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-- Posted by jenjenpoo at 1:59 pm on Sep. 27, 2008
I posted this in TDR but got no replies. If you need more info just ask and i can say more. Sorry if it's not very "serious".. but this is a thing that really bugs me so id really appreciate if someone can tell me their views or advice. people tend to say "just wait for the right person to come along".. but my worry is that maybe im not normal with how little i like people? I don't develop crushes on people unless i know them for a period of time and see them a lot... is that normal? i dont just meet someone once and be all "omg!!!" about them. and not for a few times either. or even if we catch up for lunch. i like ppl maybe MONTHS after meeting them I dunno cos my friends and most people i know seem to just get together easily and like people a lot.... i dont.
sometimes i have little crushes but it doesnt mean anything.
BUT im worried because guys tend to ask you out on the spot or soon into meeting u, and if ur not interested then they lose interest right? or do you just try to be in a relationship with people that you sort of like and MIGHT like more?? ive been seeing a guy hoping that i'd like him more, its only been 2 weeks, and he seems really serious while i just dont feel that way but i dont feel that way about ANYONE unless i know them well or do most girls develop crushes faster than me?
i feel uncomfortable when the guy is obviously expecting something and i avoid them.. so i dont even become friends with them cos i feel awkward.
pleas reply thanks
-- Posted by KathyN at 2:28 am on Sep. 30, 2008
Hey! It depends on the girl herself. Some are like you (and me), others are fall in love with every boy they see... It's all normal... :)
-- Posted by PrincessLillaMarie at 2:32 pm on Oct. 2, 2008
It's okay to take it slow, and you are actually on a level that most girls wish they could be at in a sense of not feeling anything for a while. Yes, most just begin to like a girl early and some girls it takes time. Guys do not always ask you right on the spot, they will wait just like girls sometimes will. It is always good to take things at the level that you are right now because in all honesty, please rush into things way too fast these days. A girl will see a guy she likes and all of a sudden she's planning their wedding and they haven't even started dating yet. The word 'Love' is pretty much meaningless these days because of how freely it is used, and relationships mean nothing unless you are married, and sometimes, marriage is pushing it a bit to be honest. Most people would love to be able to be in the situation where they don't need to rush things and all they have to do is to take it slow and really know about the person before the feelings start and the relationship starts. You have more of an advantage, and your relationships will most likely last longer than most marriages do today because you aren't rushing into feeling anything and you are taking your time to get to know the person and then you truly know that you love the person, not just his exterior or the way he makes you feel. To answer a few of your questions, some people will enter a relationship simply because the other person likes them. Or simply because they think someone is hott. It really does happen more times than not. This is why I say that the idea of love and dating had become sort of like this memory of the past and now it is about two hott people hooking up and then breaking up a year latter. If you are worried about guys leaving you or not understanding you, explain to them why you do not want to date them. Explain that it is nothing against them, but you just like to take things slow and get to know them. They will respect you more for it in the end honestly. They may not see it then and there, but when they have been in a few relationships, they will think back and know what you mean. You don't have to avoid guys or run away from them, just when they ask you out, explain the truth. If they cannot respect you for that, then they really aren't worth dating in the first place. -PLM
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