-- Posted by nycndp at 9:59 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 Here's what I need advice on. I'm just feeling a bit depressed. By way of background, my wife and I married in 1991. We were 32 and 29 then. We have two kids, one born in March 1996, the other August 1997, making them 12 1/2 (Jay), and 11 (Drew). Drew is mildly autistic, i.e. you'd never know it if you saw him but he cannot function in large class, etc. We've gotten all kinds of help for him and he seems to be turning the corner. Life's just such a strain. In a way, I sometimes resent the younger kid, though I love him. What do you think I should do to make life, the marriage fun again?   -- Posted by ElephantStone at 4:15 am on Aug. 30, 2008 well, Im 18....This is going to sound a lot crueller than I intend it to be, but when I have kids and any of them were autistic or disabled it would ruin my life. I woldnt be able to cope with it and it would get me very depressed. I completely uderstand where youre comign from, and perhaps the best thing is for you and your partner to take a week holiday away together, if you can, without the kids. Just to spend time with each other and not to have to worry about the kids.