-- Posted by decoyyydown at 9:55 am on Sep. 15, 2008 night i was about to tell the dad (my kinda bf...more like friends with benefits) that i was pregnant, but right as i went to say "i'm pregnant" he inturrupted me & told me he's leaving me for another girl, and that he's glad i didn't "get pregnant or anything" while we were together.   -- Posted by Energizer Bunny at 9:55 am on Sep. 15, 2008 Sounds like a typical dramatic movie script -- Posted by Dont Notice Me at 9:56 am on Sep. 15, 2008 sucks for him -- Posted by ManiacPenguins at 9:56 am on Sep. 15, 2008 You need to tell him, and then tell his new GF. Because, he does still have to pay for everything... Well, unless you decide to get an abortion. -- Posted by hooray for rootbeer at 9:56 am on Sep. 15, 2008 Oh man, that must be really hard.  I'm sorry.  If you want to talk to me, just PM me and I'd be glad to try my best to help.  I'm a good listener.  :] -- Posted by IceTeaEdwin at 9:56 am on Sep. 15, 2008 Tsk tsk tsk...well, get suited up cuz it's gonna be one hell of a ride! :D Have fun with it or you'll go crazy ^-^ -- Posted by MiNNiCK at 9:56 am on Sep. 15, 2008 So why didn't you tell him right then? I would have corrected him and stuck it to him. You shouldn't have let him do that...he's going to be a dick now forever with your baby. -- Posted by LadyAlice18 at 9:56 am on Sep. 15, 2008 cliche -- Posted by MushroomSatsujin at 9:56 am on Sep. 15, 2008 Tell him. -- Posted by decoyyydown at 9:58 am on Sep. 15, 2008 i'm definitely not getting an abortion for the record. but i'm not even sure if i want my kids to have him as a father because he's definitely not a good guy. -- Posted by nikki at 9:59 am on Sep. 15, 2008 You need to tell him - he's responsible to you and your unborn child, and you can't let him off the hook just because you don't want to tell him. It's hard, sure, but he has a duty as a father to this baby, and he deserves to know even if you plan on having an abortion. -- Posted by FuckUnikka at 10:07 am on Sep. 15, 2008 Well, did you tell him?? -- Posted by Natsy at 10:07 am on Sep. 15, 2008 you're screwed... -- Posted by Angel Star at 10:14 am on Sep. 15, 2008 tell him u have something very important to tell him and meet him in a place where he cant kick off and then tell him he has responsibility's now and he cant not take the responsibility's. And I'm glad you are not getting an abortion that is the worst thing in life to do :( -- Posted by dunebug at 11:41 am on Sep. 15, 2008 Normally I think that it's important to give the father a say, but in the case where he's abusive or the relationship is unhealthy, I think that you have to put your safety and the safety of your child in front of "fairness" of him knowing. If you've decided that he's not going to be a good influence in your life or not likely to be a healthy, quality father then it may honestly be best not to tell him at all, as even if you did, it sounds like you would be seeking full custody and no visitation rights for him. Being a single mother is scary but certainly do-able. You may be better off forging that path for now. -- Posted by Chiefette at 11:49 am on Sep. 15, 2008 You should have told him right there.  He won't believe you now.  You need to go to a doctor and get confirmation that you are pregnant to show him.  Then you need to get him for child support if you are going to keep the baby.  Medical expenses as well, even if you are giving the baby up.  If you are choosing abortion.  Make him pay for it. -- Posted by musicdreamer26 at 7:00 pm on Sep. 15, 2008 Quote: from decoyyydown at 12:58 pm on Sep. 15, 2008 i'm definitely not getting an abortion for the record. but i'm not even sure if i want my kids to have him as a father because he's definitely not a good guy. You could at least make him pay child support. You'll probably need the help, kids are expensive. -- Posted by swtpie at 9:00 pm on Sep. 15, 2008 You should tell him. He might not believe you though, and might think you're just saying it to trap him. Tell him. -- Posted by nikki at 6:14 am on Sep. 16, 2008 Quote: from decoyyydown at 5:58 pm on Sep. 15, 2008 but i'm not even sure if i want my kids to have him as a father because he's definitely not a good guy. Then you should have thought of that before sleeping with him. You need to tell him - he's the father and he has responsibilities, regardless of what you want, you owe it to your child. -- Posted by 1ofakind at 11:49 am on Sep. 17, 2008 Well you really need to tell him that your preg. even if he is leaving you.