-- Posted by Zdrav at 2:27 pm on Sep. 28, 2008 A couple of weeks ago, I asked this girl who was my friend if she wanted to go on a date. She said she was too busy at the time (she's pre-med, BTW), but I don't know, the vibe I got from her was that if she ever wanted to start seeing someone, I'd probably be up on the top of the list. So though I've moved on to other girls I'm interested in, I really do like this girl and would be ecstatic if we started seeing other some time later. Should I start to make myself scarce, and let her see me with other girls? Or should I keep hanging out with her as much as I can? -- Posted by peppermintchalk at 2:29 pm on Sep. 28, 2008 what do you wanna do? -- Posted by alastrxxna at 2:29 pm on Sep. 28, 2008 Keep hangin out with her as much as you can. You should understand that she really does not have that much extra time, and you guys probbaly hang out during most of it anyways. -- Posted by Raiku at 2:29 pm on Sep. 28, 2008 treat her like crap, shell love it -- Posted by twoifbysea at 2:31 pm on Sep. 28, 2008 If she sees you going out with other girls all the time, she's going to assume that you've moved on from her, and when she is free to date, she's not going to come to you. Let her know what you just told us - that when she decides she's got the time and she wants to go out with you later on, that you'd be ecstatic. -- Posted by nik1 at 1:40 pm on Sep. 29, 2008 The word date scares a lot of girls.  I am pre med too and I know the pressures but there are always gaps in time that are available. I would suggest that you start by asking her to meet you at a convenient restaurant for dinner.  Lunch or breakfast on weekends works well too.  She has to eat and it would give you a chance for some alone time without the one-on-one pressures of a DATE. -- Posted by Zdrav at 2:51 pm on Sep. 29, 2008 Should I try to find out if she's attracted to me? Subtly, of course. -- Posted by jennay at 11:15 pm on Sep. 29, 2008 try to get to know her as best you can without spending too much time with her so she doesnt feel smothered. if someone really likes you they'll be willing to make the effort to be with you, no matter how busy they are. but if youre not that close she cant like you but so much at this point. -- Posted by helloworld at 11:27 am on Oct. 23, 2008 The "I'm busy" line is nonsense. If she really wanted to she could make the time.