-- Posted by Anonymous at 2:31 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 I'm wondering if any of you have waited a year before going to a university/college. I'm really lost right now and I'm in between two colleges that I have no desire to go to and I just realized I turned down the college that I really wanted to go to (you realize how much something means to you right when it's gone). I'm thinking of reapplying to other colleges and working full time. Good idea? Anyone done it before? -- Posted by Bitner at 2:32 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 nope. i went from high school straight to college. i didn't muck around -- Posted by fizzle123 at 2:35 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 firstly, stop raping the anon button, and i work part time and go to college. so maybe you should wait a year? -- Posted by starrynight401 at 2:35 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Go locally for a semester and reapply to the school you turned down now -- Posted by Lulamae at 2:36 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Can't you have a personal meeting with one of the people at the college to try to take back your choice to turn it down? -- Posted by Rebecca li at 2:39 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 I waited. I applied for a college and then decided I didn't want to go. So, even though I graduated, I went back to High School for a year and now I'm going to college. -- Posted by Anonymous at 2:42 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Quote: from Lulamae at 2:36 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Can't you have a personal meeting with one of the people at the college to try to take back your choice to turn it down? Possibly. I'm actually going to try that on Monday. The thing I'm worrying about in that case is finding an apartment. -- Posted by Anonymous at 2:42 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Quote: from Rebecca li at 2:39 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 I waited. I applied for a college and then decided I didn't want to go. So, even though I graduated, I went back to High School for a year and now I'm going to college. How did you go back to high school and why? -- Posted by teachme2party at 2:48 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 i went straight from high school to college.  and the college of my choice.  the best decision i think i have ever made -- Posted by Love Today at 2:50 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 I think that's what i'm going to be doing. -- Posted by Anonymous at 3:56 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Quote: from Love Today at 2:50 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 I think that's what i'm going to be doing. May I ask what your reasons for waiting are? -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 5:26 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 I went straight from Graduating as a Senior, to starting as a Freshman in University. Many who take a break/year off, hardly ever come back. -- Posted by TheatreMinelli at 6:11 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 I did another year at school to get better grades then got into a better uni. Even if I had the grades I wouldn't have wanted to go. The poster above me is misinformed. It is quite common nowadays to take a gap year. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 6:16 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 The poster above me is misinformed. It is quite common nowadays to take a gap year I would have to say I highly disagree, on account of the people I know that did take a year off, and even those who took off DURING their college years...they didn't come back. It's highly recommended to go STRAIGHT to college, on account of that. -- Posted by TheatreMinelli at 6:19 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 2:16 am on Aug. 3, 2008 The poster above me is misinformed. It is quite common nowadays to take a gap year I would have to say I highly disagree, on account of the people I know that did take a year off, and even those who took off DURING their college years...they didn't come back. It's highly recommended to go STRAIGHT to college, on account of that. Over here I would say at least 1/3 of students take a gap year before returning to Uni. Many of them work some travel but it is highly common. Universitys have also started favouring those who gap year to volunteer or travel. My friend went to work in a hostel in France for a year for people with mental health problems and got offered a top spot for medicine on condition he took this year out. another on of my friends just worked to save uo for Uni, I know people who have gone and worked in a ski chalet for a year. Gives you something more than just education. