ways. The only thing you can do is have a heart-to-heart with him and see what your next step is. I think this is the same thing I told you when you posted this yesterday or the day before. I'm not controlling. I use to be for sure! ex, His parents want him to move to his aunts in another province. I suggested we moved, but to our own place. He then made it quite clear that he doesn't want to move at all. I left the issue alone. But every time he goes to his parents, he comes home and yells at me like I won't let him go. They are causing so many problems. And I have had that many heart to hearts, he just doesn't get it. Why would he. He doesn't want to believe his parents are trying to ruin his relationship. Even when we have those times that he sees what I'm on about. He forgets or ignores the issue. -- Posted by swtpie at 1:46 pm on July 27, 2008 Quote: from mo money17 at 1:35 pm on July 27, 2008 After six years, you should try your hardest to hold on. If you love him, that is... Quote: from Loner Dragon at 1:43 pm on July 27, 2008 give it one more shot and if not move on cause damn for six years i would think that it's pretty important Quote: from az123 at 1:34 pm on July 27, 2008 give it one more shot and if not move on I've given it that many "One more shots". I've been saying that for 2 years now. I do love him, but I don't see how it's going to work when he never stands up for me, and his parents continuously get involved. At this rate, they will be deciding ever choice we'll ever have to make. -- Posted by Duke at 1:47 pm on July 27, 2008 Well then, I guess you either suck it up and keep going the way you are, or you bounce. It doesn't seem that anything has changed in 6 years. But again, that's up to you. -- Posted by swtpie at 1:47 pm on July 27, 2008 Quote: from Twilove at 1:37 pm on July 27, 2008 you might have wasted 6 years of your life It's not exactly wasted. It was good while it lasted. -- Posted by xcutioners at 3:25 pm on July 27, 2008 Tell him to keep himself clean and start listening to himself before arguing. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 4:47 pm on July 27, 2008 If he lets his family come between you, then I'm so sorry. :(