Pages: 1 2 3  Next -- Posted by Anonymous at 3:44 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Ok so i've only told 2 people im pregnant.. My best friend and the guy who got me pregnant.. And we're getting an abortion but he really disguests me and i dont want him in the room with me. Ever since he found out i was pregnant he stopped calling & texting like he used 2, stopped trying to come &  see me.. and he's just been a jerk to me about the whole situation. I dont wanna be there in the room getting the abortion by myself but my best friend has to work that day and I cant reschedule, what should I do? Or will i be OK alone [for anyone who has gone through it] -- Posted by kristajoe2009 at 3:44 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 don't get an abortion, put the baby up for adoption.... plz? -- Posted by QuietRayne at 3:45 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 that's life, hunny. Get used to it. -- Posted by RubberTrees at 3:45 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Maybe he's just stressed out about the pregnancy. People tend to deal with problems differently. -- Posted by Loza at 3:45 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 dont go alone. -- Posted by Rhiaa at 3:45 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 why dont you ask your best friend to do with you.. or keep the baby, remember if u abort it.. its killing a life. -- Posted by Favole at 3:45 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from kristajoe2009 at 3:44 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 don't get an abortion, put the baby up for adoption.... plz?   just don get one -- Posted by brittonlana at 3:46 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 don't get an abortion, put the baby up for adoption.... plz?  my cousin had a abortion and now she regrets it -- Posted by Dylan90 at 3:46 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Don't get an abortion! Seriously! Look up abortion pictures, you'll see what I mean. Just have it and give it up for adoption, it's not worth aborting. -- Posted by Chocolate Thunda at 3:46 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 "The guy who got me pregnant..." It takes two to tango. -- Posted by gorjaz25 at 3:46 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 i've had an abortion and had to go alone coz no one knew i was pregnant...you will be fine alone the people are really nice and talk you through the whole thing -- Posted by dragonking at 3:48 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from kristajoe2009 at 6:44 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 don't get an abortion, put the baby up for adoption.... plz? I agree. Move on from him since he's been so mean about getting you pregnant and doesn't want to take responsibility or have anything to do with you. -- Posted by Rhiaa at 3:48 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from YellowDuckie at 3:46 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 "The guy who got me pregnant..." It takes two to tango. true. -- Posted by LittleItaly at 3:49 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 do not get an abortion, you'll regret it -- Posted by pujolsfan at 3:49 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from kristajoe2009 at 5:44 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 don't get an abortion, put the baby up for adoption.... plz? seriously, dont kill an innocent life -- Posted by SparklingFlower at 3:50 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from Rhiannan at 3:45 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 why dont you ask your best friend to do with you.. or keep the baby, remember if u abort it.. its killing a life. LEAVE HER ALONE. IT'S HER DECISION. Adoption is unbelievably difficult. And so is having a child at a young age. It's a woman's right to choose. -- Posted by Silenced at 3:51 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from gorjaz25 at 4:46 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 i've had an abortion and had to go alone coz no one knew i was pregnant...you will be fine alone the people are really nice and talk you through the whole thing yes, and don't listen to these stupid anti-abortion assholes, they don't know what the hell they're talking about -- Posted by dragonking at 3:51 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from SparklingFlower at 6:50 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from Rhiannan at 3:45 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 why dont you ask your best friend to do with you.. or keep the baby, remember if u abort it.. its killing a life. LEAVE HER ALONE. IT'S HER DECISION. Adoption is unbelievably difficult. And so is having a child at a young age. It's a woman's right to choose. The Father needs to have a say also because they make a baby together, male and female. -- Posted by Chocolate Thunda at 3:52 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 3:48 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from jessesuckscock at 3:45 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 don't have sex u fucking newfag if u donat want babys    /thread First off, you a really ignorant. Second, He was my first, and that was my first time having sex.. And i don't plan on doing it for a long time now.. Everyone makes mistakes you shouldn't judge people you're not a saint either In a way she's right, although she doesn't need to be rude about it. While accidents do happen, this could have been prevented by using common sense and educating yourself about sex and birth control before acting. It's just logic. Sex = act of reproduction. It's not worth having sex and getting pregnant when you can't raise a child and have to go through this. -- Posted by miimii at 3:54 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 You shouldn't give it up for adoption. It's a very irresponsible thing to do, and very hard too. Abortion isn't easy either, but it's not irresponsible. You might