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 7:01 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Over here I would say at least 1/3 of students take a gap year before returning to Uni. Many of them work some travel but it is highly common. Universitys have also started favouring those who gap year to volunteer or travel. My friend went to work in a hostel in France for a year for people with mental health problems and got offered a top spot for medicine on condition he took this year out. another on of my friends just worked to save uo for Uni, I know people who have gone and worked in a ski chalet for a year. Gives you something more than just education. Issue with this: That's the UK. The UK does a LOT of things differently than the US. Taking a year to travel/volunteer is one thing, but many who take a year, end up falling into a drug life, or a sex life, that Uni's would NOT favor. -- Posted by TheatreMinelli at 7:06 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 3:01 am on Aug. 3, 2008 Over here I would say at least 1/3 of students take a gap year before returning to Uni. Many of them work some travel but it is highly common. Universitys have also started favouring those who gap year to volunteer or travel. My friend went to work in a hostel in France for a year for people with mental health problems and got offered a top spot for medicine on condition he took this year out. another on of my friends just worked to save uo for Uni, I know people who have gone and worked in a ski chalet for a year. Gives you something more than just education. Issue with this: That's the UK. The UK does a LOT of things differently than the US.   Taking a year to travel/volunteer is one thing, but many who take a year, end up falling into a drug life, or a sex life, that Uni's would NOT favor. Just because you are not in education does not mean your're going to fall into drug activity. Thats ridiculous...and sex life....so what. Just becuase someone is having sex doesn't mean they are not going back to Uni. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 7:27 pm on Aug. 2, 2008 Just because you are not in education does not mean your're going to fall into drug activity. Thats ridiculous...and sex life....so what. Just becuase someone is having sex doesn't mean they are not going back to Uni. Oh my Goddess. I said that, in a lot of the cases, that DOES happen. I didn't say it WOULD. Please to not put words in my mouth, okay? And by 'sex life', I meant...prositution. Whore-like behavior. Not your normal sex life. But, schools around here, would prefer you went straight into the Program. Those who 'muck around', as they put it, aren't exactly well welcomed. -- Posted by TheatreMinelli at 4:44 am on Aug. 3, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 3:27 am on Aug. 3, 2008 Just because you are not in education does not mean your're going to fall into drug activity. Thats ridiculous...and sex life....so what. Just becuase someone is having sex doesn't mean they are not going back to Uni. Oh my Goddess. I said that, in a lot of the cases, that DOES happen. I didn't say it WOULD. Please to not put words in my mouth, okay? And by 'sex life', I meant...prositution. Whore-like behavior. Not your normal sex life. But, schools around here, would prefer you went straight into the Program. Those who 'muck around', as they put it, aren't exactly well welcomed. I don't see what mucking around has to do with it some people just are not ready for Uni straight out of school, some people are still very immature, some people have been working hard for 18 years and want to see the world, some people cannot afford Uni straight out of school and have to save up some money in a job to pay for living costs. I think that decision 'Right I'm not quite ready for college I will defer a year' would be a lot mroe beneficial to the college then someone who went just because it was the done thing and then dropped out half way through because they realised they were not ready. And I don't know whereabouts you live, but it is very rare that someone taking a year out will go into prositution, unless they were vunerable to that sort of activity anyway. -- Posted by Anonymous at 10:34 am on Aug. 3, 2008 Yeah... I'm not going into prostitution. I have a 4.2 GPA and graduated 7th out of my class of 414. I know that I have very high opportunities out there, but I didn't apply to one of the colleges that I wanted to go to and I rejected another that I would have liked to go to. The two options remaining aren't those that I feel I'm informed enough to take. I feel like I'm being pressured into going to college just for the sake of going to college. I want to be in a place where I truly feel like it's another home to me, and right now I'm just being pushed into doing something too quickly. -- Posted by TheatreMinelli at 10:47 am on Aug. 3, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 6:34 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Yeah... I'm not going into prostitution.   I have a 4.2 GPA and graduated 7th out of my class of 414. I know that I have very high opportunities out there, but I didn't apply to one of the colleges that I wanted to go to and I rejected another that I would have liked to go to. The two options remaining aren't those that I feel I'm informed enough to take.   I feel like I'm being pressured into going to college just for the sake of going to college. I want to be in a place where I truly feel like it's another home to me, and right now I'm just being pushed into doing something too quickly.   As I have said it's more beneficial to both you and the college you go to, to be fully prepared and content with the decision you make. If you feel like you are being pressured into going to college do not give in. If you feel another year would faciliate you and your studies then do it and apply to somewhere you really want to go. After all it's alot of money and time wasted for somewhere you find mediocre. -- Posted by Uniq0ne at 1:26 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Quote: from theatreminelli at 4:44 am on Aug. 3, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 3:27 am on Aug. 3, 2008 Just because you are not in education does not mean your're going to fall into drug activity. Thats ridiculous...and sex life....so what. Just becuase someone is having sex doesn't mean they are not going back to Uni.        Oh my Goddess. I said that, in a lot of the cases, that DOES happen. I didn't say it WOULD. Please to not put words in my mouth, okay?    