-- Posted by ajakana at 6:56 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 I need help I'm always having problems everyday today is my birthday I just turned 18 but I don't feel happy last month this guy I met used me for one thing and then he left me I got pregnant by him and he didn't believe me so I made myself miscarry, anyways I feel like turning lesbian because when I look back at my realtionships all the guys used me for one thing and I don't want to be used and hurt again should I turn lesbian? I really don't know I'm confused, guys always make me feel this way I don't think I will ever be happy with a man I have nobody to turn to about this and its a secret my mom doesn't know about it what do I do?. -- Posted by Irony at 6:57 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 You can't just snap your fingers and go lesbian. It doesn't work that way. -- Posted by Public Enemy 69 at 6:58 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 For girls it does. -- Posted by ilessthanthreeyouu at 6:58 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 Quote: from Irony at 6:57 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 You can't just snap your fingers and go lesbian. It doesn't work that way. What she said. You are gay or you're not. You don't get to choose. -- Posted by in love with no one at 6:58 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 You type with proper punctuation and and learn what a run-on sentence is and how to avoid them. And, you can't just make yourself be lesbian, duh! -- Posted by Chevy Jackson at 6:59 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 It sounds like you've been going for all the wrong guys. There are plenty of guys out there that actually care about relationships and things other than sex, but you just have to know where to look and what to look for. And if you don't want to be used, you can always SAY NO!! You don't have to put out, and if a guy leaves you because of it, then you know he wasn't the right guy. -- Posted by trinity14 at 7:00 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 not all guys r like dat just wait u will find the right guy -- Posted by m8ggi3 at 7:00 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 good god dont go les. -- Posted by moonandstars at 7:05 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 do you have attraction for females? and if you do choose to do that realize some girls might just use you for one thing -- Posted by im a girl wrestler at 7:10 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 You don't have to be dating someone to be happy, you can find ways to be happy on your own.  Not to mention if you do have a boyfriend you can say no, or if you choose not to then atleast make sure youre on some form of birth control.  You're 18, you shouldnt have any issues getting it.   And you dont just turn lesbian, like others have said, you are or you arent. Happy Birthday -- Posted by Jennyhynz7 at 7:23 pm on Sep. 30, 2008 congrats on ur bday sorry bout losin the boy & miscarryin but make did you make ur self miscarry? and its better sometimes to get in trouble and just tell ur mom... -- Posted by dodgegirl at 8:18 pm on Oct. 1, 2008 k you gotta stop sleeping around and then u wont get hurt!! -- Posted by BranMan at 8:18 pm on Oct. 3, 2008 Honestly, I think you should tell one of your parents or an adult you can trust what had happened. Some guys are only living for that one thing that they used you for. You try to find a guy that you can trust and that cares for you. Also, you could be less vulnerable and not have sex with every guy that you date. Before you start dating a guy, you should get to know him better and make sure that he doesn't just want that one thing. Plus, you can't just make yourself become lesbian. If you ever get pregnant again, you shouldn't purposely miscarry. Doing that is just wrong. I think it would be best though if you talk to your parents and they help you. If you need someone to talk to you can always message me. I hope you find somebody who cares for you!