regret it, but it's most likely the best thing you can do for the baby. -- Posted by Anonymous at 3:58 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from gorjaz25 at 3:46 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 i've had an abortion and had to go alone coz no one knew i was pregnant...you will be fine alone the people are really nice and talk you through the whole thing Thank you very much for that, You're the only one who cared enough to actually help me in this topic. Now i dont feel so bad.. I can do it alone. He's taking me, but the only reason he is going [according to me anyway] is to give me half the money for it, Ill just tell him to wait in the waiting room, cause its not like he tried to be there for me anyway he knew how hard the abortion is for me. Then after the whole thing im gonna let him know exactly how i feel about him and just move our separate ways.. I cant deal with a guy like that he's obviously not the person i thought he was. -- Posted by Chocolate Thunda at 3:59 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from miimii at 3:54 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 You shouldn't give it up for adoption. It's a very irresponsible thing to do, and very hard too.   Abortion isn't easy either, but it's not irresponsible. You might regret it, but it's most likely the best thing you can do for the baby. The whole act of sex while underage is irresponsible. I don't understand how adoption fits in under that category. I can see how abortion does since there are people who use it as birth control. Giving the child a second chance to live a good healthy life is the best thing she can do. That's assuming she's willing to go through pregnancy and sacrifice her body for the child. I don't know. I would rather have the child and know that it's got a second perhaps better chance at lie then abort it all together. That's just my opinion, she may have a different way of thinking. -- Posted by Anonymous at 4:09 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from YellowDuckie at 3:59 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from miimii at 3:54 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 You shouldn't give it up for adoption. It's a very irresponsible thing to do, and very hard too.  Abortion isn't easy either, but it's not irresponsible. You might regret it, but it's most likely the best thing you can do for the baby. The whole act of sex while underage is irresponsible. I don't understand how adoption fits in under that category. I can see how abortion does since there are people who use it as birth control. Giving the child a second chance to live a good healthy life is the best thing she can do. That's assuming she's willing to go through pregnancy and sacrifice her body for the child. I don't know. I would rather have the child and know that it's got a second perhaps better chance at lie then abort it all together. That's just my opinion, she may have a different way of thinking. Honestly, You dont know what the best thing to do is, You have your opinons and thats all well and good but this is my body my life my child so i dont need them and i didnt ask for them.. You as well as all the other high and mighty people who are passing judgements trying to "belittle" me and trying to put me down for MY decision. The whole thing was a mistake... I dont want a child by this man, I cannot afford this baby and If i have the baby i would not give it up for adoption which would suject it to a life less than what it deserves. Its not your life, I didnt ASK anyone were they PRO-CHOICE or PRO-LIFE and if you dont have any helpful advice regarding my situation and MY DECISION, not simply trying to sway it cause its already made, then dont reply cause you dont know what you would do in my situation, and you dont know what you would do if it happened to you unless it has happened and it i doubt it did cause you guys would be a lot more sympathetic if you were in a situation like mine, whether you are anti-abortion or pro-abortion. Im an educated young lady with a good heart and i really dont need your judgments and opinions and down talking when its not even coming from a caring place. -- Posted by AndWhenHeFalleth at 4:17 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 You'll be just fine.  Don't worry.  He's going to be there to drive you home, though, right?   -- Posted by Chocolate Thunda at 4:26 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Honestly, You don't know what the best thing to do is, You have your opinions and thats all well and good but this is my body my life my child so i don't need them and i didn't ask for them.. No, you didn't ask for them, but it's a given that when you're on an advice site people are going to share their opinions. You're going to have to live with it. And yes, I do know what the best thing to do is, for me which I stated, in case you failed to notice. I also said that it is your situation and that it's you who needs to evaluate what needs to be done. If you're going to get a hair up your ass, do it to the right people. You as well as all the other high and mighty people who are passing judgements trying to "belittle" me and trying to put me down for MY decision. That's right, it was your decision to have sex and opt for an abortion. I'm not saying your decision to have an abortion was poor but when you decided to sleep with this guy it was. If you can't raise a child, don't have unprotected or poorly protected sex. COMMON SENSE ALERT! The whole thing was a mistake... I don't want a child by this man, I cannot afford this baby and If i have the baby i would not give it up for adoption which would subject it to a life less than what it deserves. This is interesting. Less then what it deserves? So it doesn't deserve a life because of your poor decisions? Now, I'm not normally anti-abortion, but this is ridicules. You don't want this child to have a life because you think it might not have the quality you think it deserves? Of course it's not going to be eating off of gold plates. Just like nobody else does. But it will have a chance to make a life for itself.  