Pages: 1 2  Next -- Posted by dreblex at 8:04 am on Aug. 28, 2008 so you've only been married for a month and it turns out you're pregnant. and you're not ready for a baby yet. do you keep it or get an abortion? -- Posted by misscharity at 8:06 am on Aug. 28, 2008 I think people should keep it. Unless you got rapped or something there isn't a reason to keep it. You had sex and sex causes baby's its the persons own fault. -- Posted by barnabas at 8:06 am on Aug. 28, 2008 keep it. -- Posted by uwastedmyheart at 8:08 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Immediate abortion. If I EVER get pregnant I will always get abortion. -- Posted by xoxdisturbedxox at 8:09 am on Aug. 28, 2008 no one can tell you what to do about it... i dont mean this is a bad way but its your mistake and so its your responsibility... If you are willing to give this unbornbaby a chance for life then do. but dont just have the baby cause you're pregnant... you can get an abortion and get on with your life and have a baby when you are ready... it its totally up to you. honestly, no one can tell you waht to do... tell your hsband... discuss it with him and see what he wants to do... good luck :) -- Posted by mvmassacre at 8:09 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Keep it. It's wrong to have an abortion. T_T If you don't want it, you can always set it up for adoption for those who can't have babies. -- Posted by scalywag66 at 8:09 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Aborting the baby because you aren't 'ready' for it is beyond selffish.  Live up to the mistake and learn how to be ready.   -- Posted by palepalepeach at 8:10 am on Aug. 28, 2008 I'd be more likely to keep it, but if I really wasn't ready then I would still have an abortion. -- Posted by dreblex at 8:10 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from xoxdisturbedxox at 8:09 am on Aug. 28, 2008 no one can tell you what to do about it... i dont mean this is a bad way but its your mistake and so its your responsibility... If you are willing to give this unbornbaby a chance for life then do. but dont just have the baby cause you're pregnant... you can get an abortion and get on with your life and have a baby when you are ready... it its totally up to you. honestly, no one can tell you waht to do... tell your hsband... discuss it with him and see what he wants to do... good luck :) no it's not my problem, i was just wondering about this and wanted to see what people here thought about it -- Posted by MiND TRiP at 8:11 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from uwastedmyheart at 8:08 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Immediate abortion. If I EVER get pregnant I will always get abortion. I would totally date a girl who would say that. -- Posted by hornydude1992 at 8:12 am on Aug. 28, 2008 keep it -- Posted by jamesshadowwolf at 8:12 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from dreblex at 8:04 am on Aug. 28, 2008 so you've only been married for a month and it turns out you're pregnant. and you're not ready for a baby yet. do you keep it or get an abortion? well you should keep it but you say your not ready... witch if you arnt ready... #1 you shouldnt of had sex if you wernt ready #2 if you not ready abortion it i guess... but my advice is think for a little bit on what you wanna do... becuase if you do keep it then make sure you really want to becuase you dont wanna make the kid feel alone and unloved. if you do keep it i wish you luck :) -- Posted by BubbleCake at 8:14 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Kepp the baby. -- Posted by Aphrodite54 at 8:16 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Keep it. If I seriously can't take care of it, I put them up for adoption. 54 -- Posted by BeautifulxLiar at 8:22 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 11:09 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Aborting the baby because you aren't 'ready' for it is beyond selffish. Live up to the mistake and learn how to be ready. Quoted For 10000% truth -- Posted by Natsy at 8:23 am on Aug. 28, 2008 i would only get married when i was ready for my own family, so keep. -- Posted by allyllama at 8:26 am on Aug. 28, 2008 kepp it -- Posted by Chantoya Gibbons at 8:35 am on Aug. 28, 2008 watevea u feel is right -- Posted by Mattie17 at 8:37 am on Aug. 28, 2008 keep the baby -- Posted by JennyColada at 9:42 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Abrtion. I never want to be one of "those girls". So many of my friends get married and give birth 1-9 months after getting married, and that's 100% not something I'm interested in. I want to live my life before I start helping someone else live theirs. -- Posted by carbonara at 9:49 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 4:09 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Aborting the baby because you aren't 'ready' for it is beyond selffish.  Live up to the mistake and learn how to be ready.   Is it not more selfish to have a baby you do not want? -- Posted by Glow Worm at 11:47 am on Aug. 28, 2008 My God, it depends on a thousand other things.  