-- Posted by scooziee11 at 6:33 am on Oct. 1, 2008 Right now i am at a good university. I hate it, im not the university type or a school type for that matter. Im only attneding a university becuase it is whats expected of me from my parents. But i am very unhappy and depressed here so i was thinking of going to a community college to get an associates degree. And if i want to further my education then go later. is this a bad idea? should i just be unhappy and strive my way through or go to community college. another question...my parents seem to think i cant get a decent job with an associates degree. any input on this? -- Posted by victoria6689 at 6:35 am on Oct. 1, 2008 just do what makes you happy. -- Posted by Satine at 6:39 am on Oct. 1, 2008 On the surface it is thought that uni is for an education. That's not really true; university or any live-in college is for social interaction. Think about it - you've lived with your parents for many years and had a lot of input from then on how to live life. That's a small basis on which to get all your knowledge about life, so as you grow to adulthood it's a good idea to seek inspiration about life elsewhere. That's where uni comes in. It's for learning how to live with others your age, how to make friends, how to socialise by yourself without having the 'rents to hide behind if things get tough. It's where you learn to drink, cook, keep your living space clean, balance your finances and do all these things that up until now your parents have done for you. So it's possible that you've misunderstood what uni really is about, because that's what it's really for. So keep at it for a while, give it a fair try. If you really feel in a couple of months that it really isn't for you, try somewhere else. Sometimes even a transfer to another uni can be helpful. -- Posted by scooziee11 at 6:44 am on Oct. 1, 2008 i would not be moving back with my parents if i were to go to community college. i have friends here and such, and i do just about evey event offered in my hall. so this is not the problem. Also, i dont have to balance my fiances becuase i get everything handed to me by my parents. Though i am greatful for this...call me crazy but i dont like it... -- Posted by Satine at 6:50 am on Oct. 1, 2008 Okay, what is it that isn't working for you? -- Posted by Duke at 6:52 am on Oct. 1, 2008 Quote: from Satine at 8:39 am on Oct. 1, 2008 So it's possible that you've misunderstood what uni really is about, because that's what it's really for. So keep at it for a while, give it a fair try. If you really feel in a couple of months that it really isn't for you, try somewhere else. Sometimes even a transfer to another uni can be helpful. Actually, you're the one who possibly misunderstands what uni is all about. The primary purpose of higher educational institutions is EDUCATION. That the education also entails some socialization experience does not make that the goal of the institution. Scooziee college/university is not for everyone. There's really no point to being there if you're not happy or taking advantage of the opportunity. You're wasting your parents money and your time. Take an honest assessment of why you're unhappy and then talk to your parents about it. Too many people talk about hating college, when in reality it's just a matter of wanting to be with some guy/girl back home, or because they're having no real social life at school. If your unhappiness really stems purely from being in college, then maybe your parents will let you leave. Of course, they can't do anything about your leaving, other than maybe cut you off financially. It's up to you whether that risk is worth it to you. Going to a community college works for some people. Whether you can get a job with an Associate Degree is going to depend on the particular employer and any requirements of the job you're trying to get. -- Posted by Satine at 6:56 am on Oct. 1, 2008 Of course you're meant to get an education there, but it's not the primary reason. I've seen people far worse off for having no social skills than having few educational skills. If you've got a crap education you can still find work. If you've got shit social skills... that can lead to a lot of unhappiness. -- Posted by Duke at 7:02 am on Oct. 1, 2008 Well, we must agree to disagree on this one. I think it's absurd to think that schools gather and spend millions of dollars just to give their students social skills as a priority over education. I somehow find your analysis ridiculous. I truly doubt that a nuclear engineering candidate is going to get a job at a nuclear power plant saying I flunked all my physics classes, but I have excellent social interaction skills. I'm qualified to be a neurosurgeon. I failed biology, anatomy, etc, etc, etc, but I have excellent marks in communal living, your roommates and you, and I know how to conduct myself in a bar. -- Posted by scooziee11 at 7:09 am on Oct. 1, 2008 i understand each of your views and i really appriciate your responses. i will give it great thought of why it is i am unhappy here. -- Posted by Satine at 7:14 am on Oct. 1, 2008 Of course, Duke, of course a cutting-edge education is well worth it, but social interaction is a constant part of our everyday lives. I think uni has great value as a place to begin to learn these things. Not exclusively, but it is a vital part of it. -- Posted by Duke at 7:32 am on Oct. 1, 2008 I learn socialization skills in my every day life, just living. I doubt that I'm going to learn anything about molecular engineering just from living life. I see thousands of schools offering degrees in History, Music, Biology, Math, Engineering, Sociology. I'm not aware of too many offering degrees in Advanced Socialization Techniques. Anyway, like I said; we shall agree to disagree on this one. It's not like it serves any purpose to continue to argue about it. -- Posted by MrIndigo at 1:40 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from scooziee11 at 6:33 am on Oct. 1, 2008 Right now i am at a good university. I hate it, im not the university type or a school type for that matter. Im only attneding a university becuase it is whats expected of me from my parents. But i am very unhappy and depressed here so i was thinking of going to a community college to get an associates degree. And if i want to further my education then go later. is this a bad idea? should i just be unhappy and strive my way through or go to community college. another question...my parents seem to think i cant get a decent job with an associates degree. any input on this? Obviously money isn't an issue for you. Do what you want then. However, in the future, when you don't make as much as the university graduates, please don't start begging for welfare.