The system gives children a free education, that's chance enough. It's not my life. No. But it is that child's. Its not your life, I didn't ASK anyone were they PRO-CHOICE or PRO-LIFE and if you don't have any helpful advice regarding my situation and MY DECISION, not simply trying to sway it cause its already made, then don't reply cause you don't know what you would do in my situation, and you don't know what you would do if it happened to you unless it has happened and it i doubt it did cause you guys would be a lot more sympathetic if you were in a situation like mine, whether you are anti-abortion or pro-abortion. Again, whether you ask for opinions or not, they'll be given. The people here are trying to show you better options (Not all, but some.) and you have your head so far up your god damn ass that you aren't willing to take a second look at your situation and ask yourself if there is something better out there. Im an educated young lady with a good heart and i really don't need your judgments and opinions and down talking when its not even coming from a caring place. You may have a good heart but your head is so far up your ass at the moment I can hardly see it. I'll give you respect for going through such a hard time, but I will not allow myself to be insulted because I defended you and shared my opinions. -- Posted by ilovetosuck at 4:45 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from YellowDuckie at 4:26 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Honestly, You don't know what the best thing to do is, You have your opinions and thats all well and good but this is my body my life my child so i don't need them and i didn't ask for them.. No, you didn't ask for them, but it's a given that when you're on an advice site people are going to share their opinions. You're going to have to live with it. And yes, I do know what the best thing to do is, for me which I stated, in case you failed to notice. I also said that it is your situation and that it's you who needs to evaluate what needs to be done. If you're going to get a hair up your ass, do it to the right people.  You as well as all the other high and mighty people who are passing judgements trying to "belittle" me and trying to put me down for MY decision.   That's right, it was your decision to have sex and opt for an abortion. I'm not saying your decision to have an abortion was poor but when you decided to sleep with this guy it was. If you can't raise a child, don't have unprotected or poorly protected sex. COMMON SENSE ALERT! The whole thing was a mistake... I don't want a child by this man, I cannot afford this baby and If i have the baby i would not give it up for adoption which would subject it to a life less than what it deserves.   This is interesting. Less then what it deserves? So it doesn't deserve a life because of your poor decisions? Now, I'm not normally anti-abortion, but this is ridicules. You don't want this child to have a life because you think it might not have the quality you think it deserves? Of course it's not going to be eating off of gold plates. Just like nobody else does. But it will have a chance to make a life for itself. The system gives children a free education, that's chance enough.   It's not my life. No. But it is that child's. Its not your life, I didn't ASK anyone were they PRO-CHOICE or PRO-LIFE and if you don't have any helpful advice regarding my situation and MY DECISION, not simply trying to sway it cause its already made, then don't reply cause you don't know what you would do in my situation, and you don't know what you would do if it happened to you unless it has happened and it i doubt it did cause you guys would be a lot more sympathetic if you were in a situation like mine, whether you are anti-abortion or pro-abortion. Again, whether you ask for opinions or not, they'll be given. The people here are trying to show you better options (Not all, but some.) and you have your head so far up your god damn ass that you aren't willing to take a second look at your situation and ask yourself if there is something better out there.  Im an educated young lady with a good heart and i really don't need your judgments and opinions and down talking when its not even coming from a caring place. You may have a good heart but your head is so far up your ass at the moment I can hardly see it. I'll give you respect for going through such a hard time, but I will not allow myself to be insulted because I defended you and shared my opinions. A point has been proven. Your options are: Abortion Adoption Keeping the baby. We all know what we'd prefer, but that's your decision. Do you have an older brother or sister, or another close friend you could take? It would make the situation slightly more comfortable for you. Though, I'm sure, if you went alone, they would treat you nicely, since they understand that what you're doing is life changing, and potentially scaring. I know people who are still tramatized from getting an abortion. Be sure you REALLY want to do this before you go through with this. -- Posted by miimii at 5:12 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from YellowDuckie at 3:59 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from miimii at 3:54 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 You shouldn't give it up for adoption. It's a very irresponsible thing to do, and very hard too.    