And by 'sex life', I meant...prositution. Whore-like behavior. Not your normal sex life.    But, schools around here, would prefer you went straight into the Program. Those who 'muck around', as they put it, aren't exactly well welcomed. I don't see what mucking around has to do with it some people just are not ready for Uni straight out of school, some people are still very immature, some people have been working hard for 18 years and want to see the world, some people cannot afford Uni straight out of school and have to save up some money in a job to pay for living costs. I think that decision 'Right I'm not quite ready for college I will defer a year' would be a lot mroe beneficial to the college then someone who went just because it was the done thing and then dropped out half way through because they realised they were not ready. And I don't know whereabouts you live, but it is very rare that someone taking a year out will go into prositution, unless they were vunerable to that sort of activity anyway.   ^PREACH -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 2:02 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 [quote I don't see what mucking around has to do with it some people just are not ready for Uni straight out of school, some people are still very immature, some people have been working hard for 18 years and want to see the world, some people cannot afford Uni straight out of school and have to save up some money in a job to pay for living costs. Mucking around has a lot to do with it. Many colleges see your year off, unless with a granted aspect of volunteering, or helping some poor, third world country, as mucking around. As taking a year off. As doing the uncessary. As the unexpected. As the unacceptable. I think that decision 'Right I'm not quite ready for college I will defer a year' would be a lot mroe beneficial to the college then someone who went just because it was the done thing and then dropped out half way through because they realised they were not ready. If that were the case, then why do colleges STRIVE for people to join, RIGHT OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL? Why do they PUSH it, so bad? In High School, hell, in MIDDLE SCHOOL, that's all you hear. College this, college that. Starting in the elementary level, you're pushed to your major. You're pushed to put a decision on life, a stamp, of sorts, if only a temporary one, to show an interest in college. And I don't know whereabouts you live, but it is very rare that someone taking a year out will go into prositution, unless they were vunerable to that sort of activity anyway. Sheesh. I didn't say it would happen, again. But it could. Without college, these days, you're petty much fucked/screwed. You cannot find a good paying job on a high school degree. Hell,e ven those with GEDs are striving. You pretty much have to have a college degree to get anywhere. And, if you take a year off, what are you to do, if you can't get a job? You resort to the lowest forms, as it's the only way. Yeah... I'm not going into prostitution. I have a 4.2 GPA and graduated 7th out of my class of 414. I know that I have very high opportunities out there, but I didn't apply to one of the colleges that I wanted to go to and I rejected another that I would have liked to go to. The two options remaining aren't those that I feel I'm informed enough to take. I feel like I'm being pressured into going to college just for the sake of going to college. I want to be in a place where I truly feel like it's another home to me, and right now I'm just being pushed into doing something too quickly Your grades are a sign that you SHOULD go to college RIGHT AFTER HIGH SCHOOL. You could lose that knowledge, in that year off. You could lose that status. You don't want that, because, the second it's gone, it's not coming back. And, as for the pressure, suck it up. That's a part of life. You've got to look past the pressure. End of story. It's a part of growing up. Either suck it up, or fuck off. -- Posted by Uniq0ne at 3:01 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Ever hear about planning? Jumping right into college isn't always the smartest thing to do. Some people know exactly what they want to do after High School, and there are those people like me who have no clue on what they want to do with their lives. So I decided to take a year or two away from school to figure out what I want to do, and plan out everything before I get into college, that way I won't take the risk of getting a major I changed my mind about. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 4:01 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Ever hear about planning? Jumping right into college isn't always the smartest thing to do. Some people know exactly what they want to do after High School, and there are those people like me who have no clue on what they want to do with their lives. While you may not think it's the smartest thing to do, colleges expect you to do it. So I decided to take a year or two away from school to figure out what I want to do, and plan out everything before I get into college, that way I won't take the risk of getting a major I changed my mind about. Colleges would rather one flip flop around in their major (they get money out of it), so they can say, "We have so and so in our Field". Also, like I said, colleges know that, those who take a year off, come back even more confused, and even more lost, so they prefer, and look at those who go straight into it. You start knowing what you want to do in early elementary. It's sad, but true. You're pushed into college, from