-- Posted by Satine at 3:03 am on Sep. 4, 2008 Right, I moderate a new forum that I was hoping would be a good balance between Christian and Atheist. But it turns out a fellow mod is happy to plaster rhetorical rubbish all over the board. Has anyone here ever read 'Dances with Wolves: a guy gives honest advice on sex and dating'? He's just posted that and although I've answered, I suspect one reply alone isn't going to convince the other mods that that opinion is unwanted. Can anyone help me out and add their input? -- Posted by Define Your Line at 6:28 am on Sep. 17, 2008 Hey there, This seems like a really tough situation for you to be in.  I understand how you feel as I hate having disagreements or arguments with other people.  I am the type of person who doesn't like having enemies and therefore, I try to be as nice as I can to everyone I meet and treat people with a lot of respect. I haven't read the book but I can try to help you out her from a general point of view.  I know this can be difficult and frustrating to deal with and that's very unfortunate.  I'm sorry that this is happening to you and I really hope things get better really soon. You have to try and see things from his perspective.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and therefore, he really does have a right to speak his mind.  Just because he's not following the guidelines that you've set up in your head, it doesn't necessarily mean that he's doing anything wrong.  I don't think that you would change the minds of the other moderators unless he has specifically disobeyed a guideline. You have your own opinion about the situation and this other moderator has the right to have their own opinion as well.  I understand that you see this moderator's opinion as *unwanted* but that is *your* opinion on his response.  You don't know what the other members on the forum want.  Like I said, I think you will have a very difficult time trying to convince people about this unless you can prove that this moderator has broken a forum guideline. Have you tried talking to this moderator?  Sometimes, you can accomplish a lot just by engaging in a conversation with someone.  I know that can be really difficult to do at times - especially if you're dealing with a person who can be rather stubborn.  This could make the situation a little more difficult to deal with but not impossible to solve.  It'll just take a little extra work. I would strongly advise that you talk to this moderator about this.  Be open and honest.  Explain exactly the way you feel about this situation and give the other moderator the opportunity to do the same.  You have to realise that you're not the only moderator, let alone member, who is using the forum and therefore, you will have to compromise with other people - even if it completely contradicts your beliefs and mind-set. I hope I helped.  If you ever need anything or feel the need to discuss this further, feel free to message me any time as my inbox is always open.  I am always happy to help. Good luck and take care. DYL