-- Posted by jaybiggs at 10:51 am on Sep. 25, 2008 Okay, so my boyfriend's best friend's girlfriend (it makes sense, trust me. Haha) thinks she's pregnant. She's 3 months late, she's having morning sickness and she's tired all the time (which is not like her). She's too scared to take a test (she's 17) because she's pretty sure of what it's going to say. Okay, so, she told her bf (obviously) and he told my boyfriend (since they're best friends) and my bf told me. Now, we all pretty much know. Not just me and bf, but like..our whole group of friends. But nobody wants to say anything, even though she knows we know. But, here's the thing, me and her are like..pretty much the only 2 girls in our circle of friends..and I have a feeling I should say something to her. Not because she's pregnant (most likely) but because, even though she thinks she is, she continues to drink/smoke/smoke weed/take bars/pop other random pills. And, if she is pregnant, that is seriously hurting the baby..so I feel like I should say something, but I don't know if I should or not. Should I? Sorry if it's confusing, but if you understood what I'm trying to say, any advice would be greatly appreciated. -- Posted by Jadien at 10:52 am on Sep. 25, 2008 Say something. -- Posted by punkypanda at 10:53 am on Sep. 25, 2008 nope i know its really retarded o me to say this but she can do what she wants with her child its completely wrong because shes ruining his/her life but its her choice shell regret it later though trust me -- Posted by gdeeaz at 10:53 am on Sep. 25, 2008 I personally would say something to either her boyfriend or her. -- Posted by GoodFairy13 at 10:54 am on Sep. 25, 2008 Save that baby! -- Posted by IceTeaEdwin at 10:55 am on Sep. 25, 2008 Say: ey bitch, wazup?  So liek...i herd u preggers, amirite?  you passed middle school right?  Cuz that's where you learn dem drugs make your baby a nono healthy baby. Or say: Soooooo...I don't want to sound like I'm intruding in your business but...I care about you as my friend and also about that child...drugs are killing him/her right now but not enough to kill it...per say...so um...if you plan to keep it, try to make it a healthy baby ok? :D -- Posted by acalypha at 11:03 am on Sep. 25, 2008 say something -- Posted by HoneyMonster at 11:30 am on Sep. 25, 2008 dont say anything overtly but try to have a converation about opinions on certain issues coz if she knows you know it will land her bf in the shit -- Posted by JennyColada at 12:02 pm on Sep. 25, 2008 I think that you feeling like you should say something to her is very admirable. I feel the same way when I heard that my boyfriend's ex may be pregnant. It was very important for me that he showed that he was supportive of her (even though the child wasn't his) and talked with her. It's a very scary time, and it can be very confusing. Talking to her and at least telling her that you understand and want her to make the right choices could go a long way. You could try talking to your boyfriend or her boyfriend to get input on how to go about it or when may be a good time. I think that you making an attempt to share your thoughts with her is a great idea, even if it doesn't work out as planned (like if she doesn't like your advice or gets angry) then you tried, and that really puts you on the high road in my eyes. Being faced with an unplanned pregnancy when you are young has a way of making you feel very alone, and having someone willing to reach out, even if just to offer some small advice, really could mean a lot to her, and I know it would have meant a lot to me when I was in her position. -- Posted by Shogun villimax at 12:19 pm on Sep. 25, 2008 You'v got to say something. Not just for thwe kid's sake but for HER'S as well! -- Posted by BeautifulLies82 at 3:36 pm on Sep. 25, 2008 Quote: from punkypanda at 10:53 am on Sep. 25, 2008 nope i know its really retarded o me to say this but she can do what she wants with her child its completely wrong because shes ruining his/her life but its her choice shell regret it later though trust me The court can actually forbid a women from drinking while pregnant. -- Posted by killer3mily at 9:26 am on Sep. 26, 2008 definatly say something