-- Posted by Anonymous at 6:03 am on Aug. 31, 2008 I'm a 20 year old virgin. I'm attractive, but shy. Chances are, in the very near future, I will finally have sex. Am I going to completely scare the girl due to my unusual inexperience? Should I tell her the truth beforehand? -- Posted by Dragon22876 at 6:05 am on Aug. 31, 2008 Seen the movie 40 year old virgin? When he tells her, she says its a good thing. Dont worry, your time just hasnt come yet :-) -- Posted by Troll1000 at 6:05 am on Aug. 31, 2008 no you won't, you can tell her if you want, you will learn, don't worry about it -- Posted by ronaldo is mine at 6:06 am on Aug. 31, 2008 I know this hot guy who lost his at 21. -- Posted by berrycuda at 6:10 am on Aug. 31, 2008 I don't see this as a particular problem and personally I wouldn't want to be with someone that was overly experienced anyway. -- Posted by bg kNIFE at 6:11 am on Aug. 31, 2008 Don't tell her. -- Posted by its only me at 6:24 am on Aug. 31, 2008 tell her yes -- Posted by Chino at 10:34 am on Aug. 31, 2008 If you tell her she's most likely to be biased and expect to have a horrendous time with you just because she'll have the thought in the back of her mind that you are a virgin.   -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 12:09 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 There's nothing wrong with being a 20 year old virgin. I was a twenty year old virgin. Well, I was 19 when it started, and 20 when it ended. :P -- Posted by Chino at 7:38 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 12:09 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 There's nothing wrong with being a 20 year old virgin. I was a twenty year old virgin. Well, I was 19 when it started, and 20 when it ended. :P And its not like you were totally blank when you did it and just laid there like a deer on headlights or as if you were dead, right?  Many people assume that because a girl/guy is a virgin, their first time will be a complete total disaster but there might be the possibility that they are not that bad on their first time. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 8:22 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 And its not like you were totally blank when you did it and just laid there like a deer on headlights or as if you were dead, right?  Many people assume that because a girl/guy is a virgin, their first time will be a complete total disaster but there might be the possibility that they are not that bad on their first time. I didn't just lie there, of course. He guided me through the process. Once I got the hang of things, I had a good thing going, for both ofu s. I wouldn't assume a virgin didn't know what they were doing. I would assume that they knew what to do, but that they would ned help.