-- Posted by Anonymous at 4:06 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I'm 17 I just found out i was pregnant Which isn't supposed to be possible because the doctors told me i was sterile(hence, no preiods) and the chances of me getting pregnant were like 1/1,000,000 I'm SO happy cause i can have kids, it REALLY is a miracle(Thank God) But im not able to care for it, I know that My dad'll be pissed cause he's all 'No sex before marraige! Even if you're engaged) so he'll kick me out and I'll have to stay in my fiances one bedroom apartment and me and fiance aren't able to afford a baby, we work minimum wage and between the two of us that's not enough to properly provide for a baby I don't believe in abortions so that option is out the window, and i really don't want to give up my miralce But i don't want to be a bad mother.... I don't know what to do -- Posted by myx3sintheuk at 4:07 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 keep ur miracle. screw wut ur dad thinks -- Posted by room4improvement at 4:08 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 get in contact with a "crisis pregnancy" group. and look at your options with grants -- Posted by JellyBean1 at 4:10 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 you have to make it work..!!! there is a reason you got this baby...and this could be your only chance! you can do this..just have to change some things, if you need any other help email me -- Posted by JennyColada at 8:41 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from room4improvement at 4:08 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 get in contact with a "crisis pregnancy" group. I would REALLY not advise that. Those groups are very anti-choice (and even though you said that an abortion is right for you, that also doesn't mean that you would want to be bombarded with "we love god, all babies are god's gifts" BS either) and do not give proper information. But, more on topic: Wow, that is a VERY tough choice, and truthfully, even if I were in your shoes I have no idea what I'd do myself! Congrats on proving the doctors wrong though, it's just too bad you had to do it so quickly (very eager your body is to be stubborn and show doctors who's boss, lol.). Open adoptions are really something you could consider. It would allow your child to be raised by a supportive, loving, and able family, and you'd be able to get pictures, maybe even meet the child! It's definitely worth researching, and some agencies even allow you to help choose a family that you're comfortable with. In your case, that seems like it could be a lovely choice. Raising a child really is hard, and it really wouldn't be fair for anyone involved for you and your fiance to make a choice that you don't feel prepared for. That being said though, raising a child on a lower-wage job isn't impossible, and there are plenty of wonderful, caring, and fantastic familes born out of an unplanned situation. What's your fiance's take on this? Have you talked to him yet? What about even talking to your doctors (perhaps they could offer insight, or give you information on what the future could possibly hold for you and any future possible children)? -- Posted by dunebug at 9:34 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 You have options. :-) Have you looked into government aid programs? In the USA there's WIC: http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/ Welfare Subsidized Housing: http://www.hud.gov/renting/ Medicaid: http://www.cms.hhs.gov/home/medicaid.asp There's programs out there that can help you cover the cost of a baby. -- Posted by caligirll25 at 12:47 pm on Sep. 1, 2008 thats a miracle. it could be a once in a lifetime chance for you. but its all up to you. just make sure its what YOU want, not anyone else. -- Posted by swtpie at 9:48 pm on Sep. 3, 2008 Keep the baby. This is a miracle. You can apply for government assitence, or even move in with your boyfriend and get another room mate to pay 1/3 of the bills. There is always a way to make it work. -- Posted by shen10200 at 11:46 am on Sep. 4, 2008 girl keep the baby and get some welfare.ask your family fpr support even if right now it may seem hard. like it or not. they are going to be grandparents. HAVE FAITH!!!