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-- Posted by Anonymous at 5:11 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

i am...going through alot of crap basically. talk of my parents splitting up, i just moved, a boy who i'm hopelessly devoted to is dangling my heart on a string, i lost most of my friends during the move, etc, etc etc. i have a best friend. he has been my rock, hes gotten me through everything. anyways, its his senior year and my junior year, and i'm not doing so great in school either. and this guy, has literally gotten me out of committing suicide just by talking. anyways, he met a girl who makes him happier than anything in the world, and it puts a total smile on my face just seeing him so happy. but now i feel like a burden. like he doesn't know about my parents, and he's really close with them as well, and this kid actually, like, feels my pain. if i'm sad, he's sad lalala. so if i tell him everything, he'll be incredibly upset and i dont want him feeling that way. so i don't wanna dump all this stuff on him, but if i don't...i don't know what i'll do. there is literally no one else i can talk to. help me?


-- Posted by jamesshadowwolf at 5:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Here PM me.. ill try and help you out


-- Posted by kookykylex3 at 5:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

tell him


-- Posted by XxPaperFlowersxX at 5:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

If hes a true friend like you say he is he'll listen to you no matter whats going on in his life.

And if you need someone to talk to now, you can PM me if you want.


-- Posted by Anonymous at 5:15 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008


If hes a true friend like you say he is he'll listen to you no matter whats going on in his life.

no, see, i absolutely know he will. but i'd feel sooo bad telling him because i'd be entirely destroying how happy he is.


-- Posted by deltarep038 at 5:15 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 7:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008


If hes a true friend like you say he is he'll listen to you no matter whats going on in his life.

And if you need someone to talk to now, you can PM me if you want.


darn rite boi!


-- Posted by XxPaperFlowersxX at 5:16 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:15 pm on Aug. 27, 2008


Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

If hes a true friend like you say he is he'll listen to you no matter whats going on in his life.

no, see, i absolutely know he will. but i'd feel sooo bad telling him because i'd be entirely destroying how happy he is.


How do you know you'd be completely destroying his life? If hes your friend nothing you tell him will change his attitude or outlook towards you or anyone else.


-- Posted by BabiiTempa at 5:17 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

just tel him


-- Posted by Anonymous at 5:19 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:16 pm on Aug. 27, 2008


Quote: from Anonymous at 5:15 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

If hes a true friend like you say he is he'll listen to you no matter whats going on in his life.
 

 no, see, i absolutely know he will. but i'd feel sooo bad telling him because i'd be entirely destroying how happy he is.


How do you know you'd be completely destroying his life? If hes your friend nothing you tell him will change his attitude or outlook towards you or anyone else.


im not afraid he'll see me differently at all. thats not the problem. see, our emotions are like in sync. and he is so, so, sooooo happy right now and i couldnt be happier for him. but if i talk to him and he sees how im feeling, it would ruin it for him. i dont want that. i want him to be happy.


-- Posted by jamesshadowwolf at 5:21 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:19 pm on Aug. 27, 2008


Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:16 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:15 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

If hes a true friend like you say he is he'll listen to you no matter whats going on in his life.

  no, see, i absolutely know he will. but i'd feel sooo bad telling him because i'd be entirely destroying how happy he is.


 

 How do you know you'd be completely destroying his life? If hes your friend nothing you tell him will change his attitude or outlook towards you or anyone else.


im not afraid he'll see me differently at all. thats not the problem. see, our emotions are like in sync. and he is so, so, sooooo happy right now and i couldnt be happier for him. but if i talk to him and he sees how im feeling, it would ruin it for him. i dont want that. i want him to be happy.


well insted of telling him tlak to someone on LiveWire about it...  if you want you can PM me about it and ill help you out...


-- Posted by XxPaperFlowersxX at 5:22 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:19 pm on Aug. 27, 2008


Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:16 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:15 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

If hes a true friend like you say he is he'll listen to you no matter whats going on in his life.
 

  no, see, i absolutely know he will. but i'd feel sooo bad telling him because i'd be entirely destroying how happy he is.


 

 How do you know you'd be completely destroying his life? If hes your friend nothing you tell him will change his attitude or outlook towards you or anyone else.


im not afraid he'll see me differently at all. thats not the problem. see, our emotions are like in sync. and he is so, so, sooooo happy right now and i couldnt be happier for him. but if i talk to him and he sees how im feeling, it would ruin it for him. i dont want that. i want him to be happy.


Well I think you need to tell him what your telling me. Tell him how your scared to ruin his happiness by confiding him.I dont think telling him what your feeling and whats going on in your life would ruin anything.


-- Posted by Anonymous at 5:25 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:22 pm on Aug. 27, 2008


Quote: from Anonymous at 5:19 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:16 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:15 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

If hes a true friend like you say he is he'll listen to you no matter whats going on in his life.
 

 no, see, i absolutely know he will. but i'd feel sooo bad telling him because i'd be entirely destroying how happy he is.


   

How do you know you'd be completely destroying his life? If hes your friend nothing you tell him will change his attitude or outlook towards you or anyone else.


im not afraid he'll see me differently at all. thats not the problem. see, our emotions are like in sync. and he is so, so, sooooo happy right now and i couldnt be happier for him. but if i talk to him and he sees how im feeling, it would ruin it for him. i dont want that. i want him to be happy.


 

Well I think you need to tell him what your telling me. Tell him how your scared to ruin his happiness by confiding him.I dont think telling him what your feeling and whats going on in your life would ruin anything.


okay, well, thanks. that actually makes alot of sense. ill try that, and would it be okay if i let you know how it goes? thank you again.

edit: eccck! see ! this type of thing is what i want to avoid with him.http://www.golivewire.com/forums/peer-yaiooto-support-a.html


-- Posted by XxPaperFlowersxX at 5:26 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:25 pm on Aug. 27, 2008


Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:22 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:19 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:16 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:15 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

Quote: from XxPaperFlowersxX at 8:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

If hes a true friend like you say he is he'll listen to you no matter whats going on in his life.
   

    no, see, i absolutely know he will. but i'd feel sooo bad telling him because i'd be entirely destroying how happy he is.


   

   How do you know you'd be completely destroying his life? If hes your friend nothing you tell him will change his attitude or outlook towards you or anyone else.


 

  im not afraid he'll see me differently at all. thats not the problem. see, our emotions are like in sync. and he is so, so, sooooo happy right now and i couldnt be happier for him. but if i talk to him and he sees how im feeling, it would ruin it for him. i dont want that. i want him to be happy.


 

 Well I think you need to tell him what your telling me. Tell him how your scared to ruin his happiness by confiding him.I dont think telling him what your feeling and whats going on in your life would ruin anything.


okay, well, thanks. that actually makes alot of sense. ill try that, and would it be okay if i let you know how it goes? thank you again.


Your welcome hun. Yea id like to know how it works out. Good luck :]


-- Posted by jamesshadowwolf at 5:29 pm on Aug. 27, 2008

yea tell us how it goes...


-- Posted by DADDYS LITTLE GIRL at 3:40 pm on Aug. 30, 2008

Talk to him about he's your friend he's going to help you in anyway he can no matter how it affects him. I'm sure he wants you to be happy and it would hurt him to know you were hiding things that bother you


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