the day you're born. -- Posted by Anonymous at 5:46 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 4:01 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Ever hear about planning? Jumping right into college isn't always the smartest thing to do. Some people know exactly what they want to do after High School, and there are those people like me who have no clue on what they want to do with their lives. While you may not think it's the smartest thing to do, colleges expect you to do it. So I decided to take a year or two away from school to figure out what I want to do, and plan out everything before I get into college, that way I won't take the risk of getting a major I changed my mind about. Colleges would rather one flip flop around in their major (they get money out of it), so they can say, "We have so and so in our Field". Also, like I said, colleges know that, those who take a year off, come back even more confused, and even more lost, so they prefer, and look at those who go straight into it. You start knowing what you want to do in early elementary. It's sad, but true. You're pushed into college, from the day you're born. ...what? Isn't taking a year off and reevaluating your life something that can be seen as mature? How would I be more confused if I had a year to think about something? And I don't think I'd get dumber. You don't loose IQ or personality just like that. :/ -- Posted by TheatreMinelli at 6:15 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Quote: from Uniq0ne at 11:01 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Ever hear about planning? Jumping right into college isn't always the smartest thing to do. Some people know exactly what they want to do after High School, and there are those people like me who have no clue on what they want to do with their lives. So I decided to take a year or two away from school to figure out what I want to do, and plan out everything before I get into college, that way I won't take the risk of getting a major I changed my mind about. Agreed completley everyone is different. someone said deal with the pressure but I know so many people who have thought they were dealing with it by jumping into uni and have cracked half way through and realised it wasn't for them. -- Posted by TheatreMinelli at 6:17 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 1:46 am on Aug. 4, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 4:01 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 Ever hear about planning? Jumping right into college isn't always the smartest thing to do. Some people know exactly what they want to do after High School, and there are those people like me who have no clue on what they want to do with their lives.    While you may not think it's the smartest thing to do, colleges expect you to do it.     So I decided to take a year or two away from school to figure out what I want to do, and plan out everything before I get into college, that way I won't take the risk of getting a major I changed my mind about.        Colleges would rather one flip flop around in their major (they get money out of it), so they can say, "We have so and so in our Field". Also, like I said, colleges know that, those who take a year off, come back even more confused, and even more lost, so they prefer, and look at those who go straight into it.    You start knowing what you want to do in early elementary. It's sad, but true. You're pushed into college, from the day you're born. ...what? Isn't taking a year off and reevaluating your life something that can be seen as mature? How would I be more confused if I had a year to think about something? And I don't think I'd get dumber. You don't loose IQ or personality just like that. :/ Who the hell really knows what they want to be from elementary school. I thought I did to be fair....I was all for being an actor and that is the field I would have gone into if I had just gone from school. However I took some time out realised that it wasn't a realistic goal and decided to do something much more worthwhile. A year is a long time and people mature greatly in that time. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 6:38 pm on Aug. 3, 2008 ...what? Isn't taking a year off and reevaluating your life something that can be seen as mature? How would I be more confused if I had a year to think about something? It's why they have you go to 13 years of school, in a row. Once you stop, you lose a bit of what you know. It's not about IQ (as you mention below). It's about Common Knowledge. One plus One may stick, but the square root of pi could easily be lost. Taking a year off is actually seen as the opposite of mature. It's looked down upon, by many Universities. And, sadly so, many Universities tend to look down upon adults reentering the system, for whatever reason they may be. And I don't think I'd get dumber. You don't loose IQ or personality just like that. :/ But you do lose perception and knowledge. Who the hell really knows what they want to be from elementary school. I thought I did to be fair....I was all for being an actor and that is the field I would have gone into if I had just gone from school. However I took some time out realised that it wasn't a realistic goal and decided to do something much more worthwhile. A year is a long time and people mature greatly in that time. While you may not know your TRUE Goal/Major, it's still pushed upon you that you know SOMETHING of what you want to do with your life. I don't believe people can mature, or immature, greatly, in over a year. It takes time for maturity, and immaturity to express itself. Far more than a year, on psychological levels.