-- Posted by Kealin 123 at 10:00 am on Sep. 9, 2008 today i'm feeling soo down, like u know when u just realize something and it hurts..idk i always thought i was hot to guys and that i was at least somewhat attractive, but then i see that everybody whos attractive has all these guy friends and i've never really even talked to a guy that way in several months, i've never even had a guy as a friend or sticking around to be there for me.. i've had 2 boyfriends in my entire life and i'm 18...and a virgin. i never thought about this and it makes me sad and feel like i'm lacking in something and i guess it's confidence, and it makes me feel ugly and mediocre...   i guess i'm not who i thought i was -- Posted by GoodFairy13 at 10:02 am on Sep. 9, 2008 You probably are. If you had confidence once its easy to get back. Its even harder if you've never had it at all. -- Posted by La Motta at 10:04 am on Sep. 9, 2008 Who cares what others think? As long as you, yourself know that you're "attractive"? -- Posted by dragonking at 10:04 am on Sep. 9, 2008 Try and be more positive.  I understand how you feel. -- Posted by Mattie17 at 10:04 am on Sep. 9, 2008 i lack in confidence too. It sucks. you will be fine and you will be so happy soon -- Posted by Just Waiting Here at 10:11 am on Sep. 9, 2008 Maybe it's your confidence, or maybe you're looking for the right person.  Everyone makes friends and boyfriends/girlfriends differently.  Some people just hang out with a large group of people that they call friends.  But are any of them really CLOSE friends?  Not necessarily. Other people have a few friends, but all of them are extremeley close. Then there are people like me that sit there and wait for people to talk to me first :P.  I don't take the initiative, and because of that, I don't make friends unless they say something to me beforehand. So part of it can be from your attitude, but I don't think appearance would have any role on your ability to make friends with guys.  If it's something that truly bothers you, then change it.  You may not change over night, but you may find it's not so difficult.  If you have a friend that has friends that are guys, then you may easily be able to make a friend through another friend... I wouldn't be depressed about it... instead, look towards how you want to change it and what you may be able to do :).  You may find that starting a simple conversation with someone in a class over a homework assignment might get you somewhere... who knows.