-- Posted by Majo at 6:14 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I'm at school now...I got here Thursday but didn't see my roommate until yesterday just as I was getting ready to leave for Canada. I just got back and she's in here with two of her friends watching a movie and I don't know what to do. I miss my boyfriend so terribly much, I want and need him so badly right now but he's too far away. I'm having an anxiety attack and need to cry but have no where to go. They're just talking amongst themselves, not really paying attention to me, and it makes me feel so awkward that they're kind of just excluding me. I don't think they're trying to be mean but they're just kind of...keeping to themselves... I don't know where to go tomorrow, either (I'm staying at the school's Inn, off campus). I might just take my car instead of the bus, I don't know where it drops you off and I don't want to be late. I'm too scared to ask my roommate about it with her friends here... And I just got back from a horribly stressful trip to Canada that I should never have taken with my Dad. He yelled at me three times in 48 hours and threatened to beat me up and leave me behind. When I asked him what I'd done wrong (all I'd been doing when he started verbally attacking me was resting in bed), he responded, "You aggravate me." Please...just let me survive this week...please let me figure out the bus schedule and the campus and get to know my roommate...please don't let this be a mistake...I don't know if I'm emotionally strong enough for this... Is anyone else having a hard time? I'd really appreciate some advice and/or words of encouragement, I'm trying, very hard, not to break down right now. -- Posted by Vintorez at 6:22 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Can't you call your bf? I'm sure hearing his voice would do you some good For you roommates, you should walk by and ask them what movie they're watching, and after they tell you, you might could say something like "I like that movie" and hopefully they'd ask if you wanted to watch, and go from there. I'm sorry about your dad too, at least you're away from him now, right? :) I'm guessing you're just entering college, and the first week is usually the hardest (it was for me anyways). I know you can do it, just someone telling me I could do it kinda got me though.  Feel free to PM if you want to talk. -- Posted by Majo at 6:27 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I'm IMing him right now and he's trying to calm me down as best as he can. I just miss him so much, he should be here with me. They asked if I saw the movie they're watching and I told them I have and they asked if I wanted to watch and I said I did. Then I offered them some chips and they declined and that was it, they're just sort of talking with each other as if I don't even exist. Believe it or not, I'm afraid now that my Dad is gone. Even though he's mean and abusive, he's familiar and now that he's gone, I'm on a new campus around new people 300 miles away from home and I'm scared. I'm a Sophomore, I just transferred and this campus is bigger than any other campus I've ever been on. -- Posted by Vintorez at 6:40 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Majo at 9:27 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I'm IMing him right now and he's trying to calm me down as best as he can. I just miss him so much, he should be here with me. They asked if I saw the movie they're watching and I told them I have and they asked if I wanted to watch and I said I did. Then I offered them some chips and they declined and that was it, they're just sort of talking with each other as if I don't even exist. Believe it or not, I'm afraid now that my Dad is gone. Even though he's mean and abusive, he's familiar and now that he's gone, I'm on a new campus around new people 300 miles away from home and I'm scared. I'm a Sophomore, I just transferred and this campus is bigger than any other campus I've ever been on. Well was there anyway you could have gotten involved and contributed to the conservation? Well he may have been familiar, but it wasn't healthy, now's your chance to make things better for yourself. I know the transition of it all will be hard, but I'm sure you can cope :) If you need someone to talk to on campus, there's usually a counselor there that's there for these type of things, you can talk to them and maybe get some helpful advice from them as well -- Posted by Amazingness99 at 6:43 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 In my experience, making new friends is easy if the people in question see that you're interested in hanging out with them. I'm assuming that they're freshmen too- I'm sure they want to meet new people as much as you do. Just start up a conversation about the movie or something, and go from there. I'm sorry about your dad; my parents get like that sometimes too. I think you just have to go with the flow and not let it bother you. I'm not very knowledgeable about the college experience in general, since I still have a year to go, but I'm sure that in a week or two you'll have the bus schedules and the campus down. :) Good luck! -- Posted by Majo at 7:45 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 No, I think we're all Sophomores but they were here last year, I wasn't. I mentioned not knowing where I'm going and they didn't seem to react. My roommate doesn't know where the bus goes, either, but she knows the campus so it doesn't matter as much for her. -- Posted by Vintorez at 7:50 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Majo at 10:45 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 No, I think we're all Sophomores but they were here last year, I wasn't. I mentioned not knowing where I'm going and they didn't seem to react. My roommate doesn't know where the bus goes, either, but she knows the campus so it doesn't matter as much for her. since tomorrow is labor day, you should get out and try and find your classes and get to know the campus on your day off. and you could look up the bus schedules on your schools website and familiarize yourself with that too -- Posted by Majo at 7:53 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I don't have tomorrow off, I have class at 9:00am. My bf used to go here but hasn't been here since January and can't remember which building is which. And he never had to take the bus so he can't help me out there either. The guy at the front desk doesn't know anything and my roommate seems totally unconcerned. I'm so frustrated. -- Posted by Vintorez at 8:01 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 Quote: from Majo at 10:53 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I don't have tomorrow off, I have class at 9:00am.   My bf used to go here but hasn't been here since January and can't remember which building is which. And he never had to take the bus so he can't help me out there either. The guy at the front desk doesn't know anything and my roommate seems totally unconcerned. I'm so frustrated. what kind of school has class on labor day? well you can look at a map of the campus to kinda help you along, but i guess you've thought of that aww don't worry, i'm sure you'll be fine :) just leave for class earlier than you normally would so you can find it, and don't be afraid to ask where a building is -- Posted by Majo at 8:11 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 I don't know, a tech school? A NY school? No clue, really. I have a map but I can't figure out where the bus stops. It names places that I haven't found on the map (yet). I'll just have to look closer tomorrow morning. My class isn't until 9:00 but I'm going to get up at 6:00 or 6:30, shower as fast as I can, look it over, and then catch the bus to school that leaves at 7:33. It'll be there in like 15 minutes which will leave me over an hour to walk around and figure things out. That way, I won't have to run and won't be out of breath and sweaty when I arrive. I'll have time to nap after my second class. Maybe even a little bit of time to nap before if I can figure things out before then. Calming down a bit. Still uncomfortable with the roommate thing but I'm not as bad as I was when I made my OP. -- Posted by jamescoleman at 9:08 pm on Aug. 31, 2008 You'll get tough over time. Just think happy thoughts and try to get over it. They're just words and alot of other people will ignore you or talk to you wrong. If you show weakness then they'll use it against you. As for your dad, fight back.