-- Posted by BeX2506 at 6:37 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 So its 2.35ish am, my kinda boyfriends baby was born just over 2hours ago. The mother hates me and wants the guy all to herself. I cant sleep, im so scared and im completely numb. I just wanna be totally alone and cry some more. I feel sick. I know it sounds like im bein pathetic but whateva... So yeah... -- Posted by Latin Muscle at 6:37 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 cry. And break up with him. -- Posted by ACSTLOLOVE at 6:38 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 i know how u feel girl it will be ok :-) -- Posted by mnmandme2004 at 6:38 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 sounds like your fuck buddy! just gave you up for his family...dont feel bad the same thing happend to me. -- Posted by xxxJOSIExx at 6:40 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 awww yu will be okayy -- Posted by countryLuv at 6:40 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 try to get him to gain custody of the baby and you too become a happy little family -- Posted by Missipop at 6:40 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 talk to your bf -- Posted by BeX2506 at 6:42 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 He's not my fuck buddy. We been seein eachother on and off for 2years now. Like i said the mother hates me and wants him so because he dont wanna lose his daughter (she says he will but really there nowt she can do) we're just togethe in secret for the moment -- Posted by vOlCoM 07 at 6:49 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 I'm so sorry, that doesnt sound weird at all...I would be crying too.  Who does ur boyfriend like more?  I'm assuming he likes u more? Talk to him about it, and tell him to choose....you or her.  If you, then the only connection HE should have with her is seeing his baby or paying child support (that is, if she takes the baby).   -- Posted by RedNoir at 6:53 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 Try to make the peace. Give a gift for the baby to the mother and your boyfriend at the same time. Don't tell your boyfriend, so he'll be suprised too. What I have done (cheap) in the past is just go to the grocery store buy a gift bag and tissue paper (all cheap) and buy like the good smelling johnson and johnson baby soap, lotion, powder, and a card. All of this can be done for like no more than $10-$12 (american). And if after that she still acts nasty, then she is not a good person. -- Posted by BeX2506 at 6:59 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 Quote: from RedNoir at 2:53 am on Aug. 31, 2008 Try to make the peace. Give a gift for the baby to the mother and your boyfriend at the same time. Don't tell your boyfriend, so he'll be suprised too. What I have done (cheap) in the past is just go to the grocery store buy a gift bag and tissue paper (all cheap) and buy like the good smelling johnson and johnson baby soap, lotion, powder, and a card. All of this can be done for like no more than $10-$12 (american). And if after that she still acts nasty, then she is not a good person. thats a really good idea, thank you :) -- Posted by dunebug at 9:11 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 It's a really hard situation to be in. I understand why it would be hard for you, you want a relationship with him. But you also have to understand it from his perspective. I'm assuming that he and the mother are also teenagers. So you have a couple basically scared kids who now have a baby. Believe me, you can't even imagine how chaotic those first few months are. She needs help and the idea of him running away to be with another girl will be terrifying and also enraging to her. His loyalty right now, is to the mother of his child and the child herself, not to his own romantic life. I'm not trying to be harsh, but it just seems like right now he doesn't have time to be in a romantic relationship the way/level that you need and disappointment is going to be inevitable until you accept that and back off for a bit until he's free-er. When the baby is a little older and the mother has gained more confidence and the 'newborn' phase is over, he might have more time to spend with you. -- Posted by caligirll25 at 12:57 pm on Sep. 1, 2008 im sorry :( thats gotta be really hard. just try to make peace with everyone, and i really hope everything works out for you. -- Posted by I am luvly at 5:23 pm on Sep. 1, 2008 Quote: from latin muscle at 8:37 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 cry. And break up with him. This is a very good idea. I'd go with it. -- Posted by swtpie at 9:40 pm on Sep. 3, 2008 I think you should end it. He is a father and I think things will go south.