Abortion isn't easy either, but it's not irresponsible. You might regret it, but it's most likely the best thing you can do for the baby. The whole act of sex while underage is irresponsible. I don't understand how adoption fits in under that category. I can see how abortion does since there are people who use it as birth control. Giving the child a second chance to live a good healthy life is the best thing she can do. That's assuming she's willing to go through pregnancy and sacrifice her body for the child. I don't know. I would rather have the child and know that it's got a second perhaps better chance at lie then abort it all together. That's just my opinion, she may have a different way of thinking. Why is having sex underage irresponsible? And adoption is irresponsible, well that might be the wrong word, but it's stupid because you could simply have an abortion and no one would get hurt. Giving it up for adoption, the mother will hurt, the baby will most likely hurt too, and you are taking a home away from an already born kid. -- Posted by Chocolate Thunda at 5:19 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from miimii at 5:12 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from YellowDuckie at 3:59 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from miimii at 3:54 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 You shouldn't give it up for adoption. It's a very irresponsible thing to do, and very hard too.   Abortion isn't easy either, but it's not irresponsible. You might regret it, but it's most likely the best thing you can do for the baby. The whole act of sex while underage is irresponsible. I don't understand how adoption fits in under that category. I can see how abortion does since there are people who use it as birth control. Giving the child a second chance to live a good healthy life is the best thing she can do. That's assuming she's willing to go through pregnancy and sacrifice her body for the child. I don't know. I would rather have the child and know that it's got a second perhaps better chance at lie then abort it all together. That's just my opinion, she may have a different way of thinking.   Why is having sex underage irresponsible?   SEX IS THE ACT OF REPRODUCTION. CHILDREN CANNOT RAISE CHILDREN BECAUSE THEY DO NOT HAVE THE FINANCIAL STABILITY THE CHILD NEEDS. It's hard enough for an adult who doesn't have financial stability. And adoption is irresponsible, well that might be the wrong word, but it's stupid because you could simply have an abortion and no one would get hurt. Having unprotected sex while underage is irresponsible. Putting the child up for adoption is not. You're basically saying the girl should sweep this little mistake under the rug so she wont get hurt. Have you not considered the fact that the child may have a better {life} with a different family who can take care of the child?   Of course the child may have a horrible life. That's the chance everybody who has a child takes. Shit happens. There are plenty of people who've been adopted who live perfectly normal, happy lives. It's not like we're in London and the child is going to become a chimney sweeper. Never mind the fact that abortions are scaring for the mother and anyone else involved.     Giving it up for adoption, the mother will hurt, the baby will most likely hurt too, and you are taking a home away from an already born kid. Yeah? Well you're taking the life away from a human being who should be allowed the chance to live. -- Posted by miimii at 5:33 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from YellowDuckie at 5:19 pm on Aug. 18, 2008Why is having sex underage irresponsible?   SEX IS THE ACT OF REPRODUCTION. CHILDREN CANNOT RAISE CHILDREN BECAUSE THEY DO NOT HAVE THE FINANCIAL STABILITY THE CHILD NEEDS. It's hard enough for an adult who doesn't have financial stability. And adoption is irresponsible, well that might be the wrong word, but it's stupid because you could simply have an abortion and no one would get hurt. Having unprotected sex while underage is irresponsible. Putting the child up for adoption is not. You're basically saying the girl should sweep this little mistake under the rug so she wont get hurt. Have you not considered the fact that the child may have a better {life} with a different family who can take care of the child?   Of course the child may have a horrible life. That's the chance everybody who has a child takes. Shit happens. There are plenty of people who've been adopted who live perfectly normal, happy lives. It's not like we're in London and the child is going to become a chimney sweeper. Never mind the fact that abortions are scaring for the mother and anyone else involved.     Giving it up for adoption, the mother will hurt, the baby will most likely hurt too, and you are taking a home away from an already born kid. Yeah? Well you're taking the life away from a human being who should be allowed the chance to live. Not everyone has sex to have kids. "Having unprotected sex while underage is irresponsible" Having unprotected sex when you don't want kids is irresponsible no matter the age. "You're basically saying the girl should sweep this little mistake under the rug so she wont get hurt. Have you not considered the fact that the child may have a better {life} with a different family who can take care of the child?" If you think that's what I'm saying, you need to read it again. Yeah it might have a better life, just like it might have a shitty life. But it's still stupid, because you're still taking home away from an already born baby. Adoption is a great thing. But if you have the chance to have an abortion, I think you should do that. -- Posted by miimii at 5:34 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 ^ Not everyone has sex to have kids.   "Having unprotected sex while underage is irresponsible" Having unprotected sex when you don't want kids is irresponsible no matter the age.   "You're basically saying the girl should sweep this little mistake under the rug so she wont get hurt. Have you not considered the fact that the child may have a better {life} with a different family who can take care of the child?"   If you think that's what I'm saying, you need to read it again.   Yeah it might have a better life, just like it might have a shitty life.   But it's still stupid, because you're still taking home away from an already born baby.   Adoption is a great thing. But if you have the chance to have an abortion, I think you should do that. Pages: 1 2 3  Next