-- Posted by BlueEyedBrielle at 8:41 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Ok so I made a contract with my dad that I would try my best to be nicer to my little sister. I really wanna be her friend since we're sisters, but she won't talk to me. Not only that, she always overreacts to my small mistakes (like opening the bathroom door when I don't know she's in there) and screams in my ears. She gets whatever she wants most of the time and all the attention from my dad. My sis also takes my clothes without asking me and I tell her that every day. Most of my family agrees that she needs to grow up a lot and needs to be nicer to me. She tells the whole world about my disorder and how I can't always control things. She's a lot younger than me (I'm 16, she's 12). We don't have much in common, so I don't know why I want her to be my friend! What do you guys think I should do? -- Posted by agnstc at cathskool at 8:43 am on Aug. 28, 2008 I am a younger sis and was awful to my sister. My guess is is that your sister is jealous of you and looks for any way to be like you (borrowing clothes) and get your attention (screaming). -- Posted by hornydude1992 at 8:43 am on Aug. 28, 2008 try 2 ge a better relationship with her. It doesn't have 2 b perfect but try and be as nice as you can to her. She should try the same to you. -- Posted by jamesshadowwolf at 8:45 am on Aug. 28, 2008 well insted of trying to be ur friend just respect her so ur dad no get mad and you shouldnt be botherd by ur disorder... your with it so try and get use to to it ( i know it kinda sounds mean and im sorry but im trying to be nice ) and when she borrows ur cloths just take somthing of hers without asking ( somthings she likes ) she will eventually catch on.. with the bathroom thing... uhh Knock on door?? -- Posted by Satine at 8:46 am on Aug. 28, 2008 I think that the best thing you can do is to accept that, for now, both of you are changing a lot and that she's doing to be doing so for a while yet. Don't burn your bridges with her, as you might well be able to be friends with her in a few years, when she's feeling more stable, too. Has your sister agreed to be nicer to you? I think she should be asked to, simply to point out to her that she's being quite unfair to you right now. It might be that, at the moment, she feels it's unfair that her big sister has a disorder and that she's forced into close contact with you - insensitive, but I don't think you can expect that much maturity from her for now. -- Posted by mvmassacre at 8:47 am on Aug. 28, 2008 It's a natural sibling thing. Sometimes you just wanna be close to your sibling for whatever reason. =/ -- Posted by rickyspeople at 8:51 am on Aug. 28, 2008 my sister and i are four years apart, and when i was 16 she was 12 too (obv, ha) so i know what you're going through. Now she's 15, and i'm 19, and we're great friends. I know it's hard to resist letting her have it when she pisses you off, but she's at that weird age between child and teenager, and she probably can't see any point of view besides her own. As time goes by the gap in age will seem smaller as you have more things in common. For now, try talking to her like you would a friend, rather than a sister or child. Also, get a lock on your door. also, and i'm not exactly recommending this, but whenever my sister would take something of mine i'd take something small of hers and hide it, ha. -- Posted by coughcough at 10:37 am on Dec. 14, 2008 take it from the youngest in the fam we are always wanting toi be like big sister! so we take clothes , try to get your attnetion *pistive or negative* just try to work around it im sure things will work out as far as your disorder goes be proud she is spreading the work allot of ppl dont know a llot about autism and i would be proud if that was my lil sis