How old am I? Do I already have a house, or a nice apartment, or somewhere that I wouldn't mind calling home for the next few years? How long have my husband and I been together? Have we already travelled, or did we plan on travelling after we got married? Do we have the money? Do I have a job? Does he? Am I emotionally ready for this? Is it unplanned but wanted, or unplanned and unwanted? I mean really, there are so many variables I can't just say for sure either way. I mean, the best way I can answer your question is that if I was completely unprepared, I would be willing to abort. That's really what you're asking, right? Is what we would be willing to do? I'd be willing to abort, depending on circumstances. But I would also be willing to think about keeping the baby and just struggling for a while. It depends on a lot of things, you know. -- Posted by scalywag66 at 1:51 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from carbonara at 9:49 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 4:09 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Aborting the baby because you aren't 'ready' for it is beyond selffish. Live up to the mistake and learn how to be ready. Is it not more selfish to have a baby you do not want? lol read what you just typed and think about it You don't want it, but you still have it  ....... right there you're doing the baby a favor by letting it continue to grow, doesn't sound selfish to me IMO, I think some girls are sincere when they say they can't handle a baby financially etc., but most of the time, this 'ready' that most girls say they are not usually means that they don't want to give up the party lifestyle just yet.  To abort an embryo just cause one isn't ready to calm down from partying for at least 9 months seems more selfish than actually giving it a chance. But that's just me........ -- Posted by Glow Worm at 2:17 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 4:51 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from carbonara at 9:49 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 4:09 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Aborting the baby because you aren't 'ready' for it is beyond selffish. Live up to the mistake and learn how to be ready. Is it not more selfish to have a baby you do not want?   lol read what you just typed and think about it   You don't want it, but you still have it  ....... right there you're doing the baby a favor by letting it continue to grow, doesn't sound selfish to me   IMO, I think some girls are sincere when they say they can't handle a baby financially etc., but most of the time, this 'ready' that most girls say they are not usually means that they don't want to give up the party lifestyle just yet.  To abort an embryo just cause one isn't ready to calm down from partying for at least 9 months seems more selfish than actually giving it a chance.   But that's just me........   Wow, generalization. I don't drink or smoke or do drugs, and I've never actually been to a "party" (because I'm assuming birthday parties when you're seven do not count), but does that mean I'm ready for a pregnancy? No.   You're underestimating the huge responsibility you undertake when you decide to go through with a pregnancy. It's not just "oh shucks, I can't binge drink for nine months, poor me". Your body completely changes permanently. It's not as though you give birth and all of a sudden your feet aren't swollen and your breasts aren't bigger and your cervix just pops back to size. It's not like you squeeze out a human being and your hormones just drop back down to normal levels and you just shower and walk out of there just like you were before a pregnancy. You form an attachment to that baby that's incredibly hard to break. Giving a baby up for adoption is not like it was in Juno. You don't forget that you've got a child somewhere in the world. Like, shit. It's really easy for you to say "Oh just stop partying for nine months, you selfish whore", but that's not it at all. You have no idea, you can never have any idea, what it's like to have a baby inside your body, to push a human being out of your vagina. The world just isn't like that. What you suggest just isn't reality. -- Posted by scalywag66 at 2:48 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from Glow Worm at 2:17 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 4:51 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from carbonara at 9:49 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 4:09 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Aborting the baby because you aren't 'ready' for it is beyond selffish. Live up to the mistake and learn how to be ready.   Is it not more selfish to have a baby you do not want?     lol read what you just typed and think about it     You don't want it, but you still have it  ....... right there you're doing the baby a favor by letting it continue to grow, doesn't sound selfish to me     IMO, I think some girls are sincere when they say they can't handle a baby financially etc., but most of the time, this 'ready' that most girls say they are not usually means that they don't want to give up the party lifestyle just yet.  To abort an embryo just cause one isn't ready to calm down from partying for at least 9 months seems more selfish than actually giving it a chance.     But that's just me........         Wow, generalization. I don't drink or smoke or do drugs, and I've never actually been to a "party" (because I'm assuming birthday parties when you're seven do not count), but does that mean I'm ready for a pregnancy? No.     You're underestimating the huge responsibility you undertake when you decide to go through with a pregnancy. It's not just "oh shucks, I can't binge drink for nine months, poor me". Your body completely changes permanently. It's not as though you give birth and all of a sudden your feet aren't swollen and your breasts aren't bigger and your cervix just pops back to size. It's not like you squeeze out a human being and your hormones just drop back down to normal levels and you just shower and walk out of there just like you were before a pregnancy. You form an attachment to that baby that's incredibly hard to break. Giving a baby up for adoption is not like it was in Juno. You don't forget that you've got a child somewhere in the world.   