-- Posted by steven7 at 9:01 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Of course. every guy has this fantasy of a threesome. Well lately i have been wanting one alot. Now, i have a girlfriend and i would never do anything to wrong her "never cheated never will". Been together a while now, but shes not that sexually exciting. She is very shy and selfconcious. Yet she enjoys it. Kinda confusing. I don't know, maybe i just want some spice in the sack but i cant help but think about how awesomely hot it would be to be get one her hot friends in on things.   -- Posted by snowcone200 at 9:02 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Not me at least. -- Posted by QuantumBlaze at 9:02 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 It would rule. -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 9:02 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 *pulls out scissors*  Would you like to be my first patient? -- Posted by steven7 at 9:03 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Quote: from 2kewl4u2know at 11:02 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 *pulls out scissors* Would you like to be my first patient? i don't think i like what your implying haha -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 9:04 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Okay, seriously, if she's knew to it then things will pick up.  She's self-concious, but that doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy sex.  Practice makes perfect, so keep out it, maybe teach her a few tricks, and communicate, telling her what gives more pleasure and what doesn't (she tells you the same). -- Posted by steven7 at 9:09 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 not to seem like i have an answer to every response. but i know she enjoys it, she has told me cuz we do talk like you suggested. It is just a very slow process for her to "open up" per say. -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 9:12 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 It took me awhile too...and long breaks in between (like weeks at a time) don't help.  Do you talk to her about sexual things outside of sex (like porn, masturbation, doing phone sex and such)?  It might help...Don't force it, but you have to constantly reassure her that it's okay to be open and confident about her sexuality with you.  If you turn around and cheat on her know, it will probably take her even longer to be open about the subject and not have so little self-confidence in herself. -- Posted by VIPMeezy at 9:14 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Just be like "hey, lets have a threesome with one of your friends" lol -- Posted by steven7 at 9:23 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Your right i reasure and talk the way you say, and she has gotten better in the past year and a half. And i can deffinately see how time apart can slow the process down because everytime we do it like back tracking, your deffinately right. -- Posted by JennyColada at 5:17 pm on Sep. 9, 2008 There is really nothing wrong with you thinking it might be exciting to have a threesome. We cannot always control our desires and half the fun of imagination is how wonderful things seem. Reality very often lives up to fantasy (my boyfriend and I had our first threesome last night, and we both agree that it wasn't nearly as great as we thought it'd be). No harm in having some exciting sexual thoughts, even if you don't want to share them with your girlfriend. If you think she might be open to hearing your ideas (even if she wouldn't want to act on them), sometimes it's fun just to share fantasies (even if you know they probably won't come true). It's fun to bring your partner into fantasies, and even just saying "I think it'd be really hot to ____" can spice up your sex life (even if the sex never changes). It can be hard for a lot of girls to open up sexually, especailly since there is so much from society telling us to be prudes, but if she's been opening up then that seems to mean that she has a long way to go and will go that way with you, which is something great to look forward to. In the meantime, what if you bring in a new partner without actually bringing someone in? You could put on some porn (and that will give the effect of being with someone else) or even try recording or taking pictures (sort of like someone watching you). If you're feeling excited in other ways, you could leave the windows open with the hopes that a neighbor (even a stranger) might hear you two. There are always more public places (cars or movie theaters are nice) to fullfill some voyeristic tendencies. It's all about baby steps with what you both feel comfortable with, and there is PLENTY to keep yourselves occupied. -- Posted by steven7 at 7:14 pm on Sep. 10, 2008 jenny, you always make the best replys -- Posted by JennyColada at 11:00 am on Sep. 11, 2008 Haha, thanks. Was it helpful though? -- Posted by steven7 at 11:02 am on Sep. 11, 2008 oh yeah, even if we never do have one, just kinda "pillow talk" about can spice it up even. you deffinately helped -- Posted by JennyColada at 11:10 am on Sep. 11, 2008 Yea, definitely! Before me and my boyfriend had ours (we had our first only a few days ago) we LOVED just talking about it, saying what we'd do, talking about the types of women we find attractive, it was great, and in some ways almost better than the threesome itself! -- Posted by Wolfmanjack at 10:39 pm on Sep. 11, 2008 Quote: from steven7 at 9:01 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Of course. every guy has this fantasy of a threesome. Well lately i have been wanting one alot. Now, i have a girlfriend and i would never do anything to wrong her "never cheated never will". Been together a while now, but shes not that sexually exciting. She is very shy and selfconcious. Yet she enjoys it. Kinda confusing. I don't know, maybe i just want some spice in the sack but i cant help but think about how awesomely hot it would be to be get one her hot friends in on things. Are you serious about this relationship? -- Posted by Doghouse at 10:47 pm on Sep. 11, 2008 weed + liquor -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 8:32 am on Sep. 12, 2008 every guy has this fantasy of a threesome My guy said 'no' to a threesome. Sex is an intimate thing, to him, and it's with one person, and one person only, at a time. -- Posted by steven7 at 10:37 am on Sep. 12, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 10:32 am on Sep. 12, 2008 every guy has this fantasy of a threesome   My guy said 'no' to a threesome. Sex is an intimate thing, to him, and it's with one person, and one person only, at a time. i agree, which is why it is a fantasy. If the chance came along i wouldn't be able to do it. But that doesn't stop me from wondering about. -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 11:34 am on Sep. 12, 2008 I agree, which is why it is a fantasy. But it's not EVERY guy's fantasy, as you implied. He hasn't ever thought about it. Even in his mind, sex is a one person at a time thing. -- Posted by steven7 at 11:40 am on Sep. 12, 2008 ok well let's not take everything so litteral, Maybe 5% of guys haven't thought about it -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 11:42 am on Sep. 12, 2008 ok well let's not take everything so litteral, Maybe 5% of guys haven't thought about it Let's just not generalize/stereotype, and then we won't have a problem. Don't put a statistic to things you cannot know, babydoll. -- Posted by steven7 at 11:44 am on Sep. 12, 2008 did i say it was a true statistic, did i say that it was fact, no, quit being so nit picky over basically nothing -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 11:47 am on Sep. 12, 2008 did i say it was a true statistic, did i say that it was fact, no, quit being so nit picky over basically nothing It's a statistic, none the less. A hypothesis, more than a statistic. I'm not being nit picky. I'm being honest. And it's not 'basically nothing'. It's an important thing. Again, don't stereotype, and don't generalize, and we wont' have a problem. Nor will you, in life. -- Posted by fhsyearbook1 at 12:00 pm on Sep. 12, 2008 lol just do what my bf did to get me interested in sex he started slowly turning me on while we were in public and he didn't do it all the time just everyonce in a wile. slowly i got used to sex now i am up for almost anything just like that i still don't do anal or bondage tho