Like, shit. It's really easy for you to say "Oh just stop partying for nine months, you selfish whore", but that's not it at all. You have no idea, you can never have any idea, what it's like to have a baby inside your body, to push a human being out of your vagina. The world just isn't like that. What you suggest just isn't reality. I know that already. I said MOST. not ALL, but MOST who say they aren't ready say so because, may not be so much the partying, but whatever lifestyle they were used, schooling - going to the mall with the gang of girls - guy hunting - working to make money or whatever that particular girl does all freely. In my life, most of the girls that I've known and seen get pregnant end up mostly crying about partying here & there, and so that sticks out in my mind according to the girls I've met, while others have more down to earth reasons why they aren't ready. Is all. Yea they're probably more shallow than most others, but that's them. I have 2 shorties of my own, the first one my lady cried and whined about that idiotic shit of partying - no more clubbing for us etc., while I was the one trying to convince her everything would be alright, that we should go along with it, who cares about partying, I knew she'd feel better once the baby is actually out, and sure enough she all of a sudden wanted another one for the lil one to play with.  w00t!!! What I suggest is reality. Some girls reasons are for partying, some are schooling, some have careers in mind or whatever else there is. The fuck you trying to explain something to me I know full well? -- Posted by Glow Worm at 2:58 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 5:48 pm on Aug. 28, 2008  I know that already.  I said MOST. not ALL, but MOST who say they aren't ready say so because, may not be so much the partying, but whatever lifestyle they were used, schooling - going to the mall with the gang of girls -  guy hunting - working to make money or whatever that particular girl does all freely.  In my life, most of the girls that I've known and seen get pregnant end up mostly crying about partying here & there, and so that sticks out in my mind according to the girls I've met, while others have more down to earth reasons why they aren't ready.  Is all.  Yea they're probably more shallow than most others, but that's them. I have 2 shorties of my own, the first one my lady cried and whined about that idiotic shit of partying - no more clubbing for us etc., while I was the one trying to convince her everything would be alright, that we should go along with it, who cares about partying, I knew she'd feel better once the baby is actually out, and sure enough she all of a sudden wanted another one for the lil one to play with. w00t!!! What I suggest is reality.  Some girls reasons are for partying, some are schooling, some have careers in mind or whatever else there is. The fuck you trying to explain something to me I know full well? I just don't see how it's any of your business to decide what "ready" means to an individual. It's lovely that you and your "lady" were able to make it work. How very noble of you. But that doesn't mean you should judge a woman's reasons for getting an abortion. You think that a girl getting an abortion because she doesn't want to give up drinking and drugs is so bad? Shit, at least she didn't try to maintain the pregnancy while abusing substances. At least she was smart enough to see her limits. Do you know how difficult it is to adopt out a baby who's addicted to cocaine? Most adoptive parents want perfect little angels, not some little FAS baby who will never be able to be what they consider a "regular" kid. It's just not up to you to make those sort of judgements. -- Posted by JennyColada at 3:48 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 1:51 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 You don't want it, but you still have it  ....... right there you're doing the baby a favor by letting it continue to grow, doesn't sound selfish to me When people don't want a child but continue to have it and raise it, they do not have the interest of the child in mind, but in them not "feeling bad" about having an abortion. Is it not selfish to have a child knowing fully-well that you are not ready or able to prepare for it as you feel you should, but to do so anyway because YOU (well, THEM, heh) don't want to "feel bad" or whatever reason they decide? If the choice is not done because "it would be best for this child" then, yes, it is selfish. What is best for any child is NOT to choose to bring it up in a suffering environment. -- Posted by dreblex at 3:50 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 GUYZ STFU LYK OMGZZZZZZZ :(((((((((( -- Posted by miimii at 3:56 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Quote: from scalywag66 at 8:09 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Aborting the baby because you aren't 'ready' for it is beyond selffish.  Live up to the mistake and learn how to be ready.   That depends on what she means by "not ready". If she doesn't have any money then it would be really stupid to keep it. -- Posted by lovednhated07 at 4:27 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 I'd keep the baby, I mean seriously you are already married and if your not ready then you have 9 months to get ready. Pages: 1 2  Next